To be angry with disrespectful women!

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I'm talking about the women that know a guy is in a relationship yet continue to hit on him or upon hearing he has a girlfriend out right says 'I'm only up for a shag anyway, am I wasting my time?' Handing yourself on a plate like that to someone with a girlfriend and child is just low.

I obviously can't speak for all women but i wouldn't dream of hitting on somebody if they was in a relationship. I find it so disrespectful!

This happens quite a lot with my partner and it really angers me.

AIBU to let this bother me as much as it does? The woman I mentioned above might of got a peice of my mind..

You are on fire this afternoon, Worra.

Just in case the delivery driver manhandles his black pudding

You should maybe examine why your self esteem is tied in to other peoples behaviour, and why you think your partners interactions with others is so important to you, to the extent you overinvolve yourself in them to a really odd degree.

I see the problem here, your dp is one of these deluded optimistic chaps who thinks he's gods gift and any woman he meets wants to rip his clothes off.
I'd bet my clubcard points that he's not as irresistible as you both believe him to be

did the shop assistant ask to measure the size of his ring?

Or a customer asked for a pearl necklace?

(Sorry)

(Sorry OP, maybe you should post in Relationships)

wow - are we in Eastenders???

you are misunderstood my point. My issue is not about my partner or trust its about the lack of respect people shown to other peoples partners and relationships.

I mean would you ask a married man to have sex with you? not just ask him, but ask him more than once trying to actually persuade him? i assume not and neither would i hence why i would like the same curtosy in return

It's strange how i am suposedly in the wrog in this situation.

No I wouldn't proposition a married man but ime a certain type of man attracts a certain type of woman

would you ask a married man to have sex with you? not just ask him, but ask him more than once trying to actually persuade him?

I think your dh is pulling your leg OP. Or he is misinterpreting the actions of all these women. "Could you fax something for me?" might just be an innocent request.

I have honestly never seen this happen, ever to anyone, like ever.

What strange fictitious circles you mix in OP.

No disrespect OP but I had no idea Tesco and H Samuel were the new knocking shops. You learn something every day.

I think your DH is winding you up, lying and embellishing on the story precisely because he knows it will make you jealous. Some people like to engineer their own ego boosts.

You protest too much. First, youre really exaggerating, or he is, or you both are. Second, youre obsessed and a bit of a drama queen.
Did you think everyone would just say: yeah how dare those bitches diss you by hitting on your man...?
We're not in a school yard or an episode of hollyoaks, so thats not going to happen.

Get over yourself.

You are new to MN gotno (I know this because I answered a question about acronyms for you the other day) and have yet to learn that if you want a serious answer you don't post in AIBU you will generally always BU.
Friday is funday

Oh, and your DH should speak for himself...unless he likes it, which I think he does and he tells you about it.

I think that your uber attractive DP must take some preemptive measures.

Eg. Perhaps only shower once a month? Being smelly and greasy looking might help fend them off. Though of course you'll have to keep him in for his own protection for a few days after his monthly shower.

Or perhaps get a massive prosthetic nose fitted, maybe with a few warts on it that he can pop on before he enters the supermarket or any other arena of extreme risk.

I also once saw a couple where her t-shirt said "I'm married to Jason!" and his said "Buzz Off I'm taken!" It looked really cool.

If all else fails perhaps he could get images of you and your dc tattooed on his face as the ultimate deterrent?

HTH

I get that you are talking about disrespectful women because that is what has pissed you off.

But in the example of anyone coming onto someone who is attached, gender irrelevant, then yes I agree with you. Especially if that person makes it clear they aren't interested. In that context and depending on the repeated come on, I would say it borders on harassment.

I have no doubt there are people of both genders who like the thrill of the chase, or want to be with an attached person just for sex, or whatever, and I think it's appalling.

My parents live in Asia and it is endemic that you see expat men of a certain age being repeatedly hit on by much younger single women, even if their wives are there! I've experienced it myself. It is terribly disrespectful on the one hand, but on the other I feel very sorry for these women as becoming the mistress or partner of an expat man is one of the easier ways to escape the poverty they and their families are born into.

Right. How to put this?

If a man exists, a woman might look at him.
If he looks good, she might approach him.
If he's in a relationship, he might tell her to back off.
If he doesn't, he's saying he's available, relationship or no.

And that's his fault, his lack or respect for his relationship, not hers!

I'm single. I've never actively looked for anyone else's partner and for decades I avoided them. But, I'm also old. And if its on offer, I intend to take it.

So make sure gorgeous-chops doesn't put it on offer near me, there's a dear.

I still want to know the exact words you used on the phone, OP.

Oh, and only let him out to do the shopping wearing a suit of armour with the visor down. Tesco will eventually get used to the clanking.

Or come over to Waitrose. We're too refined to proposition anyone in the frozen food aisle, we just make unmistakably phallic gestures with organic aubergines...

Supposing she pursues a man with a partner relentlessly until he gives in.

Poor little lamb