to think that 8 is too young to wear a crop top (in place of a vest)

[MrsGoslingWannabe]

DD wants a "child bra". She means a crop top and said "all the girls in her class have them" (not true). I hate it but I imagine that at PE changing time there is now a discussion over who has them and the fact that those who don't are "showing their boobies". I hate the pressure to conform.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

My DD started with the crop top or racer back tops in Yr 5 - all her friends were wearing them and of course she noticed these sort of things in PE

Before that she'd had a camisole vest (thin straps, ribbon trim)

Now she's in M&S teen bras.

[NoMoreMarbles]

I buy my DD the crop top "bras" as she is starting to develop (precocious puberty) and I feel she need a little bit of support over and above what a vest could give.

Girls of my DDs age are desperate to be older IME and want the things a big girl has (DD wants make up and perfume ATM) so I don't mind so much on the crop top thing as it means it is not a bra but she also still feels a little more grown up!

[Neverending2012]

It's not about you op it's about her.

[MrsGoslingWannabe]

at Never

It is funny that among all the useful well-meaning advice there's always someone trying to stir it. I said DD was happy and that's the main thing.

[Nocomet]

I'm afraid OP. their do seem to be some posters on MN at the moment, who have to make pointless nasty comments.

It's a pity, it's a habit DD2 grew out of aged 7

[Moonlightruby320]

Hi

I brought my daughter a crop top when she was eight years old. She also said to me that every girl but her in the class has one. Sometimes they want one because they may feel left out in class, sometimes they want one because it makes them feel grown up. I think that you actually require one when you are about nine or ten, because that is the age they show signs of developing.

[Greengoddess12]

Zombie thread from 2014.

Guessing the ops dd now has a bra!

[Borntoflyinfirst]

I haven't read the whole thread so I apologise if repeating others points. My oldest dd is almost 12 and has been wearing crop tops for a long time now. She never wore vests but felt more comfortable covering herself especially when changing for pe in the same room as the boys. Now starting to develop she wears padded crop tops from Next. I don't understand why you wouldn't 'let' a child wear a crop top? Totally unsure of why on earth it would be an issue. It's not sexual. It's about comfort and modesty.

[Doowappydoo]

I bought my daughter some at the same age;she had started to feel self conscious when getting changed for PE and a crop top doesn't have the potential to ride up in the same way as a vest does. I really don't see the issue??

[Moonlightruby320]

I really do agree!

It is very common for girls to be embarrassed when getting changed in the same room with several bots surrounding them. Luckily, the primary school my DD is at has changed rooms for year 4 and up!

[Moonlightruby320]

Changing rooms I was meant to say

[creamycrackers]

My Dd 7 wears crop tops but that's because she absolutely hated vests from the start and when she started dressing herself for school she would go without one on! Needless to say it was best that she wore something under her uniform, especially for PE days, than nothing at all.

[Mamadothehump]

I am one for keeping kids as kids for as long as possible but really don't see the issue here. My DD is very soon to be 8 and has asked for them. I got a pack from primark, aged, guess what? 7-8.

[OhSoggyBiscuit]

Zombie thread!

But I remember being so embarrassed age 11 being what seemed like the only girl still in a vest when everybody else seemed to already be wearing bras. Eventually I managed to talk Mum into buying me my first bra even though I was still practically flat chested at that point. if I ever have a girl I'll let them decide what they're most comfortable with.

[Colby43443]

I was 9 when I started my periods, was developing boobs by 8, and was so self-conscious about it, so my opinion is buy her one

[5to2]

I first bought DD1 a pack of cropped tops at her request when she was in Y4, so 8.

She still wore vests in winter but explained she felt a little self-conscious in warmer months changing her top half for PE in front of boys, even though there were no obvious signs of puberty. The tops are really not bra-like at all.

It's not unusually for breast development to occur at age 8 and/or for girls or boys to suddenly feel more self-conscious. I think it's best to respect their wishes in this regard. There are loads of tops available which look nothing like a bra.

[ovenchips]

Zombie thread from 2014! The OP has left the building...

[m0therofdragons]

Dd is 8 and just started wearing them. She asked and I said yes. She wouldn't go topless on the beach so if she wants to be covered up changing for pe then I'm fine with that. They are not sexy just covering. She'd get too hot in a vest under her pe t shirt. Plus I started my periods just after my 9th birthday - this didn't mean I wasn't a child. If she wanted a tattoo then I would be firm but allowing my dc to wear underwear seems fairly tame. (I thought I was fairly strict re dd) she's currently sitting playing with her my little pony wearing a crop top under her blouse. Still a child!