to send home this boy's treats?

[manicinsomniac]

A child in my class had a birthday today. They brought in treats to give to the class but said that they didn't want X to have one as 'we don't get on and aren't really friends.'

Stupidly, I said 'No, sorry, you have to share with everybody in the class or else you'll have to take them home and nobody gets one ' I thought a threat like that would instantly make the child say they would share. It didn't, they said 'ok, I'll take them home'. So I had no choice but to follow through with it and the treats are still in my desk drawer!

Now I am terrified of facing this child's mum at home time and admitting what I did. I have 10 minutes! She has wasted her money now.

As a parent would you be angry at me or your child?

I'm also worried that the child the birthday child wanted to leave out will get the blame from the class for nobody getting treats rather than the birthday boy.

minnie.

I agree that I wouldn't have bothered facing the child's mum. This has nothing to do with your role as a teacher. I'd have just given them back to him. The mother was wrong, it's not your job to insist everyone gets one of HIS sweets if that's not what he wants and he'd prefer to keep them. They weren't your sweets to hand out. He should have just handed them out to his friends at playtime if he was fussy about who got them. I'm surprised late primary chool teachers are getting involved in this nonsense.

Credit where due crazy, IMO. I felt the op was looking for professional development. I thought you gave that best out of all responses. I was one of the others til I read yours and thought a bit. Hence late response.