To be really fucked off?!

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NC because DP found out about mumsnet! just to be safe

The guys came in to fix the phones at work today. I can have a laugh with them. I can talk to them.
But now, I won't.
The guy said "How are you today?"
I said: "I'm tired, me. DP was on the xbox all night"
he made a weird face. then he asked me, when are you learning to drive?
and I said, "when DP gets a job"
He replied with: "Bin him. get someone with money!"

NONONO. You DO NOT say that to someone. I LOVE my partner and I do not appreciate this at all. We live with our parents so not having a job is no problem at the minute, no DCs, no house of our own as of yet. DP is going in the forces. I don't give a flying fuck about money. Yes, I'd like to be spoiled, but just being with him, to me, is being spoiled. Being told to "bin" my DP because I can't afford to drive and he was on the xbox is completely disgusting to say to a person.
AIBU to be COMPLETELY SEETHING about this?!

It was just banter.

Sounds like you were being a bit dismissive of your DP in order to flirt with the phone guy and didn't like when it went the "wrong" way.

You sound really immature.

YABU He was just kidding, you're not meant to take things like that as serious suggestions.

YABU. It was a flirty joke. That. Is. All. Seems like your overreaction may be an indication that you are feeling what he said, even though you deny it. I think if it hadn't hit a raw nerve, you would have joked back..."Yeah, when Prince Harry proposes" or some such other nonsense.

I think you are over reacting a little. I think he was just making conversation and having a joke.

YABU to be completely seething about it, yes.

The man doesn't know all that about your DP, but hearing that he spent all night on the XBox and has no job would suggest that your DP was a bit of a waster, so the phone man's remark was probably kindly meant.

YABU unreasonable because you were kinda giving the impression you were unimpressed with your DP on two separate matters in two minutes. You are over reacting

If you both live with your parents and you're working full time, then I don't understand why you can't learn to drive til your boyfriend gets a job.
Maybe the weird face was because phone guy didn't understand why a (presumably) grown man would be playing on a console all night when his girlfriend has to get up for work in the morning.
I think it was casual banter, and phone guy was making the incorrect assumption that you and your boyfriend were grown ups!

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.... Spot on MerryMarigold

Why does you learning to drive depend on your boyfriend getting a job?

Calm down. This is considered small talk or flirting.

Why does you learning to drive depend on your boyfriend getting a job?

^^that's what I was wondering.

Yabu

Yaabu for having a man child of a DP who plays Xbox all night.

The flirty guy was right- bin the DP.

YABU

You remind me of myself though when I used to jump to my lazy, unemployed manchild boyfriends defense.

First off, when people say to you at work 'How are you today', they don't generally want that full an answer. They are being polite so the response would usually be 'good thanks, and you?', not a rundown of how tired you are, etc. He was probably thrown and didn't know how to continue. Secondly, you sound quite young so he probably doesn't realise you are quite a serious couple (if you are) and didn't think he was being rude. Don't over-react so much. Keep a polite friendly relationship with him as you are at work.

YABU, he was just having a laugh, but I think he touched a nerve! Bit weird that you're upset enough to be "seething" about it, to be honest.

He probably didn't know what to say with the up all night on the Xbox and the driving lessons. You made your dp sound like a bit of a loser. Like he was holding you back.

You were putting your dp down and he joined in.

Is this a wind up?

You're completely overreacting. Unless he's hit a nerve??

And why can't you learn to drive now?!

The lady doth protest too much, methinks

and why have you name changed

Your DP "found" mumsnet...how ?

And why do you need to change your name to be "safe"

Are you taking the piss. You sound unhinged, if not.

I'm with the phone man tbh. Your DP sounds like a waster.

Don't talk so dismissively about your DP then. The guy was picking up on your conversation signals and sensed that you weren't happy about the xbox etc.

Agree with pp you sound very immature.

Your DP not having a job should not stop you learning to drive.

Your DP going into the Forces should not stop him having a job now. DS1 has a provisional date to start Phase 1 training. He still lives with DH and I but he, also has a part time job, that he had all through college. They are short staffed atm so for the next couple of months he'll be working practically full time.

What the phone repair man said was banter!

He was having a laugh with you - you seriously need to get a grip...and a life....and a sense of humour.

He does have a point though.