Aibu to thing she's a bad mother when I don't know her ??.

[Kitty18]

I never judge anyone cos I think that's just wrong but there's a mum in the baby groups I go to about four . She's got a toddler and a newborn her mother comes to help as well but it always seems she's never with her toddler just her baby and today she was with the other young babies mums bit of the group and her toddler climb on a chair t
So he can see his mum then run towards her but in sec she ushered her mum over to get him . I think that's really bad I would never do that . What do you all think ? Am I bang on or just being a bitch

Omg pagwatch I think you beat me. Although technically, a cheque is merely a piece of paper (or card if it's one of those fancy pants giant cheques, unlike my cold hard copper cash.

Does it need to be money we have actually physically seen? Or does the money that come into my bank account and goes straight out again count?
Did you know, the queen is 'only' 3hundred and something on the Times rich list (actually it may have been 2hundred), so there are many far richer people.

Oh and op you are being unreasonable although I secretly judge people all the time

I'm not allowed to play monopoly anymore.

Yes - you win mindthegap.

OP when I had my second child I left the older one to play with grandma if she was there because I spent the rest of the week trying to balance DD in one arm while DS clung on to me demanding my undivided attention.

I take it your child is still very young and you haven't had weeks where all you've heard is toddler babble? there were times when the highlight of my week was the 30 seconds conversation with the cashier in Sainsburys.

As for the dyslexia, i am severely dyslexic and have been on MN for ages, people are picking on you because you are being judgy and superior, people are understanding 99% of the time but once you start throwing around how much you earn and calling people a bad mother you may as well have typed 'please pull me up on every mistake/badly written post I ever make as I deserve it'

I think the way the op worded her post detracted from the fundamental thrust of it, which I understood to be about her sadness at seeing a toddler who wanted his mum, being ushered away, with no apparent attempt by said mum to interact with him. Maybe op thought grandma could have held the baby for a while, so mum could give the toddler a cuddle?

Use of the phrase 'a bad mother' was obviously ill-judged. It's an awful thing to propose on the basis of what the op observed. However, I too sometimes feel sad when I see older dc learning the hard way that they no longer have the undivided love and attention of their parents, mostly because it reminds me of the times when I could have dealt more sympathetically with my own oldest ds, when I had a newborn, and he played up because he just wanted me back.

Well if we're allowed to include monopoly money that's a whole different ball game.

at usualsuspectt not being a male OAP. I've had the wrong impression for years.

I never judge anyone cos I think that's just wrong but

Anytime you have to follow something up with "but" the first part of the sentence is usually untrue. You don't judge, but you're judging a mom that because she isn't doting over her toddler 24/7.

Some people actually like to have a life outside their kid's. Are you sure the toddler is hers and not a nephew she watches? I generally don't go out shopping with DD, I leave her at home with someone. What's so bad about that?

On second thoughts, I'm thinking maybe it should be 'eldest ds'? Any pedants out there?

Kitty, your opening post was shocking, judgey, bitchy. Your follow up posts have had me cringing for you.

You have cocked up. I suggest you apologise and admit you were wrong, and genuinely try to stop being so nasty (image of a mum, eyes narrowed, brow furrowed, as another poor mother of a new born and toddler just tries her fucking best!).

Or

You just leave the thread with your tail between your legs.

Mrsruff, there is no excuse for this kind of judgey nonsense.

The mother of a newborn and a toddler is on a different planet to everyone else. I was there, not so long ago. To have someone, like the lovely kitty, throwing around accusations of 'bad mother' could really knock you sideways.

Witnessing an hour of someone's mote thing style is in no way indicative of their whole approach to mothering. It could be that she sets aside the toddler group for her mother to take on the toddler, whilst she focuses on the newborn, because usually it is the other way around. Who know! But it sure as hell isn't up to people like kitty to be judging her.

I once saw enough cold hard cash (bank notes) to pay off my mortgage 3 times over (at that time I still had 22 years to go in paying it off). It was Christmas in a supermarket cash office. It would have been Christmas in my bank account if I'd made off with it!!

My parents live in Indonesia... I'm a millionaire when I visit them. Do I win?

mrsruffdiamond (love the name BTW), if you have more than two DSs then you would be correct to say "oldest" or "eldest". If you have only two, then it's "older" or "elder".

THE HORROR!!!

"Mother always with her newborn baby"

Stop the presses,this is a real shocker, just imagine, a mum, WITH her new little baby All The Time. what is the world coming to?

Lol, you guys!

I was going to just leave it but I'd give it one more try the term bad mum was wrong its right that I can't write and I was being childish about about money am 23 not 18 I've got a 16 month old I was being just thinking of the wee boys face

Fair enough op. Have a - we now know you are old enough

I got deleted!!!! That's a first. Do I get a badge?

Ah so you don't have a clue about juggling a toddler and a newborn then?

Read your OP back, give your head a wobble and have a

You get a sticker schmoo (budget cuts) and you have to colour it in yourself.

Well hopefully the mum spends time with the boy at home. I expect she is exhausted facing sleepless nights and just needing a break which is why shes asked her mum to look after the eldest at play group. However it is normal for a mother to bond, breast feed and be the main cater of a new baby. This possibly means that the elder child spends a little bit more time with others.

Surely...SURELY anyone who has been in outer space and seen the earth has therefore seen all the money on it? Tenuous I know but whichever poster is an astronaut wins the money competition