To be extremely fucked off ?!?

[PistolAnnies]

...with a fellow mum, and supposed 'friend' at the school?

Basically, my son is best friends with this boy (they're both in Yr1 & went through Reception / nursery together). The other boys mum is a young mum who I thought was quite mature for her age, lives with her mum and dad still - her mum does more with the boy than her though, typical loving nan I guess?

Anyway, we've known each other for a few years now - this family know the shit we've had to endure; financial issues, hubby's Stroke, other issues.

I posted a FB status status last week saying for anyone who was online, if they didn't like me then delete me ... Well, the nan deleted me! Hmmm, surprised as we've always been pals ?

Then the kids mum, posted a status about loving her new work colleagues etc, I commented saying that was great but not to be too open to them as I've had sufficient experience of being shit on by colleagues in the past - she got really pissed off with this so I removed my comments. I since saw a comment from her to somebody on her FB calling me a 'bloody crank'?!

I took this girl's son on an expensive day trip out last Summer, bought him lunch, toys etc This girl calls me a crank yet has just announced she's preggo again with her 'friends' baby this time ?!?

Just to add this girl also claims fraudelent benefits, which pisses me right off...

Would you be alnnoyed? Would you pull her at school or just ignore them from now on??

I feel really upset and disappointed to have let my guard down and opened my heart again to people who I believed to be decent people, friends

[Oblomov]

OP?
Disappeared. Like all her FB 'friends'

[LiberalLibertine]

Op, you sound extremely hard work.

You only stick the boot in about her 'benefit fraud' after she called you a crank, you've known about it all this time and remained her friend.

You embarrassed her on her post in front of her new colleagues (possibly)

I think you should just leave her be now, your boys can still be friends, just maybe drop off/ pick up rather than hanging out together while they play though?

[HaroldLloyd]

No one over the age of 12 posts delete me if you don't like me.

Maybe this lady liked you well enough until you started to post bonkers comments all over Facebook. If one of my friends did that in there I would think shit I thought this person was ok but they are acting like a crank.

[Lj8893]

You sound really immature. And I'm younger than you.

[AGoodPirate]

Maybe your post on her new job need cane across as too negative on a happy conversation, or maybe it wasn't suitable for her new colleagues to see.
I'd try to keep things pleasant between you for the wake of your son.

[AGoodPirate]

My friend put on Facebook:

"I've just done a Facebook cull of all my real friends, I don't need them on here, I see them all the time anyway in real life. If I can still see you, I guess you're not that special to me. Sorry!"

[ChrisMooseMickey]

Christ Pirate that's a bit hurtful! Get shot of her!

[Balaboosta]

Mumsnet car crash. Am strangely fascinated. Rare to find a three page post where not one single comment was supporting the OP! Unanimity on mumsnet - hold the front page!

Seriously, OP, there are some really good pieces of advice here. Your life will get so much easier if you open your mind to even a fraction of it.

[Casmama]

Surely that was a joke pirate- in response to someone else posting that sort of shite?

[GTA5MASTER]

If I met you in person I would not pull my punches op. I am straight up and I'm very happy to tell you what I think of you.
You are immature and attention seeking and I don't blame the nan for deleting you. I don't use fb because it's shit and you've just reminded me why. Oh and why the fuck haven't you grassed her up over the benefits she's not entitled to?!

[murphys]

You sound really immature. And I'm younger than you

LJ, perfect example here of how maturity and age are not the same thing. OP seems extremely immature. Her DH had a stroke, and I am truly sorry to hear that. When faced with a crisis of some sort in our lives, it usually makes all the other stuff so much less important. Her DH is recovering from a stroke, there is no mention of this and how they getting through it etc, just menial nonsense.....

OP, how is your dh?

[AGoodPirate]

I assumed it was a joke. Actually if it wasn't a joke it's fair enough, I haven't seen her since she moved to Edinburgh in 2010! But I still like seeing pictures of her baby and her cats. :-D

[LiberalLibertine]

Bet op is on fb going...don't go on mumsnet they're all beatches....

[PeriodFeatures]

wow. I feel dirty reading this thread. The same kind of dirty I feel if I see the jeremy kyle show.

Really OP unless you develop an iota of self awareness you will continue to have these dramas that upset you.

Are you lonely? It is o.k to be lonely. Clinging onto relationships with people you dont like and respect and expecting a return on an act of kindness is the result of lonliness and low self esteem.

I'd stay off facebook. You are not going to improve you social life with status updates like that I'm afraid..

[SarahAndFuck]

I've deleted people for similar statuses OP.

What exactly did you say? Was it just as you wrote it here or was it ranting and angry/aggressive?

Not that it really matters. If you thought people were being two-faced then the best thing to do would have been to quietly delete them.

Inviting them to delete you never really works out and it alienates others who wouldn't have been involved otherwise, as you have just learned.

I added or accepted requests from a number of people I only knew from a group I was part of a few years back. They all seemed nice at first but I soon realised that there was a lot of this sort of thing going on within the group, mostly stirred up by two or three people who liked to wind people up and then sit back and watch them go.

One person I deleted was posting three or four times a week, angry, swearing posts about backstabbers and two-faced so-called friends and to be honest, although I had liked her before, I was sick of the sight of her tantrums and dramas by the time I deleted her.

Then I got three or four messages demanding to know why I had deleted her, who had 'gotten to' me, what had she done etc. I have no doubt that at the end of that I was the subject of one of her angry statuses complaining about two-faced, backstabbers who she thought were her friends.

Another person posted a status saying that if anyone had a problem with someone she called her friend then they could remove themselves from her friends list as she was loyal to her friend and didn't want to know anybody who didn't like her.

This friend she was defending was one of the ringleaders who liked to cause trouble between others while sitting back to enjoy the show and then jumping in at the end to play peacemaker so she could feel important once she was sure everyone had argued so much they would forget she was the one who started it in the first place.

I had already long deleted the ringleader woman because of this but when her friend posted that status I deleted her as well. And got a message asking why.

So I told her, you posted that status, I don't like the woman you were posting in support of, I did as you asked because you said you didn't want any friends on your list who don't like her.

And she replied to say 'that's fine, I didn't notice you'd deleted me anyway.'

I did point out that she must have noticed, given that she'd messaged me to find out why I'd done it, and I never heard back from her

I have about five people left on my friends list from that original group of about fifty people, and they are real friends now, they don't pull this sort of nonsense every five minutes to seek attention.

You got what you asked for OP and I can see you feel hurt and angry by it but confronting people at school and ranting about them abusing the benefits system or getting pregnant for the money won't help. Let it go and walk away. All they did was what you invited them to do.

[ArsePaste]

One thing I've noticed over and over again over the years is that the people who take enormous pride in their "straight talking" and ability to "call a spade a spade" tend to be enormous twats.

I simply cannot imagine why I was reminded of that today.

[Stinklebell]

When faced with a crisis of some sort in our lives, it usually makes all the other stuff so much less important.

Actually, I don't think that's entirely fair. I know I'm guilty of stressing the small stuff when in the middle of a big crisis. Often the big stuff is beyond my control so stressing about smaller stuff gives me something else to focus on

DH had a cancer scare last year, thankfully all fine, but it was stressful and we both found ourselves stressing about minor stuff

[EduCated]

How did you even notice she'd deleted you? It's not like you get a notification from it. Who did you want to delete you? Why not just delete them without all the hoo-ha? It's not healthy to cause so much negative drama in your own life, at te end of the day it's only you who's going to be upset by it.

OP, at 24, I'd be appalled if any of my friends were acting in such an immature way on FB.

[Aussiemum78]

You are being a drama queen.

You are actually making up drama where none exists.

[babyheaves]

As for my FB post - I wrote it because after hearing a couple of things, I was fed up of yet again, being associated with two-faced people - You lot may not mind that, but I do, I'm straight up - no bullshit.

Well if you're that straight up, don't post pathetic facebook statuses and go and talk to the people you are upset with.

Passive aggressive childish shit on facebook isn't "straight up" its passive aggressive childish shit.

[frugalfuzzpig]

Rare to find a three page post where not one single comment was supporting the OP!

NM might be more supportive

[Hullygully]

quite quite mad

[Lifeisaboxofchocs]

pistol, this gave me such a laugh. You are shockingly unaware of actually how unpleasant you are!

[CocktailQueen]

I posted a FB status status last week saying for anyone who was online, if they didn't like me then delete me.

Sorry - how old are you?? I'd have deleted you too!

[SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]

It appears that PistolAnnie is happy to be blunt and forthright herself, but can't take it when others treat her the same way.