Aibu to thing she's a bad mother when I don't know her ??.

[Kitty18]

I never judge anyone cos I think that's just wrong but there's a mum in the baby groups I go to about four . She's got a toddler and a newborn her mother comes to help as well but it always seems she's never with her toddler just her baby and today she was with the other young babies mums bit of the group and her toddler climb on a chair t
So he can see his mum then run towards her but in sec she ushered her mum over to get him . I think that's really bad I would never do that . What do you all think ? Am I bang on or just being a bitch

You shouldn't dish it out if you can't take it and it appears there is a script for when the OP starts off being like a cow and then is pulled up on it they trot out I'm dyslexic, depressed, etc etc.

This was me two years ago, toddler and newborn and nothing obviously wrong, while my mum ran around after the toddler and did all nappy changes for both.

But i was in extreme pain and didnt know why, thought it was just side effects of two babies in less than two years. Turns out i was actually ill. Now i have two toddlers and am pretty much in a wheelchair.

So yes, yabu.

I never judge anyone cos I think that's just wrong

That's crap!

Even those who say they never judge, always judge, it's just some of us are honest about it!

'Judging' means having an opinion. We all have opinions although some never voice them and some (like me) are happy to admit we have viewpoints on things.

allaboveboard, I had read the thread, thanks. Nice to be considered 'one of those fuckers' (charming) by Maryz, although I note she hasn't accused me if not reading it.

(((Kitty)))
It's tough being the eldest child and I can see why you felt for the toddler.

Ah....OP only has one child. Someone on another forum judged my parenting when I had newborn & toddler and she just had newborn. She now has two and is seeing things differently :). It's not your fault OP, you just don't know what it's like till you've been there. But yes you are BU for calling anyone a bad mother. I know you've taken it back but can you imagine if that mother read your OP?! She'd be devastated.

But how would she ever know? That must be a typical scene played out in many toddler groups all around the country. The op didn't make any potentially identifying and very judgy comments like 'was wearing pink velour jogging bottoms', did she?

Liberty wow I can't spell yeah my writeing shit but I bet I make more in a week then your ever see ( now that was me being a bitch) I know she's a bad mother typical only likening when there newborns type

I am curious about how you manage to earn loads of money, yet still go to toddler groups and be such a super mum!

Do you have to carry a mobile phone with you at all time and nip out of the room to answer it?

has commited heinous crime of not rtft so nyer

@ beyond

No Joys that is not what judging means in this context

It's not your fault OP, you just don't know what it's like till you've been there

Are we not getting a little bit too carried away with the 'it's not your fault' stuff?

I can't see that either PND or having a single child are a free pass to spout vitriol and claim it is beyond your control.

vitriol

???

There's been more anti-op vitriol spraying around, than was ever evident in the op's 1st and subsequent posts, imo.