aibu to hate this expression?

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The expression "full time mother" drives me nuts! It's as if when you leave the house to go to work you stop being their mums. We are all full time mum's whether we are stay at home or have to go out to work.

Ha ha xpost HunterWellies

Do a lot of SAHM's return to work once the child/ren are in school??

Yes, I totally agree Therealamanda. Totally separate issue. I was just having a bit of a lighthearted rant, because that particular phrase keeps popping up. I also think people can refer to themselves however they see fit, but I personally dislike the term full time mum to describe someone who isn't currently working. I just think we're all full time mums, regardless of if we stay at home or not.

YANBU. I hate it too, because the implication is that wohm are in some way part time mothers. I particularly hate it when the childen of the mother in question are all at school.

It was absolutely never my intention to imply that I was judgemental towards people who choose to go out to work. I have no choice, but if I did it would definitely be my choice to work outside the home, although maybe slightly fewer hours!

Shouldn't the term be 'unemployed'? If, by some horrendous chance I should be made redundant, I will not be a 'full time mum', I will be unemployed.

I don't know Writerwannabe, but apparently when your DC are in full time school it's a bit (puzzling) as to why you refer to yourself as a 'SAHM' with all those hours to fill without the DC.

Sight 'unemployed' implies that you are looking for paid employment.

NO. It shouldn't be "unemployed"
Really, there is no implication. It is all inference.
Chill out. It's Sunday FFS!

I don't think 'unemployed' is the relevant term if the reason you aren't working is because you have chosen not to work (for whatever reason). Unemployed to me implies that you are looking for work.

I object to it for different reasons. Why does "full time" even come into it? Plenty of people hold company directorships and don't attend every day. Are they designated as "part time company director" because their job doesn't account for 35+ hours a week?

I don't like housewife as I do fuckall round the house and sahm equally doesn't describe me that well. So I put either "career break" or "mother" depending on who is asking or as the mood takes me

I can understand why a woman would choose to SAH whilst the baby/child is young but I don't understand why they wouldn't want to start work again when the child/ren are at school?

Cross post with just about everyone! And agree with amanda it's the difference between inference and implication! Very good point

You don't need to understand it though writerwannabe
Different people. Different lives.

I've been both - a single, unemployed full - time mum (I didn't have a job so when LO was a baby and when he started nursery/reception I was at home cleaning etc, this is what I did full time)

Now I'm a single, part-time employed mum.

When I'm at work LO is either at school or with his Grandma.

I don't feel the need to classify myself this way in conversation at all. If I'm talking to people about parenting, the one thing I might class myself as, is a single parent.

Some people take offence to that! Because EX buggered off when LO was 5 months old and sees him occasional Saturdays when he can be bothered and his bitch wife will allow it I am a single parent. He in no way does an equal share of the parenting.

I have no intention of working again. I worked full time until i had dc1 aged 32 and part time until i had dc2 at 35. If I had to financially I would.

I would be able to earn a tiny amount compared to DH. There's no monetary value in my working. And I am very happy being a 'housewife'.

I don't understand why people have the need to question that.

I can't understand why women go to work when they don't need to.

But surely at some point you'll be looking for work again. I admit,I was being cheeky. I hate the term 'full time mum' because of its inherent smugness: I'm a mummy, my children are more important to me than someone who works outside the home. On the flip side, 'full time mum' can also sound like a bit of a cop out: look, I am important, I have a title and everything.

Right back at you Writerwannabe

Well, I can't keep saying it but no, personally, I don't intend looking for work again.