To be angry with disrespectful women!

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I'm talking about the women that know a guy is in a relationship yet continue to hit on him or upon hearing he has a girlfriend out right says 'I'm only up for a shag anyway, am I wasting my time?' Handing yourself on a plate like that to someone with a girlfriend and child is just low.

I obviously can't speak for all women but i wouldn't dream of hitting on somebody if they was in a relationship. I find it so disrespectful!

This happens quite a lot with my partner and it really angers me.

AIBU to let this bother me as much as it does? The woman I mentioned above might of got a peice of my mind..

Have have have have fucking have

OP I think that your message was spot on and luckily it did the trick. I too would be worried about a report from my ruining someone's career. It might have backfired, but it didn't, so well done.

There seem to be a lot of people here focusing on what you and he have done 'wrong' rather than her, and it's really angered me.

ExitpursuedbyAbear you asked "Am I alone in loathing the word disrespectful? I am sure it didn't exist when I was growing up."

It's ghastly. It makes me think of some dreadful Catherine Tate school girl type going on about being disrespected.

Hurrah. Someone agrees with me.

OP - now you've explained your convo (and bad me read some but not all of your posts) it makes sense.

what you said was fine.

Glad it's sorted. sounds a pain.

I did many years ago have a drop dead gorgeous Canadian army fiancé who got stared at in shops etc and proposed once. I wasn't happy.

And the of / haves are getting to me too

super I figured you had only read some of them lol

I'm glad it all makes sense now.

OP - the only thing I'd think of now, do you have a back up plan or does your partner for when this happens again?

I'm serious… it's obviously stressful when it happens.

ignores cold

If you speak posh and use the word disrespectful in an appropriate manner, no problem.

could of + disrespectful = less desirable

indeed.

If we reversed the roles, a man sending begging texts to fuck a woman he worked with, would that be OK?

Would her boyf/dp/dh be told he was a headcase for telling the bloke to back the fuck off?

The woman in this case WAS told by the DP to leave it, on a number of occasions, I think the OP was restrained to NOT insist on reporting this woman to her DP workplace.

Thanks for responding OP. I think your message was measured an effective..

How do you feel about it all now?

Exit is right.

Might've is might have not not might of

Could've is could have

Should've is should have

Please can we stop the might of, could of etc?

YES beryl. It's maddeningly annoying, and just so fucking wrong! Spelling mistakes are one thing, but it's not even remotely logical to select the completely wrong word like that. Grrr.

caitlin and exit I hate the (mis) use of 'respect'.

When someone (and I include the op in this) noisily demands respect, they are misappropriating the word to mean 'I hold you (and pretty much everyone in contempt) but for sime reason you should hold me in fear and lick my arse or suffer the consequences.'

WORRA

Is the Marmite aisle similar to the Oxo Tower?

I completely agree with you OP. I can understand why people try it on with DP, after all I find him very attractive, but once they know he's in a relationship it's time to back down.

He works at Sainsburys and I think we're now up to 6 different women that have tried it on? He had someone that insisted on sitting next to him and reading him passages of 50 shades (I haven't read the book but I can imagine what was said), one lady arranged a date with her daughter (DP genuinely thought it was to make up numbers for doubles badminton until the dad started hinting it was a date) and another woman dropped some paper next to him, insisted it was his when he tried to return it and it was her phone number! This stuff happens!

DP is a bit naive and I'll say so and so is hitting on you, he doesn't think so, then a bit down the line something else will happen and he'll tell me I was right.

It also happens when we're out. DP is late 20's and seems to attract the more mature lady. He was desperately looking at me for help one night he was collared by a very drunk lady in her late fifties. She was dancing with him and started kissing his neck. The fear in his eyes.... I couldn't move for laughing :)

compos feel free to actually read the full thread.

Where have you managed to pluck' lick my arse or suffer the consequences' from?

I'm not claiming this woman is disrespectful for not fearing me or licking my arse, she disrespectful for repeatedly propositioning a committed man for sex. < that has precisely nothing to do with fear and everything to do with respect.

Only when you are using respect in that weird TOWIEesque way.
Normal people simply dont conduct themselves in such a manner.

beershuffle I really wanted to mention TOWIEesque but chickened out in case people thought I'm even more of a snob than they probably already do.

if you ask someone to respect you do you not already have the answer

Erm maybe the biit whn you phoned your husband's colleague and warned them offop?