AIBU to think you shouldn't discipline another child...

[MogwaiTheGremlin]

...unless it's something quite serious?

My ds is 19 months and this morning we went to a new playgroup for the first time so I didn't know any of the other mums. Ds went over to an older/bigger child and grabbed a toy car off him. The other child didn't seem too put out (no outraged squawk / crying) but I made my way over to return it to the child as he had clearly been playing with it. Before I got there the child's mother / carer had grabbed it back off ds and said quite loudly "No! Don't snatch. He was playing with it".

I was a bit miffed because I wouldn't discipline a child I didn't know and also I try to save "No" for serious crimes. We are teaching ds to pass things nicely (failed!) and an adult grabbing something sets a bad example. Also because she raised her voice a few people turned to look and it made ds' behaviour seem much worse than it was. Just a bit embarrassing as we were new.

I realise it's not a big deal but AIBU?

I would not bother with those that leave you slightly miffed.

So you keep saying

it is one word against another anyway and we have one side only

Such is the nature of MN. It becomes a pretty pointless exercise if you start making up your own assumption based scenario

Is having the last word really so very important to you? If so, please feel free

Very rarely Tamer.

I have lots of experience and most mums behave very well.

I will have my last word

Oh dear.

Isn't this rather like the mentality of the lady who snatched the toy, she couldn't just let it go and smile, she had to have the last say didn't she, just like you

I never used no either really. Just occasionally. I tend to talk about taking turns or telling a child when they can actually do something even if its tomorrow/next week instead if this instant. Seems more positive that way. My kids do have regular boundaries though and are well behaved sweet boys.

I think not was fine for the mother to say something but there was no need to raise her voice.

Tamer do you see any irony at all to your contributions in this thread particularly those directed at Goldmantra.

Oh I liked toddler groups for me. I don't think they have any use to "socialise" children. They're not puppies

I'm looking for some advice, my son is 2.5 years old, currently in the terrible two stage. I do however have a very short fuse and not very much patience.. i tend to shout alot which I feel awful about, I have got better lately but lately he is really trying me. He has however started to copy me and shouts and screams which was obviously gonna happen.. he is also very clingy as of lateky. I work part time only 2 days a week, family was having him for me to work, but my friend started having him one day a week and for a couple of weeks it was great, then he started shouting at her kids, screaming crying for me being naughty kicking doors etc, he is an only child that likes to play 247 and my friends children will pay but not all the time and he shouts and them to play. He shouts far to much and I feel like an awful mother.. ive stopped shouting now but hes naughty sometimes and doesnt listen and shouts? Any advice x