to think dh is a twat?

[thesortingtwat]

My Dad died suddenly, violently and intestate last year. Have been thrashing out probate with his wife since; a really trying and emotive situation. I am due to meet her next week to discuss and will need to be assertive as she's not willing to part with any of Dad's personal effects. Dh won't come as moral support as Liverpool are playing. Am I right I thinking he's a selfish twat?

Thanks thesorting my dad has just out all his money into a house with his gf who is not much older than me so I'm sure I'll face this one day too, she's very nice but I can imagine it won't work in my favour.
I really hope it's not too stressful and your dh sees sense this week.

Funnily enough dh just apologised. I've said it's fine (it's not). But I'm not arguing about it. No point.
Thanks for all the constructive suggestions. I want the children to have more to remember Grandad by than newspaper clippings. Last time I was at the house I stole a jumper to cuddle. I hope to fuck she hasn't noticed. But he was my Dad.

Did you leave this thread open accidentally on purpose??

Maybe he will change his mind? Maybe he's a secret mumsnetter.
Surely she'd never begrudge you a jumper

Lol! My mum stole a small rock from my grandmother's garden and my step grandfather noticed and had a go at her!! Unbelievable.

Rude? It's hardly an insult, it's just how it is - some people might not get emotionally invested in that sort of thing at all, perhaps for their own reasons rather than just being a cold or unkind person.

Troglodad I don't agree at all. I for example hare funerals, I do not go, I didn't go to my grandmother's, I haven't been to any aunts & uncle's, my parents are under no illusions that I will be at theirs - I won't, I don't do funerals. I don't visit dead bodies, never seen any of my friends or family's and never will. That's my own personal thing. But when my ex husband asked me to go to his grandads funeral and to go with him to visit the body I did, because that is what a marriage is about, supporting the other partner and putting them first when they need it, getting over your own shit to love them and give them whatever they need to get over their emotional turmoil and trauma. It is not a time to start playing selfish games and being a brat about things.