to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

I know I'm not perfect, Dinosaur, but I'm very glad you are, love.

And what exactly is it that I need to do to get my own house in order insanity ?

Go on, fill yer boots, give me your best parenting tips.

I think, actually, that if a parent made a formal request to stop giving out sweets as birthday treats, then because of the healthy eating initatives, many schools would give their backing.
If not, what are you so scared of,?

I'm not perfect, I just don't need to project my issues on to other people. I take responsibility for me and my family, I don't expect other people to do it for me.

Whoa.
Good.
So do I.
And that involves sticking my head above the parapet once in a while Dinosaur.

It wouldn't make any difference to me anyway because dd and ds don't eat sweets or chocolate so ban away. I just think that people should be allowed to parent the way they choose without having rules foisted upon them because of other parents preferences. There are things I don't allow that others do I don't see it as my right to press others to do as I do. You want a ban because you can't or won't ensure your dd doesn't have the sweets that are offered to me I think it is you that needs to act rather than the school that's all.

But seriously have you thought longterm? You might be able to police the sweets in primary but unless your dd learns to refuse them for her own sake then it will be a nightmare for you once she gets to an age where she has the freedom to buy and eat whatever she chooses.

Perhaps we'll just chuck the rule book out and go for survival of the fittest insanity.

Well I hope not seeing as three of mine have disabilities

They'll be utterly unable to cope insanity clearly since I'm teaching them nothing.

I think I will find her boiling up treacle for tea and snorting sherbert with rolled up fivers as soon as she turns 11.

Seriously.......I am teaching good choices,and all that jazz.

I had this daft notion though that we try to parent our children until they can make their own choices

Ah insanity - sorry x posted there.

It's not a world anyone would like

We do so they practise when small with you overseeing so that when they have the freedom they have the knowledge and skills to do it unaided. I don't think a ban would help your dd longterm I think having the opportunity to practise refusing things she shouldn't eat could work very well though.

So parent your children and stop trying to enforce your solution to a problem most people don't have.

Why don't YOU provide school with an alternative to sweets? Why don't YOU tell your DD to refuse sweets? Why don't YOU address the problem that YOU have with sweets instead of expecting school to police sweets for you?

Yes why is that? i'm interested too.

Ooh this thread just gave me a sugar craving :D

Off to search for some rainbow drops!

But we will fundamentally disagree on that one insanity.

There are plenty of unavoidable situations in which to practise refusal.

I think this is a particularly difficult and unecessary one for a younger child.

I can provide many alternative suggestions to sweets, as we all can I'm sure, if we care to.
I have covered the second point several times.
I don't have ishoos with sweets.
I police sweets at home.
School have healthy eating policies so it leads me to believe that they already willingly take on the role of 'policing' food choices to some degree.

I don't really get why you are so tbreatened.

If you are so sure that this isn't a problem, the school won't do it anyway.

I have no power there.

But do children really see sweets as irresistible? It's not been my experience at all excluding the ones who have autism and don't eat them anyway. I hardly ever bought sweets for the older ones, they never asked and they certainly wouldn't ever have bought them with their pocket money. But then again sweets and chocolates aren't a big deal to me either, I never crave them, rarely eat them so maybe it's a family thing.

If the best argument you can come up with is telling other posters who disagree with you to "fuck off", I've clearly hit a nerve...

The truth hurts.

No you have shown yourself up Dinosaur by being so utterly offensive and personal despite my posts which show the efforts I go to as a parent.

Don't flatter yourself.

Well for dd birthday sweets hasn't been the only sweets handed out (and it's a healthy school whatever that means) There were the sweets in Big Write, chocolate taste test in maths when exploring graphs and Venn diagrams, chocolate and ice cream and toffee in science when exploring melting points and whether they return to their original forms, sweets for Hanukah and Eid and when doing topics on India and war rationing and more that I've forgotten. Add those to the school giving chocolate for Easter and Christmas, the chocolate and sweet treats in the dip box and Tesco giving all children an Easter egg each year then really it would be better for you to teach dd how to refuse.

the efforts I go to as a parent

Err, what by wanting birthday sweets banned by schools because you find saying no difficult.

She refuses plenty.
But I have outlined the reasons why I think its unecessary for her to be put in that position at the end of school insanity.

I will say again just to reiterate.

Bad teeth and weight issues have stigma attached, as they are associated with bad diet and discipline.
If a child at school is put in a position of having to say no in front of their peer group, kids want to know why.
It just opens up a route for teasing, even bullying taken to extremes.

Since sweets after school aren't necessary it seems to be so completely avoidable.

That is apparently what makes me such a bad bastard and what all this fuss is about.

Dinosaur I thought I had made it clear that I no longer wish to engage with you.