To wonder where all the normal, single men are?

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because, sure as hell, they are not within a 50 mile radius of me.

This comes off the back of being let down again. I was meant to have a date tomorrow, now i do not.

Lovely man, 40, deputy head of an ' outstanding school' Not only did he send me the most 'penisey' photo, where even in jogging bottoms his cock felt the need to make its presence known, but, after some internet reasearch, i found he had two facebook accounts, one of which he is only friends with very young, very naked, eastern women.

I cancelled the date, clearly he is nuts. However, this seems to be the case more often than not, and its so very very tiring.

Ive been single for 5.5 years, i dont want to remarry, but id just like someone, it seems so impossible.

I don't get this going for people without baggage. Everyone has some baggage. I prefer a bit of a past tbh as that is what I'm like.

I REALLY wouldnt bother with Tinder tbh. I thinks it's a hook-up app; so quick, so easy, and probably really addictive to the wrong sort of man.

I have a friend who met her chap at a classic car rally. I think I am going to take up rock climbing and start hanging out at car shows...maybe not boardgaming though
It's getting bad, this singledom. Now the weather has got nicer there are loads of construction workers in my area. I nearly walked into a lampost this morning checking out the roofer across the street

IfNotNowThenWhen - hurrah! I actually mentioned car shows further upthread, in answer to the OP's question wonder where all the normal, single men are, but for some reason, no-one noticed!

I have to say that my fellow gamers do have a penchant for heavy metal and soap dodging.

Spickle I know! I noticed :) I definitely think that going to places that attract boys is the way forward. I'm just worried I might take it too far and end up doing Civil War reenactments...

Haha, my DP would actually do reenactments IfNotNow! As well as gaming! He's not that geeky either! But funnily enough my daughter's boyfriend is into Marvel comics and Star Wars and we both wonder how on earth we ended up with partners with such similar interests! But........ they are good guys and fun to be with and it's certainly broadened my education.

A while ago I also did some ceroc, and noticed the M/F split to be even.

I'm not in the dating scene (am married), but it would be my first option. Not OD.

Apparently Jazz clubs and golfing are good places to meet men...

They swing at both places too

Fnarr.

But only 'members' are allowed to swing in those places.

V funny you two! ( and don't even get me started in swingers' clubs, tons of men there...no cock shots just the real thing :) )

I thought one had to be part of a couple to attend a swingers' club.

Maybe suggest it as a first date with one of the prospective OD dates, especially the ones who send cock shots!

ah, that might be my new response when i get sent a cock shot now
' what a fab cock you have, i have been waiting to go swinging with someone, and from the looks of that, you would be perfect'

however, i suspect the sarcasm would be lost on lots of them.
Im quite partial to a boardgame, i truely know how to live!

where does one find out about boardgame clubs?

Toad, they often have 'Greedy Girl' parties where there are lots of single guys and the women can have as many of them as they want!

Golly phwoar

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I'd invite you to mine, but as it's in NZ, so probably a little far. However, given that the typical Kiwi man tends only to enjoy playing sport, hunting, beer, DIY, or steak, you'd have better luck where you are anyway.

I've read this thread simultaneously with a thread on another, male dominated, forum. This is the general view of PIF particularly and OD generally on that forum:

• it's no good for finding a long-term partner
• it's OK for finding someone for a shag
• the women exaggerate their credentials beyond the point of lying
• men using it should lie themselves about their weight, height, job etc, as the women will assume they are doing so regardless. Example: a man who is 5 feet 8 should say he is 6 feet, as the women will then assume that he is 5 feet 8.

Now I have no idea whether these remarks are fair, but even if they aren't, it does show a disconnect between what they use OD for and what the participants on this thread use it for.

It was quite depressing reading, to be honest. There wasn't much kindness or charity being exhibited.

Toad, I can't help wondering who is the more venal about the opposite sex, the blokes on the thread you mentioned or the women on this thread?

id love a link so i could read that myself

And it doesnt surprise me in the slighest. Having done OD for a lot of years, ive found what you have just posted to be true, despite posters telling me its me and if i just messaged more first, or just did x or x or x, truth is, ive changed lots of things, i try different tactics, the outcome doesnt change because the input from man stays the same, and thats the bit i cant change.

suzanne, i dont think anyones been that way on here, most of us are just upset at all the shit.
I dont think there has been any lists of what we want from men, or things they have to have for us to date them, in fact lots of us have said how open minded we are about most things.

i dont lie on my dating profile, i cant see the point. if im going to meet up with someone there is no point saying im a size 10 when i am a size 16.
But then, im looking for something real, with someone real, that doesnt mean that everyone else online is ( as we all have said)

Suzanne

I'd say the men seemed a lot less worried about not getting what they wanted - and many of them weren't. They were far more likely to make jokes at their own expense, laugh things off, and also make any number of beastly comments about women they'd encountered and not got on with. Whether they were genuinely less concerned, or whether that was just their way of coping, I wouldn't like to say.

They were, as far as I could tell, older men - divorcees or batchelors - and they struck me as not having a particularly definate goal in sight - they were really just seeing who they might meet and see where it went. Different perhaps from those who get paired off earlier in life, like me. DW was only my third serious girlfriend, but I dated all of them with a view to marrying and settling down if things went well. And so here I am - married with kids - sometimes happily, sometimes in outright despair. Such is life.

bane- i know what i want out of a relationship too, ive know for a long time. Its just down to luck of meeting someone who wants the same things as you, when we see dating sites are populated with shit, the odds are tiny.

toad - yeah, people always assume the younger ones are the worse, ive found the older ones just as bad, if not more offensive sometimes.

Do you mean Toad that the men seemed less concerned than the women about being single?

(c'mon now, drop us a link )