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Deciding to try for a baby whilst at Medical school… am I mental?

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NurseDoctor · 19/04/2014 13:35

Hi everyone. I've seen a couple of similar posts but nothing very recent. First post here as i'm not actually qualified to be a "mums netter" yet (as not yet a mum!). I am a mature student studying medicine and living with my husband. We have been married for almost 4 years and have recently had a sit down/serious think about when will actually be an optimal time to have children. I am just finishing my first year and will have 4 months off for summer to work and build up our currently sad savings account. Due to the length of the course (5 years) and the 2 years of foundation training following this, followed by specialty selection and training, I can't see any "sensible" time for pregnancy and babies at all. In fact I can see it being put off until very late in life indeed. Unfortunately for me this isn't really a risk I want to take, as I have endometriosis, and, as my GP has kindly pointed out a number of times, the longer I delay the less chance i'll have of a natural conception. So here we are, one year into the course, seriously considering trying for a baby. Our thoughts at present are to possibly try between Sept-Dec this year for a Summer baby (during my holiday) but very aware that the chances of being lucky enough to achieve this are slim.
My question really is, are there any other mums out there who have had babies at university? Did you cope ok with the course? I am also very aware that, as the only married person on my course I will probably be of great interest to fellow students if I were pregnant, how did that make you feel? Sorry for the long post. Fortunately my husband is self employed and works from home, he is incredibly supportive. Pros with waiting seem to be mostly money and cons are time with the baby, chances of conception dwindling which would cause even greater stress.

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ImSoOverIt · 20/04/2014 12:01

Have you had a laparoscopy? I am quite lucky in that my tubes etc seem to be patent and I only had 1 or 2 adhesions that needed taking down and may have been due to my cs rather than the Endo. Just had lots of lesions over the walls of my pelvis.

I have been told that I should be able to conceive again, from the look of things when I had my lap, but I know that sometimes people with Endo seem to have difficulty sometimes even if they have low grade disease and minimal scarring, possibly due to the inflammatory process going on in the pelvis. Also I had my lap a year after having my daughter and it had developed to that stage, so it might have advanced since then.

I have a Mirena now and get no periods and minimal pain, so I'm hoping that's it not progressed too much since my lap.

Good luck op, I'm sure things will work out well for you!

NurseDoctor · 20/04/2014 12:05

ImSoOverIt I've messages you twice, did you get my messages?

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NurseDoctor · 20/04/2014 12:06

Messaged... Sorry autocorrect!

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ImSoOverIt · 20/04/2014 12:07

Sorry on phone app and not checked emails! Will have a look now...

ImSoOverIt · 20/04/2014 12:10

Sorry on phone app and not checked emails! Will have a look now...

Frenchtoastie · 14/09/2022 10:22

Just wondered what you chose to do?
Would love an update
I am making the same decision at the moment

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