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to wish children at school didn't bring sweets in for the whole class on the birthday

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brt100 · 01/06/2014 10:50

Dn seams to always be coming home with sweets, I just think it should be up to the parents to decide on these things, I would be livid. Should the school ban this?

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MiniatureRailway · 01/06/2014 11:01

I like it and always reciprocate. Bit of a treat for the children isn't it?

Goblinchild · 01/06/2014 11:01

In this case, you are fussing about a niece or a nephew, are their parents as concerned as you, or are you collecting helpful advice to give them on obesity and sweet-eating?

Bowlersarm · 01/06/2014 11:03

Sweets aren't the only fun thing - just a small part of a child's birthday celebrations. What a weird way of thinking.

RazzleDazzleEm · 01/06/2014 11:03

My DD only occasionally like once or twice a month if that comes back with a tiny packet of sweets and she loves its, she is so happy and excited....its so sweet.

Not every parent sends sweets in, I don't because I cant be bothered.

One packet of sweets is not going to make a fat child.

Honeslty, I hope you are not transferring all this onto your child because you will create an eating issue.

My child self regulates she is 6.

she knows when she has had enough and she knows sweets are not good for you, she wants to eat well. she will not gorge.

I hope I have helped to establish good eating habits because we have been balanced about sweets and not made a huge fuss of it...

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SauvignonBlanche · 01/06/2014 11:04

YABU, it can't be every day.

DuchessFanny · 01/06/2014 11:05

All the children in my DCs classes do this. It's lovely, a special thing to do to mark their day.
If one of my DC come out with a cake or something, they have that but nothing else sweet that day ( unless it's small, I just use my judgement really ... )
DS3 took cakes in for his birthday last week and was SO excited about treating his friends.

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/06/2014 11:05

You really need to get out more or perhaps read a newspaper and find a bigger issue to concern yourself with.

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 01/06/2014 11:06

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TheReluctantCountess · 01/06/2014 11:07

Ds loves it when all get a sweet when it's someone's birthday or someone has been away. It's usually one little sweet, not a massive thing.

CoffeeTea103 · 01/06/2014 11:07

Brt my point exactly! You posted about your niece eating sweets previously, ffs stop being so obsessed about eating. If you have issues you need to not project them.

WTFlike · 01/06/2014 11:07

What is "Coffee Society"?

TheFairyCaravan · 01/06/2014 11:07

There's, what 28 kids in a class, so they can't "always be coming home with sweets" unless you have a very short school year!

MrsBungle · 01/06/2014 11:07

My dd is in reception and her birthday is not until the summer. She can't wait to take in sweets or lollies or some such thing for her classmates. They all love it and it's skways just a small treat like a mini bag of haribos. I see no problem with it at all.

Sparklingbrook · 01/06/2014 11:07

It's fine. It's a nice thing to do. We used to do fun size chocolate bars because I know people can be a bit dramatic over a sweets.

marne2 · 01/06/2014 11:09

It's not very often sweets are brought in at our school, most of the parents make cake Grin, I have sent in cupcakes for dd2s birthday and dd1 requested brownies. I don't see a problem with it unless there is a child who can eat sugar or has a gluten intolerance.

Original poster
brt100 · 01/06/2014 11:09

You could just try replying to the topics I post without attempting petty character assisinaton , but hey if throwing insults at me makes you feel better..

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Birdsgottafly · 01/06/2014 11:10

Hand make boxes (you can get cheap kits), fill them with the sweets, then when your children (or you) are honoured with an invite to a party/event, you can turn up with a prezzie and smile on your face, like you're supposed to.

Then dance your fat away!

trixymalixy · 01/06/2014 11:13

It's not allowed at my DS's school. Partly due to healthy eating and partly due to the number of children with allergies who won't be able to eat cake or those who can't eat Haribo etc for religious reasons.

Alisvolatpropiis · 01/06/2014 11:15

Ok then OP - yabu and need to chill out, possibly get a hobby.

Nocomet · 01/06/2014 11:19

It's a nice thing to do, it's often the only occasion the less popular DCs in the class are included.

Timeforabiscuit · 01/06/2014 11:20

I'd rather a small sweet than bubbles that spill, bouncey balls that get lost or a pencil that just seems joyless.

FunnyFoot · 01/06/2014 11:20

If you don't want your child to have the sweets then inform the school that they should not be given to him. Simple.
That way you can control what your child's eating but it still allows the rest of the class to enjoy the treat.

dottytablecloth · 01/06/2014 11:21

Kids love sweeties! It's part of being a child and as long as they have a healthy foods for the majority of the time, it's no problem.

You are being rather silly and U.

Sparklingbrook · 01/06/2014 11:21

Or just get your child to say thank you then chuck them in the bin when you get home.