"Bra" for a 7 year old

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DD (7) has come back from a weekend at her dad's and his girlfriend has bought her a "bra" (as she calls it) I suppose it's a cropped vest really.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off?

It doesn't function as a vest (due to it's cropped nature) so it's only purpose seems to be as a fake bra to make DD feel grown up.

I think there is too much pressure on children to grow up too fast.

Do I return it with a note or bin it and deny all knowledge?

I will not get an accurate response if I ask her (as I have already said) I will speak to the adults as their version will be more reliable.

I think this is quite sad. Even with the issues you've described I still think you should give her a chance to explain. I appreciate she tells lies etc but does that mean you are never going to discuss anything like this with her in case you get the wrong story? Maybe she did ask her Dad and his girlfriend to buy it because she didn't feel she could ask you.

That's not to say not to speak to them too but I think you should at least give her a chance.

I have never said that I'm not going to discuss it with her. I have no idea where you got that from. I have said that I will ask the adults first. It's good to be informed.

It is sad, yes, my daughters past experiences and ongoing MH issues are indeed sad. I do have a good relationship with her but delicate issues need incredibly delicate handling with her. The last thing I want is for her to pick up on any disapproval from me towards the item/growing up/dad's girlfriend etc as she is very sensitive.

I'm not going to give any more personal details about her on this thread, anyone who is interested enough in more background can search my previous threads if they really want to.

It's better that I can gently "guide" her towards what I know to be fact before she spins a web of fiction and then digs her heels in and feels the need to stick to it. It's complicated and yes it's sad.

I apologise I just assumed from this sentence:-

"I haven't asked DD about it because sadly that won't help me to find out what actually happened. She is a complete fantasist and unfortunately I can't believe anything she says"

Anyway good luck with it.

That's ok Cupid.

I stand by those sentences though, I haven't asked her yet, and I'm unlikely to get the truth from her.

A vest is a lot hotter than a crop top.IME schools are always too hot, and for this reason none of my DC have ever wanted to wear a vest for school.

I agree that the gf shouldn't have bought your dd a personal piece of clothing but it is done now. If you Make afuss you will look the bad guy.

I brought my 8 yo two cheap crop tops from Asda a few months back as she has filled out a lot and seems to be in very early stages of development. she was thrilled and to start off was wearing them all the time. The novelty has now worn off and she maybe wears one once a week.

I'm sure the novelty will wear of if you don't fuss at it.