to be embarrassed but to go anyway?

[harriet247]

Dps best friend from primary has distributed his wedding invites today. Silly me thought I was invited dp and I have been together 2 years and have 1 yr old dd.
All the other girlfriends/fiances have been invited but im not on the invite,not even as a plus one :/
I understand obviously money may be a factor or they dont want children there but nothing has been said.
Its 5 hours away and in a big posh hotel, we were both looking forward ro our first night away, with dd staying with lovely gp's.
Im thinking of just going anyway, nice spa during the day then get dressed up and go and join in the evening do.
But part of me is worried that I would be kindof embarrassing myself and them too? I cant jelp but think they dont wnt me there for some reason butI dont know either of them very well so I'm positive they don't hate me etc..
Aibu to go anyway?

Is £1 the minimum you can give?

I've had wedding invitations with bank account details in.

Ughhh Grabsville....

Here is our sort code please deposit money in our bank account.

I didn't give them any money. In fact I didn't go to the wedding. Well it wasn't the wedding I was even invited to, just the evening do, on my own.

I didn't give them any money. In fact I didn't go to the wedding. Well it wasn't the wedding I was even invited to, just the evening do, on my own

I did send a polite RSVP and everything. I even made up a credible excuse.

Hahaha oh dear.
Wowzers at being called pushy and entitled nooo im really not :) im a nice easy going young lady thank you very much, I just have the propensity to come to dramatic comedic solutions to any issues that present themselves. There is always that one poster trying to tear the OP down.

OP, it's clear you are joking :)
Personally I think you give it till Monday then yur DP sends a polite "thanks but I can't make it" card

at sort code and acccount number

I know the asking-for-money thing is gaining ground, but I can't help being the aunt with pinz nez hoiking bosoms at this sort of thing.

PLEASE send them 79p (or £1.13 if £1 is the minimum). Or do Poundland do vouchers? for £1?

Spell out "HAPPY WEDDING DAY" in penny coins sellotaped to cardboard and frame it?

Yep, I think at this point you would have to decline either way wouldn't you?

Say he wrote back and said "fine, she can come if you pay" would you want to?

I bloody well wouldn't!

or I'd turn up in a wedding dress

Op....

I'm finding the serious posts quite amusing....please don't make them stop

'Its murder on the dance floor ....but ya better bit kill the groom....Dj"

Stealth PB....yes penny coins....

With a photo of your good self in frame as lucky chimney sweep....

Doing a huge 'thumbs up'

I wonder will this be the end of the friendship?

Because if so you could have some genuine fun with this.

Wouldn't you love to show up at the church/venue, serious as you like, dressed as a banana?

I would dress as a bride.

OP you're a good sport, this thread is a laugh

Can I flag something up which I think no-one has mentioned yet?

If the groom is in the military, often comms are fairly shit, even if he is posted in this country that often doesn't mean 'at a desk like a normal person', he might be doing something involving camping in a secret field?

Its a special case: I know people in the forces who have had to move their wedding date a few times. It's not guaranteed he's actually able to be in contact.

Can the bride be contacted, as it might be that she is more the one doing the organising?

erm I quite often don't check my phone for 48 hours. I am definely not in the military :o It's either flat and I can't fnid the charger or I just can't be bothered/

I hide mine on my drawer, as I don't have any friends .

O2 send me a message every now and then.

I love your dramatic comedic solutions op.

about getting TICKETS to see THE WANTED at the O2 ARENA?
Yes, I get those too :o

Just to idle the time away with another wedding related anecdote...

I was once invited to a relative's wedding - the full day - with my then partner. The invitation came from the groom's mother.

We accepted.

The bride's mother then rang me up three days before the big day to say my partner wasn't actually invited as she didn't want 'boyfriends and girlfriends' there, only 'husbands and wives'.

She did this to everyone. So loads of the groom's extended family ended up not going, as it was over two hundred miles away and all the drivers had just been uninvited!

linerunner that one made me laugh! Obviously bride's mother was worried about the number of no-longer-together couples in the wedding album in years to come - did she not think the married ones could be equally likely to separate?

How spectacularly rude of them. It's a shame for a friendship that's lasted so long, but it's the grooms loss. Enjoy your weekend away elsewhere.

I'll PM when I'm planning any social event - I could do with more fun friends - oh and you can even bring your DP