Aibu to thing she's a bad mother when I don't know her ??.

[Kitty18]

I never judge anyone cos I think that's just wrong but there's a mum in the baby groups I go to about four . She's got a toddler and a newborn her mother comes to help as well but it always seems she's never with her toddler just her baby and today she was with the other young babies mums bit of the group and her toddler climb on a chair t
So he can see his mum then run towards her but in sec she ushered her mum over to get him . I think that's really bad I would never do that . What do you all think ? Am I bang on or just being a bitch

What?

Where did you get lost pag?

I don't know. It's so confusing.

Me either Maryz.

I must try harder.

I happen to have seen the million pound chair in eureka! not actually filled with money but who needs to know

I can recommend some of oldgrandmamas entertaining (soothing? ) underwear themed anecdotes on the KM knicker thread

Don't get smug with me Maryz I capitalized for you!

Frigging hell I feel like I'm in some sort of alternative universe

I actually think this thread has got out of hand a bit now and it's becoming just bullying towards the OP. Plenty of the responses have typos/spelling/grammatical errors but no-one is jumping on those the way the OP's errors are being mocked. She has already said she is dyslexic, which at least partly explains it.

As for the initial AIBU - yes you are. Chances are the toddler dominates the majority of this mothers time and you are only seeing a snapshot of their lives.

Nevermind OP will soon be back to make all clear

The mother has specifically arranged 1:1 attention for each child and you want to criticise her for it? I've heard it all now .

Has it occurred to you that toddler group is Granny's much longed for weekly chance to bond & play with her elder grandchild and Mum's chance to have a natter & a sit down? Or would you prefer it if Mum stayed home and Granny went elsewhere with the toddler for a couple of hours lest the happy family group be judged?

To quote my son "Just cos you don't get on with your Mum, doesn't mean there's a problem with mine!".

ffs get over yourself and concentrate on your own parenting - as it is I think you need to broaden your horizons from your current narrow view point just a tad about what constitutes a healthy well adjusted extended family.

Perhaps the time spent with a sucky lemon face could be better utilised on developing your literacy skills before your own child hits school age? Many colleges now provide creche facilities. After all, you wouldn't want other Mums pointing their fingers right back at ya - would you?

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It got bullying NOW? What since the OT stuff?

I have a learning disability that means I can't spell or manage punctuation ...I google and spell check and if I cock up I shrug and get on with it

the OP is not dyslexic and she has not been bullied

Bullying?
Really ?

Strangely I have never heard the phrase 'bad mother' used with good intent about someone about whom there could reasonably be genuine concern.

Back to this money issue, I just want to clarify, are we talking amount of actual money in the bank or just physical volume? I ask this because when I was very young I collected coppers in a jar and I had so many that one bonne maman jar wasn't enough. Have I won?

I'm looking at threads I'm on and its bloody mad!

usuallsuspect pipe down old man at least you get a free bus pass

Ive had lots to drink again. I'm watching wolf on wall street and drinking rose.
It's been an odd day.

And can they be in currency that has long since been replaced by the Euro? Because I think I've got quite a few centimes somewhere...

I once held a cheque for £147 million.