hmmm aibu to ask ... was just reading another thread .. how old do you think its acceptable for your children to move out .. would you let them stay tilmthey were 30 ?

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Yep just that really , I'm 22 sister 29 and other sister 32 ,we all live with my mum.

It depends on expectations and how easy going and helpful people are too. Also how dominant people are.
In my family my dc have quite strong personalities and like to do things their own way . They are great but when you are exhausted at the end of a long day it's hard to put up with mess and friends around etc. we all need our own space.

Next month I will be 29 and my DD will be 2. We both still live at home with my mum as I'm a single parent and I "earn too much money" to get any real help with childcare costs. Mum helps out immensely and loves having us, I consider myself lucky to still be able to be at home

I think if you're raiaing a child and need the help, that's entirely different.

'I think if you're raiaing a child and need the help, that's entirely different.'

Really? Why?
It would be just as easy to say that you shouldn't have a child unless you can support you both for the next 18 years. I'd find it much tougher if DD and DS were single parents and living at home.

I think the OPs case is entirely different than the 19 year old boy I know who lives at home playing on the computer and eating pizza all day, is all.

I'm 28 and my husband is 26, we live with my parents and our daughter. We have no plans to move out, we are bulding a conservatory on their house and when we finally have enough money to get a mortgage we will be taking my parents with us and move to a place where we can live comfortably.

It works for us.

I just went and cuddles with my mum after this thread on so grateful she
Is my mum.
Pink peanuts me too,I know I wouldn't cope at the mo without the help from mum and so thankful I have her.
I didn't leave here from 16 as was sent away to school but also have not lived on my own.. It would b really lonely.

mummy

Awww that's lovely owerly.

Erghhhh I hate this tablet ....predictive text never makes sense lol
I had an awful day, cuddles with her was needed ha

:)

Bumped into a friend from school yesterday and she still has 4 of her 5 DDs living at home. Age range from 22 (twins) to 30. She loves it. They all pitch in and help with the cooking, cleaning etc.

Sounds like a lot of women lol I currently have both sisters hogging up my bed coz they want to watch a movie...I love them to bits they know. Need cheering up.

I was very lucky, both mine live independently and have done since they were 18, just to be on the safe side I sold the spacious family home and moved into a teeny tiny flat so that it's abundantly clear there's no room at the inn.

Really I cant think of anything worse than living with my grown up children how can you be an independent adult if you're still tied to mummies apron strings?

Living in the same house doesn't mean tied to apron strings

'Times have changed , people grow up a lot more slowly now and rely much more heavily on their parents. '

you say that like it's a good thing....we are raising a generation of kidults who cant stand on their own feet, I'm glad my twenty something offspring are adults rather than overgrown adolescents

under mummies roof = tied to mummies apron strings

Suzanne my mum made it clear we weren't welcome at that age and now she is getting older and sees none of us. We all resent it

I know I sound harsh Noddy but if your mum wants her life back and wants to be detached why not just let her do her thing?

Some people just arent cut out for close family life they find it suffocating

It obviously depends on individual circumstances, and there are exceptions to every rule, but I would expect a typical child with the usual life skills to move out at 18, while visiting/staying during university holidays or while job-hunting.

It's not the easiest thing in the world to fly the nest, but I feel it's important to make that step into the adult world whenever possible.

I can safely say I'm not tied to "mummies apron strings" ...I don't rely on my parents for anything, they don't pay my bills, do my washing, tell me to do things or wipe my fucking arse

I pay rent, do my fair share of housework, DIY, cleaning, shopping etc...the difference between living here and getting my own place is that I pay under what a flat would cost in n London...which right now I cannot afford...I am an independent adult

I'm so completely fucking fed up of people making assumptions based on the fact I live with my parents

As has been said a dozen times, difference and variety is par for the course in all relationships. Some of us like living with our adult children, some don't.
Can't we just accept the different choices without sneering about apron strings?
Or perhaps that informs some of us as to why we would hate sharing any accommodation with some people, either as a relative, a house share or a partner.

We do and she has no one and is all poor me now so got what she wanted. Never any danger of eing suffocating we were always her lowest priority She is reaping what she sewed now though a she is a bitter woman with no friiends so she has what she wanted.

Yup, if I was sharing a house with a spiteful, lazy and judgemental adult who felt that the way other people lived was a cause for bitchiness, I'd kick them out.
Fortunately none of the adults in this house are like that.