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To have daughter passed around to strangers

157 replies

Marasmummy1 · 13/02/2014 19:50

My OH likes to carry baby (3mths old) in his arms while we're out and about and hands her over to complete strangers to coo over which really gets my back up. I've explained my reasons for not liking it (they are strangers, paranoid they'll try to kiss her that sort of thing) but he thinks I'm over-reacting. Am I being a paranoid FTM??

OP posts:
Mumof3xx · 13/02/2014 19:51

I wouldn't like this

A baby is a baby not a toy

puntasticusername · 13/02/2014 19:52

YANBU. I wouldn't like it either.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 13/02/2014 19:52

YANBU!

He is being U and weird tbh!

Gerty1002 · 13/02/2014 19:53

He is being unreasonable. I'd go ape!

Annunziata · 13/02/2014 19:54

You are being paranoid, she will be licking the floor soon enough.

Twobusyboys · 13/02/2014 19:54

Yanbu

ThatBloodyWoman · 13/02/2014 19:54

I used to play pass the parcel with mine when they were babies, but it was with family and friends.
They never went through a clingy stage and I think it's partly to do with always being used to being with different people.
But random strangers?
No way!

Chottie · 13/02/2014 19:55

No, no and no again! This is your precious little baby and not a puppy. Supposed she was accidentally dropped???

bodygoingsouth · 13/02/2014 20:01

responses are hilarious. we took dd3 to Greece when she was 6 weeks old. try telling Greeks they can't touch it cuddle a baby.

what do you think will happen to her? she will be crawling soon and putting dig hair in her mouth.

guessing a pfb? Grin

your dh probably realises babies are babe magnets and make him look hot. [ grin]

Mumof3xx · 13/02/2014 20:05

I don't think op is being pfb

I wouldn't want my dc 3 being passed around strangers like this

Original poster
Marasmummy1 · 13/02/2014 20:10

Yes she is a PFB, but she could be a PSB, PTB or even PFoB (second, third or fourth born) and I'd still be phucked off about it. God forbid someone tried to kiss her - I'd have to knock them out (and I told him this as well!!!)

From now on she'll be with me in the Moby sling which he wouldn't wear if his life depended on it! Lol

OP posts:
SnowHOHOboarder · 13/02/2014 20:13

I was like you when my PFB was small OP, now he's almost 3 and I have a (extremely clingy) 18 mo PSB. The difference is I now prey someone will have a cuddle/play with him for 5 minutes so I can have my hands free for a change.

SnowHOHOboarder · 13/02/2014 20:14

Pray. Doh!

Annunziata · 13/02/2014 20:16

Are you being serious? He's your baby's dad, you cannot refuse to let him carry her!

5OBalesofHay · 13/02/2014 20:16

Do me a favour and take her to a Tory party conference. Then when Iggle Piggle (AKA David Cameron) tries to kiss her BHAM!

bodygoingsouth · 13/02/2014 20:17

ah that's sad. so British. that's why we are so wierd about kids here. no children at weddings/posh restaurants/ seen and not heard.

we are so precious about our babies and do fearful of germs and strangers that we as a society have no idea how to hold or interact with kids until we have our own.

in places like Greece young un married bar men know exactly how to hold a baby and kids are seen and heard.

SamHamwidge · 13/02/2014 20:41

Why do people always trot out the old line 'in _ country' this happens..we aren't in that country! Why is their way automatically better!? I wouldn't like it either op!

Dawndonnaagain · 13/02/2014 20:44

erm, what's the problem if someone tries to kiss her?

mumminio · 13/02/2014 20:45

I would suggest
(1) tell your husband why you don't want strangers to hold the baby

(2) give your husband some hand sanitizer cases, and insist that anyone who touches the baby uses the sanitizer first
(3) encourage your husband to use a baby carrier, since it keeps baby closer to him, and make it more difficult for strangers to get near the baby

Something similar happened to me - at a get together, I allowed a family friend to hold our newborn (2 months) while I went to the loo. When I returned, I found that she had passed the baby around to around 5 other people. I was fuming but didn't feel able to say anything since it was a family friend. Discussed it with husband, and decided that we would insist that people wash their hands before holding the baby. That was enough to put most people off.

TheGreatHunt · 13/02/2014 20:46

Snow I doubt your child is clingy because you didn't pass them to strangers!

Yanbu OP!

mumminio · 13/02/2014 20:48

PS there are more "manly" carriers, try the babybjorn or ergo (great for 3m+ babies) in a colour which your husband can stomach :)

MeepMeepVrooooom · 13/02/2014 20:50

Got to admit from the other side if I spoke to a baby and suddenly had them dumped in my arms I would be a bit shocked.

Floggingmolly · 13/02/2014 20:51

There's nothing PFB about that! Why would you let the world and his dog hold your baby? Confused
Do complete strangers really come up and ask?

TamerB · 13/02/2014 20:52

It is such a sad attitude. If the baby didn't like it they would make it quite plain! It is your problem - much better to be sociable.

YeahThatsWhatISaid · 13/02/2014 20:53

I wouldn't mind this at all BUT i understand why it would bother some people so YANBU.

I wouldn't like people kissing a strangers baby. Does this actual happen?

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