To be really fucked off?!

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NC because DP found out about mumsnet! just to be safe

The guys came in to fix the phones at work today. I can have a laugh with them. I can talk to them.
But now, I won't.
The guy said "How are you today?"
I said: "I'm tired, me. DP was on the xbox all night"
he made a weird face. then he asked me, when are you learning to drive?
and I said, "when DP gets a job"
He replied with: "Bin him. get someone with money!"

NONONO. You DO NOT say that to someone. I LOVE my partner and I do not appreciate this at all. We live with our parents so not having a job is no problem at the minute, no DCs, no house of our own as of yet. DP is going in the forces. I don't give a flying fuck about money. Yes, I'd like to be spoiled, but just being with him, to me, is being spoiled. Being told to "bin" my DP because I can't afford to drive and he was on the xbox is completely disgusting to say to a person.
AIBU to be COMPLETELY SEETHING about this?!

What stage is he at with 'waiting to go in the Forces?'

Part of smalltalk is bonding with the person your talking too. Someone slags off their DP/Sister/Lunch and the other person says "Yes, s/he sounds like a twat" or "Yes, salad is pointless."

It doesn't mean they mean it or particularly care.

Us older people, as well as being unable to flirt, are too fick to understand what Op means

The thing is, we understand all too well and it is you that isn't listening

lol

It's possible that the telephone engineer guy was saying that in a protective, fatherly sense, rather than flirting. He's a lot older than you, and probably doesn't like to think of someone your age being dragged down with someone with no money, that's all.

Yes, I would also like to know how far along with the Forces application he is?

I think it was quite a rational response to you telling him that your DP is unemployed, spends all night on the X Box and leaves you tired as a result while you go out to work. Its sometimes surprising how other people view people who aren't pulling their weight - it can be an eye opener. The guy probably got the impression you are going out to work to support a layabout partner, who doesn't even have the decency to not keep you awake at night because of computer games.

Damn straight AnyFucker

lol lol lol and yolo and that shit.

YABU but also hilarious, so carry on.

Oh lord.

You know that 60 year old wasn't always 60 right?

Tbh you have made your bf sound like a bit of a waster. I can't imagine my 60 year old grandad being very impressed with an unemployed teen who plays computer games all night whilst his partner was struggling to sleep or afford anything. (almost £500 in 10 days though? Really? You need to start budgeting better) it's not how young men behaved in his day.

FWIW I think the git was rather polite. I would have told you to leave the useless buffoon.

What do you mean by "waiting to go into the forces".

Signed up and has a date to start?

Signed up and waiting for a start date?

Waiting until he's finished Call of Duty on the x-box before he will go and sign up?

I get upset when people rag on my husband, but let's save your anger for people that know you and are doing personal attacks. An insult from someone that doesn't know you or him means nothing, and to be honest it wasn't an insult it was just teasing.

Put the xbox in a different room. I refuse to have any screen in our bedroom because light keeps me awake. DH tried playing just a Nintendo DS in the room while I fell asleep and I couldn't do it. I hate hotels. :)

If your DP only let you get 2 hours of sleep while you're the one working to support him, he's being inconsiderate. He better be going into the forces soon, because if not, he's being a leech.

Also, old men flirt. Yeah, it feels really weird to get hit on by people that could be your dad/grandparent but they're harmless. I always cringe when old guys try to flirt with me. Just ignore the flirt. If they take it further and start harassing you or getting rude, report them.

Look at it this way. You don't like old men. Congrats, you probably don't have daddy issues.

So you made your dude look like a loser and you've taken offence when he agreed with you?

What's wrong with a 60 yr old flirting anyway? It was obviously him responding to what you said and as has been said it's hit a nerve.

we're off on holiday in 2 months. He's saving bits and bats (he does little jobs with family for say £20) towards that, then he's off in after the holiday.
I don't feel dragged down by him. Money is nothing to me, compared to being wanted and loved etc etc.
Maybe im not robust enough. ah well.

Does he have a start date then? And you're just waiting for that?

Money is nothing to me either mate, honestly, but I'd be proper fucked off if I was working and my partner played XBox in the bedroom while I was trying to sleep.

Nah, you just need to remove those rose tinted spectacles.

So has he got a date then, or is he going to apply after the holiday?

Don't ever work in retail, you will get far worse than that.

Over reacting much

Or me everlong I took it as fatherly advice. I would see it as motherly advise if I was to advise one of the youngsters in my office.

why does your money run out so soon? Are you paying for stuff for your boyfriend?