Childminder criticised my parenting

[PrincessMummy13]

My 11 month old DD recently started at a childminders when I returned to work. Have known childminder for years, she is lovely and my DD is always happy to see her and happy when I pick her up.
However when I picked DD she asked to have a word as she had a couple of issues.
She has said I don't dress my girl appropriately for the setting and for her development. I like to dress my DD nicely in pretty, girly dresses and little cardigans, she looks so cute in them.
The childminder said that my DD is often too cold and the dresses get in the way when DD is rolling round on the floor etc.
She suggested I keep the frilly dresses for parties and put DD in leggings and tops for her house.
She then went on to say the food I give to DD is not really appropriate either. She said I give her too much sugary and salty foods and not enough lumps.
She said she only has my DD's interests at heart and she was really worried about saying something as she didn't want to attack me.
WWYD?

Excellent. Now it'll turn into another CM bashing thread. Well done OP.

Jaysus. You would have gotten lots of helpful advice had you posted as you. Instead you have wasted peoples time and gotten their backs up.

Hmm. I think you need to say something then OP, but don't expect it to go well.

Everyone I know gives their babies Cheerios for snacks. They're small, crunchy, and heart healthy.

My DD is only 7 weeks. I suspect I'll be back here in a few months asking for snack and meal recommendations for her.

I hate reverses. Pointless & a bit attention seeking.

You know, reverses really piss people off.

Our reactions are not going to help you. We are disinterested parties, not the parent you are going to tell isnt dressing or feeding their child properly. Doesnt matter how right you are, they may still be angry and upset.
its not personal to us, so we dont really care.
iD be careful how you put it, tbh.
ask focertain clothes "as well because we are doing x, y, z"

print off easy recipes and hand them out as part of some service to all your parents, easy cook recipes for busy parents type of thing.

Wasn't there a very very easy cooking thread for those who can't cook not that long ago?

Might be worth a look, op.

Huh!?

Why didn't you start a thread asking 'WIBU to say this' you would have got more helpful responses about how to go about it.
You have wasted out time trying to help with healthy meal ideas!

Strange.

This has pissed me right off!!

Sorry I wasn't intending to annoy anyone.

I usually find when I post as me I get hardly any responses, at least now I know I am valid in my concerns especially with regulated to the food.
I obviously don't want a childminder bashing thread so will ask for it to be deleted.

Ok so your child is almost one year old. Usually i eould just feed my kids what we eat but then we eat very healthily. Here's my suggested diet for you - it's easy.

Breakfast -
natural Greek yogurt with unfrozen frozen raspberries
Eggs and wholemeal toast soldiers with butter
Oatabix with full fat milk and chopped berries
Porridge made with milk with chopped banana
Stay away from rusks and kiddie yogurts as they are shite.

Lunch
Scrambled egg and or omelette with veg added
Sweet potato and cheese or low sugar/salt beans or mashed tuna
Simple home made soups

Snacks
Veg sticks and homous
Oatcakes
Fruit
Stay away from rice cakes, surgery yogurts and chedders

Tea
Maybe you could learn some very simple recipes
Spaghetti bol
Cottage pie
Grilled fish with veg and mash
Chilli
Fish cakes
Curry

What takeaways do you buy? Could you learn to cook those dishes yourself but make them low fat/salt.

If she is your Goddaughter then surely you would have been aware of the food situation much sooner than now?

The mature and professional thing to do would be to ask on the childminder section how to broach the subject with your friends.
You knew what responses you would get, no rational person looking after children would think that diet is ok, so what you were expecting I do not know?

loverofpeas you have wasted your time like the rest of us.

I'm sure it's pissed Loverofpeas off too!!

Although you have given me some great ideas for DS - thanks Lover

Puddings could be Greek yogurt with honey, fruit salad or home made apple crumbles or home made rice puddings. But really you r child should only have a few sugary puddings each week, anything more is just setting them up for future problems I feel

Why reverse it? Irritating

Oh damn! Oh well. It's made me realise just how much I've learnt over the years cooking wise. Couldn't cook a bean before

I thionk your CM has given you wise advice and has done so because she cares. Listen to her, dont take it personally. we all learn as we go along.

Reverses really piss me off. YABU for that, especially as you haven't even said anything yet. Waste of everyone's time, especially considering you obviously know this person really well and have a bloody good idea what they will say, whereas our thoughts and ideas mean piss all when it comes to it. Are you going to tell her all this and then say 'everyone on MN agrees with me and thinks you need to sort it out'? Because what's the point otherwise?

I would suggest different clothes and maybe volunteer to do lunches for the baby as its easier to do them for all the kids. Then put down what she has been eating and hope they get the hint then!

I've gotten some good ideas from posters to keep in mind for when DD starts eating food so the thread wasn't a complete waste.

I don't understand these reverse threads. They always set the poster up to look as ridiculous as possible to make sure everyone agrees they're being unreasonable. What's the point of asking if you don't really want an answer?

Reverses piss me off too.

If you're a childcare professional, you shouldn't need to seek random views generated by an Internet chat room to work out what you should do.

If you're the CM, can you not provide the food, rather than the parents?

Then you can gradually get the baby eating better, trying new things, and offer advice that's proven by experience to the parents...

Have reported the thread now.
Sorry