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Original poster

to think my colleague should not have told not to say this??

214 replies

sweeterthanhoney · 30/03/2014 12:07

So we were talking about relationships at work and I said - I can't believe I've been with my partner for 5 years, that shit cray"

My colleague gave me this look Confused and said don't ever say that again and then laughed.

Aibu to think I can say what I want.

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PerpendicularVince · 30/03/2014 13:01

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JodieGarberJacob · 30/03/2014 13:01

As soon as I read the op I assumed the colleague was paraphrasing Blackadder!
"And don't say 'Tush', either! It's only a short step from 'Tush' to 'Hey nonny nonny', and then I'm afraid I shall have to call the police!" Grin

HappyMummyOfOne · 30/03/2014 13:01

Wow, you must have kept it under control to have got a job in the first place.

The colleague was most likely trying to be helpful, adults dont talk like that and certainly not in a work environment.

mrspremise · 30/03/2014 13:02
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sweeterthanhoney · 30/03/2014 13:08

Firstly, your colleague sounds great to tolerate you a. talking inanely about your personal life in the office

It was a general conversation. Everyone was talking about their personal life. I didn't stand up, clap my hands and announce it.

b. to gently mock 'that shit cray' without actually telling you off

I'm actually higher up than she is, so no there would have been no "telling off"

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Moomey · 30/03/2014 13:12

Gosh, I feel old!

Bunbaker · 30/03/2014 13:14

"It really doesn't mean that. Cray is short for crazy."

Really. I have never heard that before.

But then I'm not a teenager, or even in my twenties (or 30s or 40s Blush)

Nomama · 30/03/2014 13:16

You are higher up.... that makes it worse.

You are undermining yourself, take the hint, stop now! Really, sweeterthanhoney, it is probably very hard to take but you are going to have to accept that you have made an error.

Happily it is not an enormous error and you seem to have colleagues (minions) who are supportive and not afraid to let you know. Just don't do it again! Or any variation of it.

MissDuke · 30/03/2014 13:21

I have never heard that phrase, and hopefully won't again!

ilovesooty · 30/03/2014 13:23

Just goes to demonstrate that seniority at work isn't necessarily coupled with professionalism or self awareness.

maras2 · 30/03/2014 13:25

Can't believe you're still banging on about your right to use a term so arse cringingly ' Yoof ' . Are you not a tiny bit embarrassed ? Of course you have a right but , sheesh , why the heck would you want to ?

Driveway · 30/03/2014 13:26

I think the correct pronunciation is "cray cray". That's probably what she was annoyed about.

squeakytoy · 30/03/2014 13:26

Since when was cray an abbreviation of crazy.. ??

mrsjay · 30/03/2014 13:30

if a grown up woman said that to me she would get a look Hmm as well you can say what you want just sometimes the things we say can make as look bit daft,

EduCated · 30/03/2014 13:31

I think you got off lightly with a bit of teasing.

SetPhasersTaeMalkie · 30/03/2014 13:32

Yes I think you meant cray cray. Certainly that's what DS and his friends say. They are 12.

If a senior at my work spoke like you are saying you did I would be more than a little concerned about them.

ilovepowerhoop · 30/03/2014 13:32

I thought it was a typo and OP had written cray instead of crazy. have never ever heard the expression before

ADishBestEatenCold · 30/03/2014 13:33

"I'm actually higher up than she is..."

So she is a 'she'. Thank you for that indirect piece of information (I would have hated to repeat my earlier assumption).

"It was a general conversation. Everyone was talking about their personal life."

Everyone?! You mean there was a group of people there?! It wasn't just discretely in the corner?! In the midst of a group of people, you suddenly started talking in urban slang?! Worse, in young teenage urban slang?!!! Grin

"...so no there would have been no "telling off""

Are you her boss or team leader, something like that? She probably wasn't 'telling you off', she was probably cringing for you and trying to disassociate, at the same time.

Do you normally talk that way, sweeterthanhoney? If not, I think you should just put it down to one of those excruciating faux pas we all make from time to time (then beat ourselves up with), and forget it.

ilovesooty · 30/03/2014 13:34

My last manager used to use terminology like "good in da hood". Just embarrassing from someone in a senior role.

gordyslovesheep · 30/03/2014 13:35

all I am reading is 'am I bovvad though' - sorry

FunkyBoldRibena · 30/03/2014 13:37

Are you from Rotherham OP?

pancakedayiscoming · 30/03/2014 13:38

I didn't understand what you said until reading the thread. Perhaps she misunderstood you too. And of course freedom of speech and all that, and questionable thread worthiness and ... my comments runeth dry at this point.

SetPhasersTaeMalkie · 30/03/2014 13:38

DS uses all kinds of strange expressions. When I sent a text all I get back is kk. However, as I said he is 12 so it's perfectly normal to try to be cool.

I agree though that in an adult it is cringe making.

phantomnamechanger · 30/03/2014 13:39

is this the way people expect to be able to speak at work thesedays? and you are the senior colleague? jeepers!

ADishBestEatenCold · 30/03/2014 13:39

Are you from Rotherham OP?

What's wrong with Rotherham?

Not that I've ever been there. I just thought I should know.

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