To have daughter passed around to strangers

[Marasmummy1]

My OH likes to carry baby (3mths old) in his arms while we're out and about and hands her over to complete strangers to coo over which really gets my back up. I've explained my reasons for not liking it (they are strangers, paranoid they'll try to kiss her that sort of thing) but he thinks I'm over-reacting. Am I being a paranoid FTM??

He isn't a believer of men carrying babies in slings and strangely enough the people who he has suddenly given the baby to look mortified/like a rabbit caught in headlights. No one has ever asked to hold her beforehand. Would a total stranger really do that? ????

I love people talking to, smiling at and interacting with my baby. I don't mind if they touch him either, a stroke on the cheek or head, a tickle etc but I wouldn't want just anyone to actually hold him, to take responsibility for his safety and comfort. I'm not worried about germs or dirt or anything. My baby is much older than yours too OP so I think YANBU but she's his baby too.....

He tends to hand her over to the shop assistant that squeals the loudest! Lol

Body, babies that pick up the cold sore virus tend to die.

Really?

My DH used to do this. I used to hate it. Made me really uncomfortable BUT i realized i was seeing it though a fug of hormones and PFB unreasonableness so gritted my teeth and bore it. Am now on DC3 and practically throw him at people who happen to glance at him.

Germs Shwerms. Living in a sterile world is bad for people.

only on mumsnet!

Let me explain, I'm by no means a germ a phobe or whatever but I once had rotavirus... Noroviruses bigger uglier sister and it was horrible. Anyone I'd been in contact with 48hours before then (or whatever) could have caught it. I'd be horrified if someone gave my baby a virus like that, unintentionally. That's what I mean. That sort of thing.

I don't like people holding my baby that I don't know. Why would you want to hold a strangers baby? They're cute n that but it's a baby not a toy

I think it far healthier for the baby to be part of the community and interacting, than in a disinfected bubble with disapproving mother.
I remember one case on here where an elderly Greek woman was visiting and she leant forward over a pram to have the ringing tones of the mother saying 'Don't touch'- she was totally confused and quite upset. It would never have happened in Greece.

Ok I might sound like a massive clean freak but I'm really not! Ha!

I loved people cooing over my baby but face touching bothered me. I'd never do it to other ppl. Each to their own

OP, why don't you just use fuck spelled honestly instead of going to some creative lengths? Phuck indeed?
I'd much rather see that than the LOLs.

I'm on the fence with the pass the baby parcel.

Did someone actually post a query about people's arms being strong enough to hold a baby??

Hahahahaha!

It would be instantly obvious if someone was too frail to hold a baby.

Jeeez.

YANBU, I find that a bit odd. Sounds like he wants to show her of like a new toy.

I wouldn't want a random stranger cuddling and kissing me, so wouldn't do it to my baby either.

"Child stealing sickos". Blimey. It's a wonder some of you ever leave the house.

OP, maybe have a peaceful conversation about how random strangers don't necessarily mean "give me a hug" when they say "oh isn't he/she cute!" Nothing wrong per se with someone having a cuddle, but probably best to wait until they ask..

All you people who got really angry when your Dps and other relations let people hold your baby, how did you express this anger? What did you said that didn't make you sound bonkers? Or did you just not mind sounding bonkers?£

Are Dads not allowed to let people hold their baby then?

Think TheScience has hit the nail on the head.

I'd feel very uncomfortable if a stranger in a shop stuck their face in mine and started tickling me under the chin.

It's about boundaries imo.

that yes but probably you aren't cute.

babies like puppies are actually cute.

my 4 have survived baby worship. they in turn are normal adults/ teens.

you know someday you may be bloody grateful that some stranger blew breath into your child and saved their life!

but hope you realise it's a two way thing this no touching! babies have aids and herpes too.

be careful as my last first aid course told us never ever give a child you don't know mouth to mouth.

A medical emergency is quite quite different.

Since the majority of people in the uk have the cold sore virus in their systems even if they never have cold sores, I really wouldnt worry about this. Obviously if someone has a visible cold sore they should not kiss a baby.

Some babies love being cuddled by strangers and getting attention. Do their feelings on this not count?

Mmm, each to their own, but I believe babies and children are part of a community where we all have responsability for them and the more people love my baby the better.

I love cooing over a baby, but no it would stop at admiring the baby, and maybe chatting to him or her or awake, asking the mum or dad name and age etc. but no, I would draw the line at holding it.

ThatbloodyWoman it absolutely isn't.

just think, people like me, working with children, if I thought like you I would put my own children first and wouldn't give mouth to mouth.

I have been in an emergency situation and given mouth to mouth to a child.

my dd was badly injured and bleeding all over a helper but thank god he didn't assume she had some dreadful disease and saved her life.

be careful what you reap ladies.

Not really sure how a debate about cuddling other peoples babies became a debate about personal injury

The two are quite dissimilar. Is it not a given that you help a baby in trouble?

People like babies, Im not sure why, but they do. It's instinct to want to cuddle one. Do remember though, it's not your baby , she also is your DHs baby. You don't get exclusive rights.