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27 year old Grandmother

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bongobaby · 16/04/2014 13:02

Her 12 year old daughter has given birth last Sundayand the dad is 13. She fell pregnant in year 6 of primary school. They are totally in love and into each other and want to get married.
Why an earth would you want to be a grandmother at 27 with a daughter of 12 now a mother.

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honeygirlz · 21/07/2020 22:25

oops zombie

rosiejaune · 21/07/2020 22:32

@bongobaby

Her 12 year old daughter has given birth last Sundayand the dad is 13. She fell pregnant in year 6 of primary school. They are totally in love and into each other and want to get married. Why an earth would you want to be a grandmother at 27 with a daughter of 12 now a mother.
I don't see how this timeline is possible. If she is 12 now, she would have just left year 7 of school. Which means she can't have become pregnant in year 6, unless her pregnancy lasted at least a year.
DancingInDespair · 21/07/2020 22:35

I don't see how this timeline is possible. If she is 12 now, she would have just left year 7 of school. Which means she can't have become pregnant in year 6, unless her pregnancy lasted at least a year

Original post was made in April of 2014. This is a zombie thread.

NK346f2849X127d8bca260 · 21/07/2020 22:36

I worked in a mother and baby unit for several years, our youngest mother was 12, i found it a very sad situation.

Prettybluepigeons · 21/07/2020 22:38

Except it was 2014 so they are now 18

rosiejaune · 21/07/2020 22:40

@DancingInDespair

I don't see how this timeline is possible. If she is 12 now, she would have just left year 7 of school. Which means she can't have become pregnant in year 6, unless her pregnancy lasted at least a year

Original post was made in April of 2014. This is a zombie thread.

Yes I see that now I have posted, but she still would have already left year 6 when she conceived (even assuming the baby wasn't premature).
EleanorOalike · 21/07/2020 22:43

It’s very odd that this thread has been resurrected from all the way back in 2014.

Hopefully the person who resurrected it doesn’t have sick intentions given the nature of what it was about Envy.

Inkpaperstars · 21/07/2020 22:44

It's very risky to become pregnant so young, it can permanently damage the body and even leave people unable to have another child. This isn't a case of very old or very young. Those comparisons do not make being pregnant at 13 a good choice. Not saying for a moment that people should feel they must terminate or shouldn't make the best of it once they are in that position, but come on....it's worth trying to make it to 16 first.

prh47bridge · 21/07/2020 22:44

@rosiejaune - It is possible because this is an ancient thread. She gave birth in April 2014.

WombOfOnesOwn · 21/07/2020 22:52

If they get a trifecta on young parenthood, that child is now halfway to reproducing him/herself.

liverpool1981 · 21/07/2020 22:59

We are all different and that is very important for people to remember There is no right time to have a baby and each to their own. It depends on your experience of young mothers and their backgrounds which i think is very important and the support system around them. I used to work with a young mother she was 14 when she fell pregnant parents both doctors who supported her big style and she is now a consultant (not with the father) but happily married with no more kids it does happen and can work out well. I think sensible parents helping a teenage pregnancy is the best backup. Its really not the end of the world as long as the child is loved and cared for

prh47bridge · 21/07/2020 23:03

ZOMBE THREAD

NameChange84 · 21/07/2020 23:03

Its really not the end of the world as long as the child is loved and cared for

What like the 12 year old mother was loved and cared for? Hmm

prh47bridge · 21/07/2020 23:06

@rosiejaune - She gave birth in mid-April so she became pregnant in July, shortly before the end of term. And arguably a child is still in Y6 until the end of August.

But just to say again (not aimed at rosiejaune!) - THIS IS A ZOMBIE THREAD

liverpool1981 · 21/07/2020 23:09

no i mean the newborn

KatherineParr4 · 21/07/2020 23:10

Together for a year? At 12 ??!! So this girl was in a relationship from the age of 11..
Her mother should have put a stop to it right away.

NameChange84 · 21/07/2020 23:12

I got that’s what you meant @liverpool1981. I think your attitude, normalising a 12 year old child having sex at 11 and having a baby is terrifying and abnormal.

And yes, I know it’s a Zombie thread. It was me that first alerted that. I just couldn’t let such a disturbing comment like that go.

Viviennemary · 21/07/2020 23:14

It is child abuse. They should be taken into care to stop this perpetuating down the generations. I thought sex was meant to be illegal under the age of 16.

BitOfFun · 21/07/2020 23:16

@HolidayCriminal

12 was very marriageable age in medieval times. (Witness mother of Henry VII). It really is just the last few hundred yrs we've got the notion of teenage yrs as extended childhood.

I don't want my 12yo pregnant or impregnating, either. I feel very sad for the ppl involved. But it's not shocking. It's pretty biologically normal all things considered.

Just to address the first part about marriageable age in medieval times, we are talking about betrothals made from the cradle, joining great dynasties for political purposes. Even then, the couple would generally be kept separated until much older in their teens (perhaps in recognition of the strains of pregnancy and birth on the very young).

Lower down the social strata, women tended to be quite a lot older, being expected to bring at least skills if not a dowry to the table. The average age of the first period was 14 or so among the less-well-nourished non gentry too.

1forAll74 · 21/07/2020 23:17

Too sad to contemplate, a 12 year old girl having a baby.

BitOfFun · 21/07/2020 23:26

Ah feck, that will teach me not to read to the end Angry.

DisobedientHamster · 21/07/2020 23:33

12 was very marriageable age in medieval times. (Witness mother of Henry VII).

She wasn't able to have any more children after that, either, IIRC, her body was messed up from having a baby at 14.

But hey, all this support for an 11-year-old getting pregnant is unsurprising, look how the Radfords are lauded by the press and she got pregnant when she was 13 and he was 17 or 18.

DisobedientHamster · 21/07/2020 23:36

@Viviennemary

It is child abuse. They should be taken into care to stop this perpetuating down the generations. I thought sex was meant to be illegal under the age of 16.
Can't have that on MN! It will be lovely, they will get support, she will go on to take a first in physics from Cambridge, become a Nobel-prize-winning scientist and marry a billionaire and have 6 more beautiful, outstanding children.
BobFleming · 21/07/2020 23:42

Man hands on misery to man - it deepens like a coastal shelf.

Just a product of their upbringing, sadly.

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