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Ok so I posted earlier but I've now had to call the police...

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MeepMeepVrooom · 25/02/2014 17:14

I posted earlier about my ExH taking pictures from my FB page and putting them on his, he tagged his girlfriend of 2 weeks in them etc etc...

I have just been to pick up my DD from nursery to be told than a woman fitting his new girlfriends description tried to collect DD from nursery. They called me but I was already on my way and told them I would deal with it, they refused to release my DD (obviously) and waited on me.

She was gone by the time i got there and have called 101 once I was home.

This bizarre behaviour seems to be escalating and I'm getting worried. I know where the woman is right now and tbh I'm trying my best to stay calm and not go to her and go through her like a ton of bricks.

Has anyone been in this position? I'm really struggling to sit tight right now.

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MeepMeepVrooom · 26/02/2014 16:50

I'm just paraphrasing really. My solictor did mention caution though. Is that the same as a warning then?

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Meerka · 26/02/2014 16:51
Nicknacky · 26/02/2014 16:54

No the caution system in England is an alternative to prosecution and the offender admits the offence. I imagine vicar could explain it better as I have never used it.

Whereisegg · 26/02/2014 16:56

Brilliant news op, I was worried that the pictures they copied might have been for attempting to obtain a passport.

Do contact ss as the police advised, especially as you have no idea why her dc were taken.

And, yes, beer Grin

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MeepMeepVrooom · 26/02/2014 16:56

I'll double check with my solicitor it must be a warning... I think my brain is officially pickled and refusing to take on new information at the moment.

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WetDogLovesHubert · 26/02/2014 17:02

Delurking to say well done on staying so calm and clear-headed over this meep. I hope things progress swiftly with regards the PSO etc. Enjoy your food and wine tonight Thanks

BeCool · 26/02/2014 17:05

good news and well done OP.

As to no crime being committed is there not a crime of "attempted kidnap/abduction"?

Meerka · 26/02/2014 17:05

heh, the good news about passport photos is that they are so demanding about the precise dimensions and background that it's nearly impossible to take any normal pic of them =) (afaik, dunno if technical wizardry could do something)

Whereisegg · 26/02/2014 17:10

I know they're pretty specific, but a close up shot, in front of a plain wall...

Was a leap, I know, just wanted to check.
Spectacularly pleased to be wrong Smile

QOD · 26/02/2014 17:10

Wow. Just ... Wow

ADishBestEatenCold · 26/02/2014 17:36

Been lurking and just wanted to say that I am so pleased you and your DD are safe, MeepMeep! Hope you and your friend have a lovely evening relaxing over that food and wine!

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 26/02/2014 17:38

BeCool
Her ex has Parental Responsibility too, so he could give his GF permission to pick up the DD. So if the GF had "permission" from one the parents then there isn't any attempt to abduct. This is why the Court Orders are necessary to control his actions and that of his GF.

Timeforabiscuit · 26/02/2014 17:49

bloody hell Meep!

Wine Wine Wine Wine Wine

Grin Hope you get a few days of TLC
yegodsandlittlefishes · 26/02/2014 18:35

Flowers glad you're staying with a friend, meep. Sleep well, and get some rest.

WhereMyMilk · 26/02/2014 18:38

Well done meep, have a good evening. Be safe.

diaimchlo · 26/02/2014 18:42

Great news

Mmmbacon · 26/02/2014 18:46

Another virtual hug here,

Ex kidnapped my dd and kept her for several hours, police out looking for them due to threats he had made, it wasnt long after that he had all access withdrawn, even supervised, he hasn't seen dd in years, I'm glad she us older know as this thread has put a shiver down my spine on what could off happened if he found us and tried to collect dd from school,

HadABadDay2014 · 26/02/2014 18:55

Glad the police and courts are on your side.

Well done for staying calm during this very stressful time. I hope the courts now provoke his PR and give you full custody.

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MeepMeepVrooom · 26/02/2014 18:58

BeCool Unfortunately it isn't seen as that as her father has parental responsibility and is saying he gave permission Hmm not sure I agree with this approach but I accept that is the law.

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RandomMess · 26/02/2014 19:02

Glad you've made legal progress today.

giraffesCantBoogie · 26/02/2014 19:06

Hiya. Read this last nigth but didnt reply. Came back to check today. Glad you and dd are safe.

If you are going to chat about cautions on here then can I state loudly that CAUTIONS IN ENGLAND AND SCOTLAND ARE DIFFERENT! :) Seen many threads with great confusion and people almost being accused of trolling because of this as someone will say X happened, and another people will quite rightly say that they know that could NEVER happen, both are right but one is talking about Scottish law and the other English.

Was thinking of you today actually (in a non stalkerish way!) Not sure where in Sotland you are but on radio today was a man who tried to pick up a girl from school by calling and pretending to be her Dad....he was unrelated! Scary! Anyway the school were being praised for their actions - made me think of your nursery.

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MeepMeepVrooom · 26/02/2014 19:31

I did see that but it's a different part of Scotland from me. I'm going to go just now, try and put the last days to the back of my mind for now and to drink wine and eat too much food

Thanks again, I can't actually say how grateful I am for the support and advice. It's really helped Thanks

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Ilovewaleswhenitrains · 26/02/2014 19:42

I'm glad you are both safe and you are staying with a friend. You have coped with this situation really well.

giraffesCantBoogie · 26/02/2014 20:15

enjoy the vino!

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