aibu to hate this expression?

[ginbin54]

The expression "full time mother" drives me nuts! It's as if when you leave the house to go to work you stop being their mums. We are all full time mum's whether we are stay at home or have to go out to work.

Like it tex

fideline you seem a bit defensive, I will say again I haven't got a prob with the term homemaker or whatever you like! I'm not bothered what term is used just pointing out it's something we all do!

Why do people object to housewife? Is it because of the connotations?

I don't understand how a sahm with school age children is more of a full time mum than a wohm - even if I thought it appropriate in other circumstances?
But I truly loathe the term full term mummy- it makes me heave

Gets boring this business of people insisting they have 208 hours in their week...

And why is it whenever I question any of this militant WOHM stuff everyone assumes I am a SAHM? I'm not

I really don't care if woman want to work or stay at home, their decision to make, I make my own decisions BUT when I see people on Facebook using the term Full time Mummy to describe their employment that just make my blood boil. You are not employed as a full time mummy and if you are does that then mean I have two full time jobs as well???

Really Bling? Your blood boils because someone refers to themselves as a FTM?

This has been going on for at least a week over several threads. Do people really care this much how other people refer to their Mon-Fri, 9-5, occupation?

"Its the full time bit I suppose that winds people up. As if you are somehow making a point - although I am not sure what that point is?"

Really? Are you being serious? Because I don't hear any point making at all in that.

Maybe it is all just a matter of perception, in which case surely everyone should be free to define their role themselves?

Really they should be called "full time mothers with shitloads of compulsory overtime" since any job role described as full time but that was actually 24 hours would be against the European Health Directive, or something.

Mothers who work out of the home should be described as "moonlighters" since they are effectively taking on two separate roles on a 'full time hours' basis

I'm DEFINITELY overthinking it.

It doesn't bother me if people call themselves a FT mum, but I always think it sounds a bit like they're trying to justify their role by giving it a title. Not saying they are, but it just sounds a bit like that.

Often on gameshows people will say "I'm Jean, I'm 64 and I'm a full time mum from Swansea" and I think 'really??'. Maybe that's an exaggeration but ykwim. It's as if on the application form they had to fill in the 'job' box or it wouldn't submit, so they put that.

I hate the phrase full Time mum, not overly keen on SAHM as it's a bit of a mouthful

Like chief exec of domestic operations...still a bit long

For the love of god won't someone tell me what I can call myself

(If someone asks me what I do I always say "as little as possible")

The idea that anyone would feel the need to justify taking a full-time hands-on approach to raising their children for a period of time makes me feel incredibly sad.

I wonder if you're right though? Do people feel the need to justify it?

I suppose I have always thought of it as being a paramedic or something. Shit pay and conditions + extremely important work = instant respect. The kind of job where loads of people are going to think "I couldn't do it. I couldn't AFFORD to do it, even" but still, good hones meaningful labour.

honest^

Here's an idea. Why don't people just refer to themselves however the hell they like.
If a wohm gets offended at someone calling themselves a full time mum, then so be it. I doubt any offence is meant.

Radical Bod

I think some women DO use 'full-time mum' as a phrase to justify what they do; precisely because some people are going to make assumptions that they spend their time loafing about watching telly.

How's this for a radical idea: childless women and men don't really give a shit what women with children call themselves. It really is not important. However, as an "older" mum - I was 39 when I had my first and so spent most of my adult life childless - I used to find the phrase full time wife and mum/mummy very patronising as it seems to imply that childless women are a somewhat lesser species and these people are somehow morally superior rather than totally insecure and needing to justify their place in the world. I thought I'd be more tolerant when I had children....but find I'm not. Sorry.