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...to feel strongly that women should not wash their private parts with soap, nor use feminine freshness wipes?

364 replies

Needlesswidow · 21/03/2014 19:06

And the reason this is bothering me now is because I have had an argument with my (otherwise lovely) "waxing technician" because every time I go for a brazilian she insists on wiping me, inside my vagina after every spread of wax, with these packeted wipes.

How is it that we are in 2014 and the medical profession has not done a good enough job to make women aware that using products which remove the oils/mucous from places like the urethra/vagina/anus, causes problems with bacterial infection?

OP posts:
TalkieToaster · 21/03/2014 19:41

Yes. I know that. I'm fully aware of where most mucous membranes are on my body. I'm not arguing with you about using just water, because I do that too. I am saying that you are wrong in calling it your vagina, because it's not. Vagina is the inside bit where you'd stick a tampon, or a penis, or whatever the hell else you want to put up there.

GingerRodgers · 21/03/2014 19:42

They're not internal and can become areas for bacteria to build up so yes they can be if one so wishes.

Plus, you shouldn't really have hair growing around your urethra ShockConfused

BuffytheReasonableFeminist · 21/03/2014 19:42

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WeeSleekit · 21/03/2014 19:42

This is one of the strangest threads I've read on here and I've been here a while.

WottaTheOdds · 21/03/2014 19:43

Lips, clit and anus should not be washed with soap!

Nor, ideally, should they be slathered in hot wax, but you've already said you don't want to talk about that, so I'll shut up and mind my own beeswax

OwlCapone · 21/03/2014 19:43

I certainly agree that you shouldn't wash your fanjo with Original Source Tea tree and Mint shower gel.

BornToFolk · 21/03/2014 19:43

So, washing with soap is bad but applying hot wax to remove all hair is fine....oooookay Hmm

Personally, I feel very strongly that women should do whatever the fuck they like with their own private parts.

looselegs · 21/03/2014 19:43

have used simple soap for years and years without any problems......definately wouldn't feel clean without it!

CoteDAzur · 21/03/2014 19:44

Maybe if you washed your fanjo properly, the poor girl wouldn't have to wipe it before touching it.

JohnnyBarthes · 21/03/2014 19:44

I use mine to carry credit cards, car keys, a bottle of water... Talkie

Saves ruining the outline of my handbag.

TalkieToaster · 21/03/2014 19:44

Oh god yes, never ever wash your genitals in minty stuff.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/03/2014 19:44

www.nhs.uk/Livewell/vagina-health/Pages/keep-vagina-clean.aspx

Washing your vagina

It’s a good idea to avoid perfumed soaps, gels and antiseptics as these can affect the healthy balance of bacteria and pH levels in the vagina, and cause irritation.
Use plain, unperfumed soaps to wash the area around the vagina (the vulva) gently every day. The vagina will clean itself inside your body with natural vaginal secretions (discharge). “During your period, washing more than once a day may be helpful,” says Dr Elneil, who points out that keeping the perineal area (between the vagina and anus) clean is important too. “Good perineal hygiene is necessary, by washing that area at least once a day using your normal bathing routines.”
“All women are different,” says Professor Lamont. “Some may wash with perfumed soap and not notice any problems. But if a woman has vulval irritation or symptoms, then one of the first things you can do is to use non-allergenic, plain soaps to see if that helps.”
Vaginal douches

A douche flushes water up into the vagina, clearing out vaginal secretions. Some women use a douche to "clean" the vagina, but using a douche can disrupt the normal vaginal bacteria so it isn't recommended that you use one.
“I can’t think of any circumstances where douches are helpful, because all they do is wash out everything that’s in the vagina, including all the healthy bacteria,” explains Professor Lamont.
There is no evidence that douching protects against STIs or vaginal infections, and it may even increase the risk.
Scented wipes and vaginal deodorants

These perfumed products can disrupt the vagina’s healthy, natural balance. “If nature had intended the vagina to smell like roses or lavender, it would have made the vagina smell like roses or lavender,” says Professor Lamont.
Washing with water and a plain soap should be all you need to keep your vagina healthy. It’s normal for the vagina to have a scent. “Vaginal odour can change at different times of the reproductive cycle and shouldn’t always be thought of as being a sign of infection or illness,” says Dr Elneil.
If you’re worried about the way your vagina smells, if the smell is unpleasant, or you’re using perfumed products to cover up your vagina’s smell, you should see your GP. You might have an infection that needs treatment.

quietlysuggests · 21/03/2014 19:45

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Needlesswidow · 21/03/2014 19:45

CoteDAzur you are so mean! There is nothing wrong with my fanjo!

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CoteDAzur · 21/03/2014 19:45

Why on earth would you not wash your anus with soap? Shock

WottaTheOdds · 21/03/2014 19:46

Barthes you are a scream!!!

Talkie and owl damn and blast you both to hell...I will not rest easy now until I have tried the Tea Tree thing!

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks · 21/03/2014 19:47

Grown women can wash their bits how ever they choose OP.
You can have hairs ripped out of your intimate areas by a therapist because you are a grown woman and it is your choice.

It sounds as though your therapist was cleaning the area to prepare it for the wax, and based on my experience on eyebrow waxing (not brave enough to have the Brazilian Wink ) that is normal. It is done, I believe, to clean the area to reduce any bacteria / sweat that maybe down there so the wax sticks and you don't get bacteria in the open pores.
If you don't like it go elsewhere / switch to shaving / DIY fanjo wax...

Owllady · 21/03/2014 19:47

That diagram makes my vagina seem normal

OwlCapone · 21/03/2014 19:47

DONT DO IT

I can not stress this enough.

expatinscotland · 21/03/2014 19:48

Your vagina and urethra are internal parts of your body. She is wiping your vulva whilst you have hair removed from your labia and perineum.

OwlCapone · 21/03/2014 19:48

Wash it with minty tea tree stuff that is.

It burns.

WottaTheOdds · 21/03/2014 19:48

DONT DO IT I can not stress this enough

That's it! I am headed for the shower. I may be gone a long time!

Sunflower49 · 21/03/2014 19:49

Q 1-inside your vagina. As in up the vaginal passage?Or inside your 'flaps'?I feel differently about these two things.

Q2-Is she using a femfresh or scented wipe of sorts, or is she using a wipe fortified with substances to soothe the effect of wax?Again,I feel different about the two things.

When I wax or shave, I use some soothing 'aftercare' wipes. Granted they're unscented. Wouldn't dream of using any scented product on my bits, no way no how. Rarely use bubblebath even though I love it, for reasons the same.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/03/2014 19:49

Why on earth would you not wash your anus with soap?

Perhaps OP has confused anus with rectum?

CoteDAzur · 21/03/2014 19:49

Maybe ask her why she wipes it. You might learn something from her answer.

She might be doing it to disinfect your skin after waxing it. Or to remove the residual bits of wax.

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