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Bank account details on wedding invite!

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Passthesaltdear · 20/02/2014 17:21

Yep so...got an evening guest invite few days ago, had the usual "we-ve been living together for ages now and have everything we want but if you are so inclined we would love some money for honeymoon etc..." Then at the bottom is the couple's account name, number and sort code so money can be paid directly in! I was shocked, is it me or is this really cheeky?!

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Only1scoop · 22/02/2014 21:29

Spark ....just looked at link Blush

Sparklingbrook · 22/02/2014 21:31

Don't you like them scoop? Grin

Helpyourself · 22/02/2014 21:35

Meh. Can't get upset about bank details- I remember seeing them on an invite 20 years ago.
Evening invites vair vair rude though.

TobyLerone · 22/02/2014 21:39

We're going to a wedding with a website soon. It also had hilarious invitations and a poem asking for cash. And other very funny details which would out me if I posted them.

As soon as I received the invitation, my first thought was of MN and how the nest of vipers would enjoy it, but I'd really hate for anyone connected with the wedding to see it. The groom is lovely, and the bride seems very nice too. I'd be horrified if I upset them tempting as it is to post the whole thing.

Floggingmolly · 22/02/2014 21:43

That link! The absolute irony of announcing you were far too casual about gifts to distribute the requests - guests were just directed to the wedding website instead Hmm
Hideously tacky.

Sparklingbrook · 22/02/2014 21:44

I can sort of see how a website would be helpful, in that you could stick all the boring details like how to get to the church etc on.
But I could do without the soppy love stories of how they met and sickly photos. Sad

Some have countdowns to the big day, then after 'Newlyweds for x amount of days.'
One was 'newlyweds for 665 days' um, that is no longer newlywed IMO. Hmm

Fatone · 22/02/2014 21:49

My friends couldn't afford a honeymoon and asked for financial contributions into a bank account instead of the usual toasters etc as they were already living together and had all that stuff. I think it's fair enough. Actually I've just thought of some more friends that did the same about 3 years ago. To be honest I thought it was the norm nowadays as most people have already set up home together and got all those bits and pieces.

Sparklingbrook · 22/02/2014 21:51

I don't think a Honeymoon is a necessity though. the main thing is the wedding vows. But that's just me.

HoratiaDrelincourt · 22/02/2014 21:54

Yeah, we had a wedding website ten years ago - links to accommodation, travel directions, maps and details of the chapel and hotel, etc.

And ::gasp:: it had the list on it. We were very young and setting up home together, so it was all "four cups" and "bath sheet" and so on, but we didn't want to specify which shop for most things (some Primark friends, some John Lewis relatives, etc etc) as in the main we weren't particularly fussed.

Sparklingbrook · 22/02/2014 21:56

Horatia that's exactly what a wedding list is for. For when you are setting up home and need everything. Smile

Fatone · 22/02/2014 22:06

But if my friends have invited me to their special day and spent money on beautiful food & drink and an evening of lovely entertainment for me/my husband and kids to partake in, I would want to give them something in return. A few quid towards the honeymoon of their dreams that they couldn't generally afford would make me feel good. I want to treat them; they are my friends and it's a once in a lifetime experience. - on the other hand if it was my SIL asking for dosh she can do one Grin

expatinscotland · 22/02/2014 22:12

It's an evening do invitation.

Fatone · 22/02/2014 22:14

Ignore it. It's probably just printed as standard? Pay zilch if you aren't special enough to attend the full monty.

Sparklingbrook · 22/02/2014 22:16

My contribution would be the new outfit I had to buy, the petrol spent getting there and paying to stay the night in a hotel I would never stay in in a million years normally. Smile

Only1scoop · 22/02/2014 22:41

Horatia how refreshing....the days of a wedding list of ....chopping boards
....cups....a towel or two....

Now it's.... chop into your bank account....

Let your cup overflow

And we will supply our own beach towels but please pay for our honeymoon instead....Grin

Only1scoop · 22/02/2014 22:41

Horatia how refreshing....the days of a wedding list of ....chopping boards
....cups....a towel or two....

Now it's.... chop into your bank account....

Let your cup overflow

And we will supply our own beach towels but please pay for our honeymoon instead....Grin

HelloBoys · 22/02/2014 22:44

Those websites make me cringe. So some random couple are telling you how happy they are together?!

Smug marrieds anyone?! Grin

Fatone · 22/02/2014 23:58

I do think those wedding website things are awful. A relative of mine also had a thing that came up at the bottom of every email she sent showing how many days until her big day. It started at way over 400 days. I kid you not. Every email she sent me annoyed me!! Grin

TheDoctrineOfSnatch · 23/02/2014 00:41

Most wedding websites I've seen are practical - links to the venue, taxi phone numbers etc.

I don't

Sparklingbrook · 23/02/2014 08:41

Do these people even see beyond the wedding day itself (except maybe the honeymoon everyone else paid for)?

Only1scoop · 23/02/2014 08:49

No I think it's more the ....Huge countdown ....
Then ....bam!
Grab n go Grin

Sparklingbrook · 23/02/2014 08:52

I suppose there is always the wedding/honeymoon video to bore the pants off people with for a while after. Grin

Only1scoop · 23/02/2014 08:54

I wonder if they charge the guests to watch it though Blush

Only1scoop · 23/02/2014 08:58

"Please do enjoy our video ....small donation required for post nuptial requisite list"
Thanks all Grin

Sparklingbrook · 23/02/2014 08:58

I would pay vast amounts to not watch it Only. Grin

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