To be really fucked off?!

[JaackSparroww]

NC because DP found out about mumsnet! just to be safe

The guys came in to fix the phones at work today. I can have a laugh with them. I can talk to them.
But now, I won't.
The guy said "How are you today?"
I said: "I'm tired, me. DP was on the xbox all night"
he made a weird face. then he asked me, when are you learning to drive?
and I said, "when DP gets a job"
He replied with: "Bin him. get someone with money!"

NONONO. You DO NOT say that to someone. I LOVE my partner and I do not appreciate this at all. We live with our parents so not having a job is no problem at the minute, no DCs, no house of our own as of yet. DP is going in the forces. I don't give a flying fuck about money. Yes, I'd like to be spoiled, but just being with him, to me, is being spoiled. Being told to "bin" my DP because I can't afford to drive and he was on the xbox is completely disgusting to say to a person.
AIBU to be COMPLETELY SEETHING about this?!

I'm not overreacting. I'm not even 20 yet, so why would I want to flirt with a 60 year old man? he knows how old I am, so why would it be flirty? I don't get it.
maybe I am BU but tbh, I've had two hours sleep. I'm running on empty, i'm full of cold, my hips are hurting me, I want to cry, and this "banter" you say it is, i'm not used to. This is my first job, yes, an apprenticeship. I earn £468 a month and it's gone by the 10th, every month. Thats why I can't afford shit all.
Its annoyed me even more because i can't see why it's "flirting". The delivery boy flirts, but why would a 60 year old man flirt?

and that was me, actually being sarcastic, i think thats why I put a grin there, it's kinda hard to detect sarcasm.
this is the 2nd post of mine i've made a fool of myself on :) :) lovelyyyyyyyy

but i think anyone would be the same when you feel as shit as I do.

YABU. All the phone man did/said was it response to your flirting and comments about your DP. And yes... he did have a point...

Well, there you go, Jack. You are tired. You overreacted. You are BU. It's ok to BU sometimes.

Are you sure Mumsnet is the best place for you ?

i think i'm just looking for someone to sympathize a bit. I have no one else to rant to who will say i'm not BU.
But posting on here then reading it back makes me realise how utterly idiotic I sound and then just makes me feel worse.

I think you are mis-directing your irritation. Why is your "D"P keeping you up all night playing XBox when he knows you've got a cold and need to go to work in the morning?

I know you are still young, but hardly fair to blame the telecoms guy.

What makes you think that 60 year old men can't flirt?

Your post is all over the place. You already said you can talk and have a laugh with the guys who fix the phones. You over-shared some details of your life and the guy responded.

You sound like a daft wee lassie. Are you on exam leave or something?

In that case OP, it is a huge problem that not only is your DP preventing you getting a good nights sleep so you can hold down your own job but he also isn't actively looking for a job to support you both and ensure that you run out of money on the 10th of every month.

I doubt the man was flirting, sounds more like making conversation & responding to your negative comments about your DP. He was probably thinking nice young girl why is she wasting her time with a loser DP at her age?

I'm now a little concerned how living at home you can spend £468 in 10 days.

Ah, it sounds as if you thought Mumsnet meant that here you would find the non-judging sympathy sometimes associated with your own mum?

Am I Being Unreasonable is not for the faint-hearted or easily upset - post on chat if you just want a chat.

Why did you not go to bed? Just because your boyfriend is on his x box doesnt mean you should stay up too.

Although your boyfriends time may be better spent looking for a job rather than staying up all night playing computer games.

Not sure why you are on mumsnet, as you have no kids, are only a teenager and hopefully are not trying to conceive either.

*don't run of money

Well then why not start a thread about the actual issues here, rather than this poor guy who was just making a bit of small talk.

I also do an apprenticeship on £480 a month - I have children so get tax credits etc, do you have any DCs and sure you are receiving all you can.

Are you helping to support your non-working x-box-playing boyfriend?

Tell your DP to turn the bloody Xbox off then !! And go to sleep. It's not difficult, it's not rocket science. You said you've always been able to talk to them before, banter, etc. He probably said it because if he's 60 he looks on you as a daughter type and thought why is she with that bloke if he makes her miserable? He's not to know he doesn't make you miserable from what you said to him. He's working from what you told him.

Jeeze - give the poor girl a break!

Why did you only get 2 hours of sleep? Because DH kept you up playing Xbox, even though he knew you had to work and he's not working himself (and by the sound of it, not really spending all hours working on his resume)? Where does he get the money from, his parents or you? If the latter, then him not working certainly is a problem.

The phone repair guy's suggestion might be quite reasonable.

Has anyone read her original post? No DCS. and DP about to join the forces. My question is when exactly is the DP joining the forces. If it's next month, then fair enough. Perhaps he isn't useless and she shouldn't 'bin him'. It might be better to get all the facts before it's 'head for the door DP'!!!

yabu sounds like you were putting your dp down , he probably thought you were not that into him .

It was just a bit of friendly banter. You sound as if things are getting to you and you're becoming a bit over defensive about perceived slights and insults.

So it is actually a problem he's not working, even if living at home isn't it? Because you're skint, he needs to get a job, and put the toys away at bed time.

Oh, and blokes can flirt when they're 90! As can women, not necessarily thinking they'll get anywhere, just for fun.

He was probably just having a laugh with you, like you said, you have that kind of relationship with them.

Why can't you talk to the phone guys anymore?

he is actively looking. he has no experience, and is waiting to go into the forces. which I've said.
im an adult, i work, no DCs, not ttc, but it shouldn't matter because tere are a lot of people on MN with no DCs.
I wasn't saying anything negative. xbox is in the bedroom, he muted it. he was talking, but quietly.
I was annoyed with myself because I can usually sleep. why should any of this matter? getting told the person I love is a loser isn't a nice thing, especially when hes not. I might be a lot younger than most of you posting, but I do have feelings. lol.

just leave it people lol
I can see what Im trying to say isn't getting through.

I used the word "banter", not flirting. Given phone guys age I think it's probably even less likely than I thought before that he would understand why someone would want to stay up all night playing on a console. Also, given his age, I would think him telling you to bin your boyfriend was a bit of - not meant, or to be taken, too seriously - fatherly type advice.
I'm not sure that you're quite robust enough for AIBU op.