to feel a little disappointed that my children have been uninvited to a wedding.

[emptychair]

Just that really.

I get that they can have whatever wedding they want, their day, their way, etc etc. But nothing was mentioned at the save the date stage, or the reserving the accommodation stage.

I'd already RSVPed with a yes from all of us so how do I word my reply? Obv, if we can't get childcare, we won't be able to go after all.

This may sound pathetic to some but I'm actually really sad about it and not looking forward to telling the children they won't be going after all.

This makes no sense. I thought it was no kids under ten .

They have changed their mind about various aspects since my first post.

Clearly.

FabBakerGirl no, not so much faith in my friends removing loud children since my friends who had weddings where the vows were obscured by noise from children probably also thought they'd take them out.

I don't know why you would assume that your children are invited in the first place.

But good that everything has turned out well, although perhaps the bride was trying to avoid a conflict by allowing your children to come.

TBH when DH and I were saying our vows I felt like no one else was there so not sure I'd have heard, or cared, about any noise.