To have daughter passed around to strangers

[Marasmummy1]

My OH likes to carry baby (3mths old) in his arms while we're out and about and hands her over to complete strangers to coo over which really gets my back up. I've explained my reasons for not liking it (they are strangers, paranoid they'll try to kiss her that sort of thing) but he thinks I'm over-reacting. Am I being a paranoid FTM??

I feel sure OP was exaggerating! People would think him a right nutter! He gets into conversation is my guess and only with a few. I have never seen anyone forcing their babies onto people! OP doesn't want her handed to anyone! Therefore it appears to be crowds of people with cold sores!

sock I read it as people who had stopped to coo over ops baby and dh had let them hold her.

to think her dh is randomly selecting strangers and dumping his baby on them is mad and as you pointed out you have never heard of anyone doing this then I think it's not the case here.

fwiw I don't think anyone in this thread has been strident or demanding people hand over their babies for cuddles.

but personally I think it's lovely when parents let other people coo and cuddle their baby as it's nice.

also I have never had a cold sore, neither has anyone in my family.

I am on baby number three and I don't think yabu. I don't like little babies being passed around because of needing mum/dad and because of germs.

My dc3 is now 8 months and I don't mind as dd will make it clear if she doesn't like it plus she is more robust but up to six months I totally avoided it.

People walking last smiling and saying how cute the baby is are still random strangers in the street, she even says most of them are fairly surprised by being handed the baby

I think you have 2 views that are entirely different-OP who hates it, will make out it is hoards of people with cold sores who are non nonplussed to be handed a baby and DH who thinks she is over reacting and chats to a couple of people and lets them have a hold-(having checked they have no cold sores and are strong enough to hold for a couple of minutes!)
The answer is to do it their own way when out with the baby-which is no doubt what will happen.

Depends. I'm quite tolerant of this as I've lived and traveled in cultures where it is quite common for strangers to be forward and just come up and talk to or touch your child or even pick them up. If my child was ok with it, then I usually was. I think we can be a bit anal here about this sort of thing.

I think the bottom line is that OP isn't unreasonable if she feels like that and neither is her DH. Like him I would just say mildly that I thought it was an over reaction and just carry on the same. I would assume that she would do it her way when out alone. It isn't a big issue- they need to be united on those.