to be embarrassed but to go anyway?

[harriet247]

Dps best friend from primary has distributed his wedding invites today. Silly me thought I was invited dp and I have been together 2 years and have 1 yr old dd.
All the other girlfriends/fiances have been invited but im not on the invite,not even as a plus one :/
I understand obviously money may be a factor or they dont want children there but nothing has been said.
Its 5 hours away and in a big posh hotel, we were both looking forward ro our first night away, with dd staying with lovely gp's.
Im thinking of just going anyway, nice spa during the day then get dressed up and go and join in the evening do.
But part of me is worried that I would be kindof embarrassing myself and them too? I cant jelp but think they dont wnt me there for some reason butI dont know either of them very well so I'm positive they don't hate me etc..
Aibu to go anyway?

I don't buy it. It makes no sense unless the bride has never met the OP, and doesn't know that the groom's good friend is living with someone and that they have a baby together. Their excuse doesn't explain why they invited both halves of the other couples that are mutual friends. And I wouldn't blame the bride, if the groom can't say "I want friend + partner there" then he can't complain that they weren't invited.

I can believe it. My brother remembered to invite someone to his stag do but completely forgot to invite them to the wedding! We asked at the reception where they were and db's face was like he phoned them there and then and begged them to come but they declined. I don't think there was any hard feelings though.

This is hilarious:

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer Sun 27-Apr-14 09:31:28
DH didn't get an invite to his (close) cousin's wedding. He didn't bother contacting her or his aunt to see if there had been a mistake, he just went along as his sister's plus one. As it happened, he was sat in the church, looking through the order of service, when he discovered for the first time that he was doing a reading confused

DH didn't get an invite to his (close) cousin's wedding. He didn't bother contacting her or his aunt to see if there had been a mistake, he just went along as his sister's plus one. As it happened, he was sat in the church, looking through the order of service, when he discovered for the first time that he was doing a reading.
This reminds me of the Friends episode where Monica goes to the wedding with Ross and she keeps reminding everyone she is a BLOOD relative. Not saying your DH did that btw.

Blimey, what a mess!

Do people really have a back up list?

Maybe we just don't know many people!

We invited who we wanted & if people couldn't come it meant we paid for less meals!

I have read threads on Confetti.com where people have actually typed the words "this is my day and I'm not paying for a meal for someone I've never met' so I can totally believe this thread.

We upgraded one friend couple from evening to full day when my aunt and uncle that I'd never met but my mum insisted we invite told us at the last minute that they couldn't make it (apparently they couldn't leave their alsatian dog for the day), but that was back in 1991 when people didn't seem to take an invitation to a wedding as a call to arms, so we're still on good terms with our "upgraded" friends...

Oh dear, this is why both of the couple should both be invested in all parts of the wedding and doing things together- not just one taking over and/or one leaving it all to the other.

When sending out our invites DP didn't put a plus one down for his cousin, he had no clue she had anyone because they hadn't caught up in ages. It was only because she's on my facebook and was often tagged with someone in sometimes romantic settings that I questioned it. He went to look and text her to ask since it wasn't clear and it turned out it was her partner and they'd been dating a year but due to some family members being funny about it they hadn't gone all out. She was very appreciative when we sent her a plus one.