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...to feel strongly that women should not wash their private parts with soap, nor use feminine freshness wipes?

364 replies

Needlesswidow · 21/03/2014 19:06

And the reason this is bothering me now is because I have had an argument with my (otherwise lovely) "waxing technician" because every time I go for a brazilian she insists on wiping me, inside my vagina after every spread of wax, with these packeted wipes.

How is it that we are in 2014 and the medical profession has not done a good enough job to make women aware that using products which remove the oils/mucous from places like the urethra/vagina/anus, causes problems with bacterial infection?

OP posts:
Fairylea · 21/03/2014 19:08

I'm more concerned she's wiping inside your vagina. Surely that's not a normal part of a wax?!

Forgettable · 21/03/2014 19:08

Um

she ought not be doing that Shock

Trifle · 21/03/2014 19:09

Why is is that in 2014 women feel the need to be sprawled, legs akimbo to have their natural body hair painfully removed in the first place.

Goblinchild · 21/03/2014 19:10

But don't you want to be bald and beautiful, inside and out?
Presumably the wipes are expensively designed to not cause the issues you are concerned about.
Oh look, soap-free. Luvverly

www.amazon.co.uk/Vagisil-Intimate-Medicated-Flushable-Feminine/dp/B000LNCBE4

onepieceoflollipop · 21/03/2014 19:10

She is assaulting you if she is wiping inside, unless you consented to this?

Needlesswidow · 21/03/2014 19:11

Come on people, it is a medical truth, that soaps/wipes mess up the mucous membrane!

This is not a debate about why I wax, it's a debate about why it is not widely known that soaps/wipes mess up the mucous membranes

OP posts:
VoyageDeVerity · 21/03/2014 19:11

Women should not was their private parts with soap? Are you serious?

VoyageDeVerity · 21/03/2014 19:11

Wash

Binkyridesagain · 21/03/2014 19:11

If you haven't asked to be wiped in that area why are you letting her carry on? You do understand that you have the right to refuse.

InflatableBrick · 21/03/2014 19:11

Inside your actual vagina?

brokenhearted55a · 21/03/2014 19:12

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LidlAngel · 21/03/2014 19:12

Good god. Inside you? Really? That's obscene.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/03/2014 19:12

Do you mean inside your vagina?! Or do you actually mean just between your flaps as it were?

Other than that I agree with your sentiments, unless one particularly enjoys thrush, BV etc

HadABadDay2014 · 21/03/2014 19:13

Trifle because I like it, I don't do it for DH or to be what society thinks is normal. I do it for myself.

Surely the insides of your vag don't need wiping before waxing.

I always wash down below, the last time I had thrush was in pregnancy 5 years ago.

HaymitchAbarnathy · 21/03/2014 19:13

When you say inside, do you mean inside!?

EmmaBemma · 21/03/2014 19:13

This is like that episode of friends when Joey discovers that not all tailors do 'cupping'.

Goblinchild · 21/03/2014 19:13

Lots of crap messes up your body, inside and out. Doesn't stop women determined to arse about from exercising their free will.
Did you know that high heels are bad for your feet too?

Needlesswidow · 21/03/2014 19:13

Goblinchild "medical" it says. Because it contains a chemical!

Water is all we need!

OP posts:
HadABadDay2014 · 21/03/2014 19:14

I wouldn't feel clean if I just used water.

expatinscotland · 21/03/2014 19:15

So she is inserting wipes inside your vagina?

I'm confused.

WooWooOwl · 21/03/2014 19:15

Your waxist is either very wierd or thinks you're a bit manky down there.

Anyway, YABVU. It is not to business to feel anything strongly about what I do or don't do to my private parts.

Fwiw, I've washed my bits with soap or shower gel pretty much every day, and I've managed to make it to my mid thirties without ever having had a problem with my mucous membranes.

VoyageDeVerity · 21/03/2014 19:15

Excuse me but of those of you who don't wash your vulval / labial area have partners and a sex life?

alwaysneedaholiday · 21/03/2014 19:15

It just seems strange that someone who has their pubic hair ripped out, wants to tell other women how they should look after their bodies Hmm

AlpacaLypse · 21/03/2014 19:16

You're the one paying for this service. Tell her that if she uses medicated wipes on your person again despite clearly being asked not to, you will not be paying the bill and will be making adverse comments about the service you received at that salon on every advertising website they use, starting with their FB page.

shouldnthavesaid · 21/03/2014 19:16

If you really have to wash - it is sometimes necessary - ask GP for dermol solution. Tis wonderful. Have used it for washing for years and it's lovely/softening..

But to the OP - I'm sure she shouldn't be cleaning the inside or indeed even needing to look at that bits, Brazilian or not!