27 year old Grandmother

[bongobaby]

Her 12 year old daughter has given birth last Sundayand the dad is 13. She fell pregnant in year 6 of primary school. They are totally in love and into each other and want to get married.
Why an earth would you want to be a grandmother at 27 with a daughter of 12 now a mother.

She probably doesn't want to be

What makes you think she wants to be?

Poor girl.

I think I'd choose grandmother at 27 over my poor MIL grandmother at 70+ now at 80 too blind, forgetful and generally infirm to look after them (which means not only that she can't help us out which she would love to do, but also that she doesn't know the children very well as she never has alone time with them).

So of course not desirable but of the two, I'd choose young granny over old.

What an odd comment. Why should she want to be and what relevance would that have to anything?!

So does the mother get to take any responsibility at all?

I think the youngest grandmother on record was also 23 so this is hardly a new thing!

You think the grandmother suggeste her daughter got pregnant?

What a sad situation. That girl is so misguided and basically you can predict how she will turn out. A poor role model for a mother and now the cycle repeats itself.

What a strange post, there has been no suggestion as far as I've seen that the pregnancy was planned and even if it had been it's very unlikely to have been condoned by her parents.

Obviously that's an extreme case, but these days because people have children so late in life, the other end of the scale may become more of a problem, as SML says.

Several of my friends' mums became grandmothers at 36,37,38 (I was a teenager in the late seventies), and my own mum became a grandma at 45 which wasn't unusual in the early eighties.

Now mums themselves often leave it till so much later, in the next generation I suspect more people will become grandparents in their late seventies or even early eighties and they'll miss out on a lot imo.

DS is 19 and I'm 51, I hope he starts a family before I'm too ancient to look after the littlies

That poor child.

How do we know the mother is a poor role model? as far as i can tell they were both (mother and daughter) children who were sexualised before either were legally able to consent and probably before they were anywhere near emotionally ready.

No but wouldn't you think the grandmother to be maybe could have done something more to guide her daughter into not getting pregnant at 11?

Aren't 11 year olds children anymore?

Totally agree cupidstunt.

Poorbuthappy do you know where your children are at all times? Do you know who they are with when they visit friends? Do your children do exactly as you say?

How old is the grandfather then?

Why isn't the father being prosecuted? Also why mention of the Paternal Grandparents in the news?

The boy and girl have been together for a year and he was a regular visitor to the home. Her mum the grandmother is right behind her and was a young mum herself.

Fwiw my mum is a midwife, became a mother at 31 and drummed into me from i was verbal about getting good grades and safe sex. I still got pregnant at 18 to a druggy boyfriend. My mother didnt exactly throw me a party to celebrate.

She is poor role model because her daughter got pregnant at 11.

How is this suddenly ok?

'I think I'd choose grandmother at 27 over my poor MIL grandmother at 70+ now at 80 too blind, forgetful and generally infirm to look after them (which means not only that she can't help us out which she would love to do, but also that she doesn't know the children very well as she never has alone time with them).'

I'd happily choose grandmotherhood at 70/80 or even 90, rather than see my child become a parent at 12.

woowoo father isn't being prosecuted because he is also a kid. They take these things into consideration.

The grandmother is 27 with a 12 year old so she too had a baby young.

I feel so sorry for those children. 'theyre in love' but they have no idea what love is :(

My 11 year old daughter will not be having sex.

You were 18, that is slightly different to 11.