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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To not agree to DP giving up his job?

410 replies

sleepismyfriend · 14/04/2014 09:36

I will try to be brief.

We have a 3 month old baby.

Prior to baby I was building up my business and worked until the day I have birth. Business is now booming and I am very lucky to have a good team behind me who take care of the day to day running of the business. I am at home with our baby and whilst I do have to put some work hours in, I can do it from home and DD is my absolute priority. I mainly work when she has settled down for the night.

DP and I don't live together but we are making a go of things and we do intend to live together within a year,

DP is employed and doesn't like his job. He wants to give it up and work for me. I am not keen on this as I would feel guilty if for any reason the business didn't work, and at least with an employed position he can guarantee how much he earns - my business is only 18 months old and so I don't feel completely secure about it yet.

DP is constantly saying how I'm doing to much, insinuates that I must be stressed all day having to juggle work an DD (I'm not) and that he wants to work for the business and basically take over in a managerial type role.

AIBU to not allow this? Apart from l the security / financial aspects of it, I have built my business up from scratch and don't want him coming along taking all the credit now that's its really taking off. Am I being selfish? I'm not sure if I will be going back full time to work there as I am very happy working from home and looking after DD - it doesn't mean he has to take over though does it?

If it makes any difference, he earns approx 30k PA in a 45 hour a week job. My business profits are approx 200k PA.

Some outside perspectives on this would be great.

OP posts:
Hissy · 24/04/2014 14:22

it's threads like these that make me almost pity the dickheads our fellow dear MNers come up against.

ALMOST

kungfupannda · 24/04/2014 15:09

FTW?

Clipboard - was that something to do with Mrs DeV's bungalow problem. And didn't it involve nice boots as well?

mistlethrush · 24/04/2014 15:18

Yes, KFP it did. And a very smart suit too I think. Grin

BTW, any reoccurrence of Mrs nasty car driver?

kungfupannda · 24/04/2014 16:00

Never seen her again!

Although I did have the pleasure of another lunatic this morning. She tried to enter one of the narrow bits on the hill while I was coming out of it, and then tried to get me to reverse all the way back up again, so she didn't have to back up all of 3 feet.

I declined. She waved her arms, tried to squeeze through, and promptly stalled, couldn't do a hill start and rolled back into the hedge.

The bloke behind her was highly entertained.

I wasn't, of course. Me? Laughing? No, not me.....

SolidGoldBrass · 24/04/2014 16:38

I don't think the OP would need to worry about this man making accusations that she is mad - she's smart and articulate and it would be completely obvious that he is a deluded, predatory arse.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 24/04/2014 17:02

FTW = for the win. It's a compliment...

...one whose effectiveness is reduced if the recipient doesn't understand it, agreed!

MomOfTwoGirls2 · 24/04/2014 18:16

I seriously thought FTW was What The Fuck done backwards!! Ha ha ha ha.

kungfupannda · 24/04/2014 18:18

I assumed it wasn't an insult! I like to be optimistic about these things Grin

But I had no idea what it might mean!

glasgowstevenagain · 01/07/2014 14:03

I wonder how this thread turned out...

hettie · 01/07/2014 14:13

No no no! "take over from what I'm doing" cheeky fucker! Does have any skills, experience or enthusiasm for the thing that your businesses does. Suggest he works for a competitor of he's interested then apply if a role comes up.... Honestly outraged at the nerve of him!

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