To put the neighbour's parcel out with the bins?

[RachelWatts]

As I'm a SAHM, I usually end up taking in the neighbour's parcels for them as I'm the only person who answered the door to the delivery company.

Most of the neighbours will call round later that day or the next for their stuff.

One chap, who lives about 5 doors away, never does. It's always too big or awkward for me to take round while also carrying DS2 or pushing his pushchair, especially knowing that I might have to lug it back again.

His latest parcel is flat, about 1 foot wide and 5 feet long. He apparently paid extra for next day delivery, but obviously doesn't want it that urgently as it's been in my house over a week.

I probably won't put it out with the bins, unless it's here another week, but won't be taking in any more parcels for him.

My neighbours haven't complained when I've knocked on their door for a parcel, and I haven't complained when they've come to collect one from me (the rare occasions I'm in and they're not.) Sometimes we even stop and have a bit of a chat.

Sorry if this has already been covered, but why can't you just pop over without the parcel to see if he's home? If he is he can come and pick it up.

A lot of courier companies say they've delivered to the correct address or that they've left cards when in fact, they don't. For all you know he may have no idea it's with you.

Starlight if you feel that way, don't accept the parcel. I took in a parcel for somebody, it was 3 days before I could give it to my neighbours as I was so busy, my neighbours did not comes round. I would not expect people to wait fir my neighbour to deliver it, could be urgent, why should some one wait for when you can deliver it, could be 2 days, 1 week, or even a couple if weeks before you could deliver the parcel, why should someone wait for you!

Pop a note through his letter box giving him a determined number of days to collect it - and suggest times that would be convenient, eg evening before/after x, afternoon between or morning between... Once that time is up contact the company or courier and tell them you signed for it but the recipient hasn't collected and you've had it however long. Then don't take anything in for them again.

It may be he's not been left a card - it happens a lot. After a week when the delivery was for next day I'd kind of expect that he's probably rung the company he ordered from, their courier can't reasonably identify where it's been left and they've sent another one out. Therefore he has no need to collect it.

dexter - no, you can't get it right 100% of the time, but I think 99% of us would agree that the polite thing to do is to go and collect your own parcel (at a reasonable hour of the day) rather than wait for it to be delivered

starlight - I do love you (you'd know me if I wasn't on a brief name change) but by god woman you have some odd ideas x

I woukd not be so unkind to a neighbour and I'm hugely great full when a neighbour takes in a parcel for me and far too humble to pester them for it.

My neighbour brought round my birthing pool, though thank god because at 39 weeks pregnant I woul 't have been able to collect it anyway. It must have taken up his whole living room.

I just can't imagine waiting for someone to bring a parcel to me. My elderly nextdoor neighbour used to do it because she would wait for us to come home and drop it round the second we got in. However it was a tiny terrace and our front doors were literally inches from each other.
Just think of it the other way round. You finally get so fed up with a parcel sitting in your hall that you drop round after a week and they say 'well I've been waiting long enough.'

I think there is another thread waiting to happen here.
'My neighbour took a parcel in for me and I really need it but she won't answer the door'.

YABU and YAAA

All parcels I except are delivered by that evening at the latest. Just no door answering at getting home from work time as that is dinner bath, story and bed plus breastfeeding. Front door opening is suspended.

Your neighbour is not your delivery service and your parcel is clogging up their hallway. Sorry to inform you I would find you extremely rude if I saw you come home and deliberately not come to mine to pick up your precious tat. Rude!

Anyway, who is AvoidingEasterDIY ?

But starlight you are then expecting your NDN to bring your parcel to you.... don;t you see how your NDN may be pissed off by that ??

I'm not expecting them to bring it, just contact me when it is convenient for THEM rather than for me, since they've done the favour.

And I know by 100x that I'd rather deliver a parcel to them than have them bother me at THEIR convenience rather than mine.

So having done YOU a favour, then you expect them to contact you to arrange a suitable time to collect YOUR parcel

Sorry, but your thinking is skew whiff.....

But I totally expect you to just not see it !!

I'd be mightily pissed off if the person I'd helped out came demanding their parcel with no regard to my convenience and woukd not behave that way myself,

Starlight I'm very confused!! So if your neighbours took a parcel for you, you would want them to contact you at their convenience for you to go and collect it?

So they would knock at your door without parcel (which you may not answer as you don't like people knocking at the door) to ask you to go and collect your parcel at a convenient time... So they are inconvenienced twice?

This sounds like an exhausting way to carry on!!

OP just put a note through his door asking him to collect his parcel :)

Well if it's a bother starlight, don't accept the parcel! Let your neighbours arrange a redelivery. There's nowt as queer as folk!

If I couldn't get a parcel to them, I'd pop round and ask them to come get it, at THAT time as it was obviously convenient to me at THAT time. I'd probably have it in my hand if I coukd carry it myself.

It's not a bother, only when people rudely expect it to be available at a time that suits them rather than me. No neighbour has complained that I take them their parcels.

I'm in duri g the day so I get a lot.

those of you not getting notes...do you remember filling in the "if not at home deliver to/leave parcel..." bit of the website you ordered it from? If you filled in that bit, then the courier would not be required to leave a note.

Mind you, I have recevied stuff with no note loads of times.

OP, can you take it over in the evening when DC are in bed? and then stop taking in parcels for him.

Right, I do you the favour, then have to take more of my precious time figuring out when you might be in, but of course you may decide it's not a convenient time for you to answer your door (because your time is very valuable), forcing me to perhaps repeat this several times, only for you to then arrange for a convenient time to deliver your parcel to you?

And you can't see why this isn't convenient?

Start by assuming your neighbour doesn't have time to figure out when it is a good time for you to answer the door. Put the onus of doing the work on you. You knock on their door collecting the parcel and if your neighbour finds it inconvenient, they will ignore you. Repeat.

Are you sure he knows it's with you? I'm a SAHM and regularly take in parcels for random neighbours as no other fecker is ever in or answers to the postman
However, DH ordered something last year. Parcel got delivered to a house down the street as we were both out. No card through the door here, NOTHING. So not a clue what had happened to it. It only came to light a couple of weeks down the line where it was when he rang up to ask where the f**ck it had got to (or words to that effect) that we knew it was at a neighbours. Would have been left clueless if we'd kept waiting. Give them the benefit of the doubt and go round and knock yourself/post note saying where it is.