To wonder where all the normal, single men are?

[Needsmorecake]

because, sure as hell, they are not within a 50 mile radius of me.

This comes off the back of being let down again. I was meant to have a date tomorrow, now i do not.

Lovely man, 40, deputy head of an ' outstanding school' Not only did he send me the most 'penisey' photo, where even in jogging bottoms his cock felt the need to make its presence known, but, after some internet reasearch, i found he had two facebook accounts, one of which he is only friends with very young, very naked, eastern women.

I cancelled the date, clearly he is nuts. However, this seems to be the case more often than not, and its so very very tiring.

Ive been single for 5.5 years, i dont want to remarry, but id just like someone, it seems so impossible.

www.cracked.com/blog/4-things-i-learned-from-worst-online-dating-profile-ever/

this also amused me...

Oh yes, the older ones are worse. They are often just..weirder. Apart from the young man who offered to be my naked butler.

That's worked out quite well though.

I've written about this before but just to add my worst experiences, no 1 was a guy I met on Guardian Soulmates, attractive, articulate, intelligent, bit arty, was so excited about meeting him. However when we met he confessed that he was a transman ( ie born a woman, had breasts removed, took hormones but still had a vagina ). Was a bit shocked to say the least! I'm pretty open minded but was not what I was looking for. I wish he'd had the decency to tell me before we met and felt quite deceived afterwards.

Met another, seemingly lovely guy, again on Guardian Soulmates who seemed really keen but kept putting off meeting. Eventually confessed he was married! I was so annoyed I complained to the Guardian but by then he had taken his profile down..,

Met another guy who was 6 ft 8. An actual giant!
Another one who spent virtually the whole date ranting about Muslims.

And finally a guy who described himself as a 'sexy city lawyer'. He was shorter than me, had black teeth but worst of all had one of those monotone ( what I would call a 'John Major') voices. I so couldn't imagine DTD with that voice... Oh and his name was Brian ( he also liked to consider himself a bit of a Dom...)

Sorry if these sound bitchy but I was so disappointed in them...

I was meant to be having a date tomorrow, hes just sent me a message at 6:20 ( fgs) to tell me hes really ill.

disappointing after spending a week chatting, still on the bright side, at least he has let me know rather than standing me up or just vanishing off the face of the earth.

Ive also had a grand total of 0 messages the last two days.

If it's any consolation, there are some nice guys out there. I think you have to weed out the ones who don't actually want to meet their soulmate or have a serious relationship. Some just want fun and that's ok if that's what you want, but otherwise, give them a wide berth. Similarly, cocklodgers - one I met, I fell for very quickly, but looking back, he had nothing except charisma and charm to offer, no job and lots of baggage! I went on lots of dates where there was no spark, or we had nothing in common as well as some weirdos, apart from the ones I didn't date because they were after one thing or were too old etc etc! However, I did meet my DP on there as well as a couple of really nice guys where there was no spark but were genuine nice friendly people that I still speak to from time to time.

I guess what I'm trying to say is don't give up, there will be someone out there for you. I think your age can sometimes frighten men off who think you might be wanting children because of the biological clock etc - my BIL was in his 40s when he started dating again and this was a worry for him as he didn't want more children.

I don't know if on-line dating sites send messages to email, but if they do, I think it should be possible to train Google's spam filter to weed out most of the bad emails. Obviously you will have to get a gmail address if you don't already have one, but in general I've found it's spam filter to be outstanding. It will learn what you do and don't want in your in-tray, and in fact it wouldn't surprise me if it already knew, as it applies what it learns from one person to others. (Not sure to what extent it customises itself to individual customers, but as these offensive emails are probably as generally unwanted as the penis enlargement ones, generalising probably doesn't hurt here.)

I met up with a nice normal single guy last night who I met on Tinder. It turns out that he actually lives on my estate.. and works in a good job up the road, and is normal and nice..

I'm hoping for a second date which he has promised..

I just hope he thinks I'm normal.

Oooh! Don't forget to update Latara.
Act normal. Or at least , release the crazy gradually

I will act as normal as possible ;)

Thought I'd share this with the thread. Just to demonstrate what total and utter tossers there are out there.

Tonight I had a date. We arranged to meet at the station. I was running late (due to public transport problems), text him to let him know and suggested he wait in the pub opposite.

When I arrived at the station I text to say I was there, and should I meet him in the pub, he said yes.

Walked over, couldn't see him. It's a huge pub, and quite busy so hard to spot people. I wasn't going to walk all round it, so text saying 'where are you I can't see you'

Got a reply saying he was sorry, but he'd had to leave!!!

I called him out on it, and said it was pathetic. He claimed a relative had been taken ill, but that's bullshit.

I looked great (as I always do). I looked like the photos he'd seen (one of which is on my profile here). And he did a runner. Assuming he was even there in the first place that is.

Utterly bizarre, rude, and ignorant.

See that's just bloody rude Velvet. I'm sorry he did that to you. There's no reason. I would much rather they stayed, met me, and had the balls to say to my face that I'm not their type or they don't feel a spark, or they are chickening out than give me some bullshit about family emergencies.

I stopped for a quick drink and some food at the pub this evening on my way home and in walks a guy I met last October. Long story short I was out with a friend, she pulled this guy who they decided was going back to her house, leaving his friend stranded without his ride home. I was driving so gave him a lift home - I was furious with my friend at the time because the way she acted had kind of put me in that position - but it turned out he was actually a really, really nice guy, plus the fact he looked like Rupert Everett was rather a bonus. Anyway nothing happened but we said we'd double date with my friend and his friend in the week and get numbers through our friends. Anyway friend's "romance" fell on it's arse the next morning and they haven't spoken since so we never got to swap numbers or see each other again. Anyway tonight, who should walk into the bar but the Rupert Everett lookalike - but he was on a date! I passed them as I went to the loo and did stop and say hello to, and the girl he was with, and he seemed really surprised and very happy to see me and after that he was looking over a lot. They left soon after and as she walked in front of him he was looking over at me a lot. He's with someone so obviously I'm not going to flirt or give him my number or anything, I just smiled and waved as he went past, but there is a part of me wondering if he'll get his friend to look up mine again and get my number. He didn't see my bump but maybe he'll believe that I'm not actually pregnant but just ate a football.

Luckily I'm in a really positive frame of mind at the moment and very happy with how I look, so it's annoyed rather than upset me.

It is an appalling way to behave. and no clue of it whatsoever. Just shows how utterly arbitary OD is, and how simply by agreeing to meet someone, you run the risk of being treated so utterly shabbily.

waits for helpful poster to pop up and tell me it was my fault somehow

That's interesting about guy in the pub Random, clearly it was fate you should chance to stop off there last night....! It may only have been a first date he was on. So you never know, you may be getting a call at some point :)

Looks like he saw you and decided you weren't his type Velvet. Not very polite though. I love your modesty in the line "I looked great (as I always do)". Think you might exude an attitude of "I'm good looking and I know it"?

avoitete, not very nice, is it.
Bearing in mind you keep getting roasted over on ' women over 35' on the relationships board, i suggest you stop trying to wind people up.

I suggest you stop trying to censor your thread Needs. "I looked great (as I always do)" is worthy of comment, whether you like it or not.

but its not though, is it.

Its not like it was a blind date, he would have seen her pictures on the dating site.

What shes saying is she didnt turn up looking like a ball of shit and takes pride in how she looks, why on earth is that a bad thing?

If she was saying she looked shit so that must have been it, people would be telling her to stop dating till she works on her self esteem. cant win.

end of the day, the guy did a runner ( if he was even there to start with) non excusable.

Yet I regularly read of women having "escape plans" from dates, arranging friends to give them a ring to fabricate an "emergency". But when a man does it, it's "non excusable". Women (and men, I'm sure) often look very different in real life to on profile pics and that may have been the case here. And there's no need to say "I looked great (as always)" or "I looked shit". Saying "I looked my best" would suffice.
You do talk a lot of nonsense Needs.

having an' escape plan' is a bit different to running out before even saying hello.

Even if she didnt look the same as her pictures, even if he didnt fancy her, where on earth are his manners?
How could he be so shallow to not even say hello... to the woman he had been chatting to for x amount of time, and, clearly liked enough to ask on a date.

To get to the pub, and then to run off without even saying hello,let alone even sharing a drink, even for 30 mins.

No, thats just rude, nasty and frankly, disgusting behaviour.

Id suggest you talk a lot of nonsense ( as evidenced by other threads you have posted on that have all said the same)

Well, avoir if he had more than one brain cell I think it should have been apparent to him from my numerous photos a) what type I was and b) whether that type was his type or not.

And why should I be (falsely) modest? I know I'm attractive, I look after myself and make an effort with my appearance. I did so particularly last night because I was on a date. I'm not going to be all coy, and say 'Well I think I looked ok' when I know I looked good, that would be silly!

Escape plans are one thing. Personally, I'd sit through an hour of a date however bad someone is, rather than leave immediately, as I think that's rude. But this guy (IF he was even there) didn't even have the balls to deliver his fake excuse in person. Which is pretty low and pathetic.

As I've said, the picture on here is how I look. I looked very like this last night, save that the ends of my hair were slightly more curly as it was damp out. and I had a bit more make up on.

Other than that, very much the same.

Walking out on a date is non excusable, I agree with Needs. I'd think it was equally pathetic if a woman behaved in the same way.

He might well have not been there at all then Velvet. Maybe he was trolling you and has never even been to your town, that's not unknown. I'm sure you'll soon find better alternatives anyway.

I wonder if it's the type of man you meet on dating websites? I know that's not particularly helpful but when I talk to my DH, his friends (all married and on the whole happy)or my friends' husbands they are all pretty unanimous that they wouldn't internet date.
It seems that it's easy for the type of men who are liars and generally vile human beings to say enough in order to attract decent women like yourselves on the internet

:)
mrsruffallo, yep, i do agree, which is why i started this thread, 16 pages back, asking where decent men are.

because, well, i cant find any, and neither can lots of posters.

Given that you agree with mrsruffallo, maybe it's time for you to close the dating profile down and get out into the real world and see if you do any better Needs. Seems obvious to me.

yes, because i never leave my house. ever.
never have done.