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To be extremely fucked off ?!?

230 replies

PistolAnnies · 12/02/2014 18:38

...with a fellow mum, and supposed 'friend' at the school?

Basically, my son is best friends with this boy (they're both in Yr1 & went through Reception / nursery together). The other boys mum is a young mum who I thought was quite mature for her age, lives with her mum and dad still - her mum does more with the boy than her though, typical loving nan I guess?

Anyway, we've known each other for a few years now - this family know the shit we've had to endure; financial issues, hubby's Stroke, other issues.

I posted a FB status status last week saying for anyone who was online, if they didn't like me then delete me ... Well, the nan deleted me! Hmmm, surprised as we've always been pals ?

Then the kids mum, posted a status about loving her new work colleagues etc, I commented saying that was great but not to be too open to them as I've had sufficient experience of being shit on by colleagues in the past - she got really pissed off with this so I removed my comments. I since saw a comment from her to somebody on her FB calling me a 'bloody crank'?!

I took this girl's son on an expensive day trip out last Summer, bought him lunch, toys etc Confused This girl calls me a crank yet has just announced she's preggo again with her 'friends' baby this time ?!?

Just to add this girl also claims fraudelent benefits, which pisses me right off...

Would you be alnnoyed? Would you pull her at school or just ignore them from now on??

I feel really upset and disappointed to have let my guard down and opened my heart again to people who I believed to be decent people, friends Hmm

OP posts:
BOFtastic · 13/02/2014 12:23

I miss the old days when British eccentrics were bumbling but essentially benign old ladies in purple hats. We seem to have swapped them for shouty people with big dogs and throbbing neck veins Sad

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:40

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:41

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:41

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:41

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:41

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:41

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:41

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

babyheaves · 13/02/2014 12:42

Finn, what didn't you realise? Grin

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:42

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

dementedmumof6 · 13/02/2014 12:42

As for the my friend claimed to be working for a year to get working tax credits she would have been better off signing on, when my ex and I split for the 1st time a few years ago I signed on for a few weeks before getting a new job and was better of financially signing on as I got my rent paid, free school meals ect that I don't get as an employee so i'm sorry but I don't believe that.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:43

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:43

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:43

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:43

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:43

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people just to tidy up my news feed of all those people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

babyheaves · 13/02/2014 12:43

You're not notified. You'd only realise if you were looking for it.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:44

In honestly didn't realise that if someone deletes you on fb you are notified about it? I used to delete people I didn't really now but added out of politeness Blush

Does it show up in your news feed or did you have to trawl through your friends list to see who is no longer there?

These days I just change settings so they no longer show in my news feed.

Callani · 13/02/2014 12:46

OP: AIBU?
Everyone: Yes, massively, YABU
OP: No I'm not!!!

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:47

Oops, Blush well if its worth asking!

Panzee · 13/02/2014 12:47

Finn, you have to go and check your friends list. Presumably with another list to cross check who has deleted you. I suspect there's a lot of work involved.

Finnbheara · 13/02/2014 12:49

Danm, I think I have to shut this device down and count to ten.

That's what I thought, a lot of work to get so fucked off about it is someone actually does.

Beeyump · 13/02/2014 12:53

'''Oh and by the way, are you all claiming to have never vented via a FB status ?!? Or are you all those boring fuckers who just write about what you're having for tea, or what time you're going to bed?' (followed by a confusing combo of blush and sadface.)

YES! A THOUSAND TIMES YES! I have never, and never will, vent via FB status or ask people to delete me in a desperate, passive agressive cry for attention. Just don't do that op, it will save so much pain.

KellyElly · 13/02/2014 12:53

YABU. There's not much else to say really. You sound like a nightmare tbh.

Beeyump · 13/02/2014 12:53

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