To be extremely fucked off ?!?

[PistolAnnies]

...with a fellow mum, and supposed 'friend' at the school?

Basically, my son is best friends with this boy (they're both in Yr1 & went through Reception / nursery together). The other boys mum is a young mum who I thought was quite mature for her age, lives with her mum and dad still - her mum does more with the boy than her though, typical loving nan I guess?

Anyway, we've known each other for a few years now - this family know the shit we've had to endure; financial issues, hubby's Stroke, other issues.

I posted a FB status status last week saying for anyone who was online, if they didn't like me then delete me ... Well, the nan deleted me! Hmmm, surprised as we've always been pals ?

Then the kids mum, posted a status about loving her new work colleagues etc, I commented saying that was great but not to be too open to them as I've had sufficient experience of being shit on by colleagues in the past - she got really pissed off with this so I removed my comments. I since saw a comment from her to somebody on her FB calling me a 'bloody crank'?!

I took this girl's son on an expensive day trip out last Summer, bought him lunch, toys etc This girl calls me a crank yet has just announced she's preggo again with her 'friends' baby this time ?!?

Just to add this girl also claims fraudelent benefits, which pisses me right off...

Would you be alnnoyed? Would you pull her at school or just ignore them from now on??

I feel really upset and disappointed to have let my guard down and opened my heart again to people who I believed to be decent people, friends

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Do I know you? Because Id like to delete you!

[murphys]

There is difference between calling a spade a spade and being downright rude.

You sound extremely immature I have to say.

I am really trying hard to see how looks like an afro....

[QOD]

Because it's a fact.
I wouldn't Unfriend you but you'd come off my feed for being a bit depressing and negative
Every now and then I may remember to look on your timeline to see what's occurring. But I can't take the drama. Facebook is my happy place

[PistolAnnies]

To be fair, the deletion thing didn't bother me as much - I was just a little surprised, it's more the comment I saw slating me ...

You give your thoughts which is great, else I wouldn't be posting on here, however for those of you calling shitty names there's no need. I've seen this to other posters on AIBU before, some of the things you say are bang out of order - keyboard warriors haha! Bet your mouth would be shut if we met in person - think it's some of you who need to get a grip!!

[BitsinTatters]

Yabu

[SPsMrLoverManSHABBA]

You are complaining because she called you a crank and 'slated' you online yet you are doing the exact same thing to her now!

Stop been a crank, its simple.

I haven't used that word for ages. Glad to have it back

[murphys]

PistolAnnies you asked the question - we are answering you. If you don't like what you are hearing then why bother posting........ Are you really expecting everyone to say, 'poor you - what a terrible dilemma you are in right now...' Grow up!

[HyvaPaiva]

Bet your mouth would be shut if we met in person

You are so incredibly aggressive! Just stop. Your attitude is disgusting.

[fideline]

Like I said.

[ChrisMooseMickey]

Oh dear....

[pinkdelight]

"Bet your mouth would be shut if we met in person"

Yes - because you sound scary and unhinged. This may be why people appear to be nice to you to begin with but then back away/"shit on you". There's a reason why people don't go around "calling a spade a spade" because that's how arguments start and confrontation is usually best avoided by mature people.

As for your "warning" to her about not getting too close to colleagues, it was completely inappropriate and egocentric. The post was not about you and your life of woe. It was a nice moment for her and her colleagues. Many, many people have close colleagues who don't shit on them. The fact that you've had a lot of it is somehow not that surprising.

[Bumblebee333]

Was the crank comment definitely about you?

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

Nope. If I met you id probably think you were an even bigger nob!

[hickorychicken]

This is a sparkly gem of a thread
OP what response was you expecting?

[notso]

Oh good grief! This sounds like a problem my 13 year old would have. I find it baffling that adults feel the need to share petty little grievances with all and sundry on Facebook.

You do realise if you had taken your own advise and said these things face to face rather than posting them on your wall like a hormonal teenager this wouldn't have happened.

[TheFutureSupremeRulersMum]

If you put a post of FB telling people to delete you then you are silly to get upset when they do.

If you posted about not trusting colleagues on her wall instead of PM'ing her then she was probably a bit embarrassed if she is friends with her colleagues on FB.

The expensive day trip is irrelevant to all of this. She is not in your debt because you took her son out last summer. I assume you offered to do this rather than she asked you too. It really riles me when someone does a favour/kind turn and then expects the other person to be forever grateful. I'm sure you got something out of having her little boy there keeping your son company.

If you think she is claiming benefits fraudulently then report her but that's really not relevant to the FB stuff, it's a separate issue.

You seem to have high expectations of other people and then get upset when they don't meet them.

[fideline]

OP why don't you ask everyone who dislikes you to hide this thread?

[TheFutureSupremeRulersMum]

*to not too

[LangenFlugelHappleHoff]

What do you call a sleeping dinosaur?

A dinosnore!

[AmazingBouncingFerret]

I don't know what everyone's problem is. OP you sounds like sweetness and light. Sunshine and lollipops. Unicorns and sparkles.

Personally i'd throw myself down in genuflection everytime I saw you.

[IDugUpADiamond]

Pistol why the anger??? Chill man...

[VerucaInTheNutRoom]

OP, if you thought people were being two faced why didn't you just delete THEM from FB? Asking people to delete you if they didn't like you was never going to end well for you, was it?

Sorry to hear you have had some bad experiences lately, I hope your husband is recovered.

[LtEveDallas]

I have had friends in the past that have posted negative shit on FB - I deleted them (or is it defriended them?). I have friends that posted the "I am going to cull my FB, if you can see this then you survived" - I deleted them. I have friends that posted the "Oh I'm so sad - I deleted them.

I have friends on my FB that I like, that post interesting, funny and heartwarming posts. You would have been deleted after the first "Delete me if you don't like me" attention seeking post.