to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

blackberry playing up again...

I suppose whatever is havded out as a 'treat' can be viewed as unsuitable/offensive or unsuitable. Sweets, plastic tat, horrid henry anything (awful books), stinky pencils... I had a child bite through a glo-stick that was in a party bag (yes, he was old enough to know better) and had to rifle through the bins to find the packets to make sure it wasn't poisonous.

I had a couple of JWs in my class at school. I suppose if their parents could have asked for all party invites, birthday cakes, party bags etc be banned because their kids couldn't join in and technically, kids don't 'need' cake, novelties, cards etc.

I agree.If DD comes out from school with a sweet she now knows to put it straight in the bin. I don't want my kids to eat sweets other than when I allow it (almost never).

There isn't a stigma in receiving the occasional sweet.

The issues appear to be your issues about saying no and what other people might think. That certaintly doesn't mean we have to ban a child handing out sweets once a year.

Give the school something you are happy for her to have for them to give when others bring the oh so nasty sweets

I think it's more that you don't want to have to say no to your child so would like to enforce a no on the whole school instead. I would say it's better to become accustomed to saying no to your child now as there will be plenty of occasions when you are going to have to in future when other parents say yes. Current nos in this house for dd are a mobile phone and membership to MSP. I'm well aware that some of her friends have one or both but I won't allow dd just yet (MSP probably never tbh) my response to dd is always "yes they may be allowed but I'm not their mother" perhaps you could say the same to your child.

I didn't say that Chipped.
I said there are stigmas attached to being overweight/ having rotten teeth, because, as well illustrated on this thread, people associate them with bad choices and poor discipline.

I have explained that I am not there at school pick up.I have no issues with 'no'.Do you think I never have to say 'no' passing a sweetie shop?!!

This is not to do with 'a' child handing out sweets once a year.

If you don't get it I suppose there is nothing I can do but ask for a ban, since there's apparently no point appealing to people's good nature.

I give up.

Now I am apparently incapable of saying no.

But if you told your child that they aren't allowed them whether you are there or not shouldn't make a difference should it?

I think the bigger picture here is that some people don't like rules that they don't agree with because the issues don't affect them.

Which is why, of course we need rules.

If they take them despite you having said they weren't allowed then you need to work on your child being disobedient I would think.

If they take them despite you having said they weren't allowed then you need to work on your child being disobedient

Ffs the human body has evolved to crave fat and sugar.

insanity we have been through all of this -there are other factors at play than just saying no.

If I want your parenting advice I'll ask for it.

Last time I looked Bloodywoman giving out cig's to minors would be illegal, giving out haribo is not

I Think insanity has summed it up. You have issues around sweets so tell your child to refuse them.

But you seem to want to dictate to other parents and what they can allow their child. Well for me autism is at play when I say no, I still say no despite meltdowns that would take your breath away.

We have sweets left from Christmas and Easter, they might well go in the bin at some point because my DC's aren't bothered about them.

I would never ban them completely as it would make a problem where there isn't one.

Everything in moderation.

Good finally a reasonable answer to one of my questions.

What a good thing that rules were made to stop children smoking, eh?

Same here Chipped

I am not dictating.
I would ask for a ban.
Its up to the school and governors to decide their position.

Have you ever smoked? I was addicted for years, I can safely say that as an adult I am not and have never been addicted to bloody haribo! I dont eat sweets at all really thinking of it but did as a child it's a non argument and a terrible comparison

My dentist has issues round sweets.
I fucking love sweets myself but I recognise the damage they are causing my daughter and others.

Yes I was addicted to smoking for years.

I find nicotine cravings and sugar cravings are both very real tbh.

You clearly have issues around smoking and sweets, it doesn't mean everyone else shares your problems.

Provide an alternative they can give to your daughter rather than the sweets, problem solved.

So tell your daughter no, get your dentist to support you and ask for a ban if you have to. But I would say that any schools my dc have attended would tell you to get your own house in order rather than trying to dictate to everyone else because sweets for birthdays occasionally aren't seen as a big deal to the majority.