hmmm aibu to ask ... was just reading another thread .. how old do you think its acceptable for your children to move out .. would you let them stay tilmthey were 30 ?

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Yep just that really , I'm 22 sister 29 and other sister 32 ,we all live with my mum.

But they're now sharing a room for the foreseeable future, OP. At 29 and 32 it is quite odd that they're willing to do this for more than, say, a weekend (or other, short, clearly defined period). It's lovely that they've made you welcome and are supporting you but, personally, I cannot imagine having to share a room, with my sister. Anything would be preferable to that. It's bad enough sharing a room with DH!

How can there even be an age limit? Sometimes it's more financially viable for a family to continue living together , as long as everybody is happy and contributing what should it matter how old you are.

I didn't move out till 27. It saved me a fortune. I was ready to move though

No, because families reproduce and spread out...If you want your own family, and you are one of three siblings, then at what point do you make your own living as we used to quaintly call it and buy or rent your own Ouse.
Are we talking about a temporary period of saving up to move out or literally hoping to live in your parents house until they die and then inherit it or share it between three families?
That would be very weird

As we call it oop north

My sisters won't stay forever..and wouldn't have their kids here.
Me I see no problem if raising my dd here makes it less hard for me then I will stay.

Also for me I woulkdnt inherit anything ...its council

We were encouraged to save to buy early to get on the property ladder. Houses were very expensive then too and most of us rented for several years first not because we couldn't live with parents but because uni and work took us elsewhere. It was also a cultural expectation to be independent.

It's a bit more complicated if you own because as older parents we would be thinking about downsizing in the next ten years ready for cutting costs for retirement, but while we can house everyone on a temporary basis we will, as long as they have a long term plan of their own.

I have no need to lol...its easier to be at home, and I don't feel they need of complete independence for no reason,

Argh !!so I have four DC's all boys, the oldest left at 28 came back home as he changed his job and was working back in London and couldn't afford housing. Left at 30 to get married. DS2 has yo-yo'd was moving in with gf Jan 2013 but they split up, he is now 30 has a mortgage all arranged and is flat hunting. He has managed to save the huge deposit required in the SE by doing 3 jobs!

DS3 & 4 are 26 both in fairly low paid jobs. Ds4's gf lives with us and they are saving hard for a deposit to rent or buy.

Ds3's gf is American and although they want to be "together" as she lives in the US that is throwing up all sorts of problems!
I am in my early 60's work full time in Central London (commute 1.5 hours) and would love to slow down, but saying that I would probably miss the noise and the chaos that is my home at the moment.

I still live at home and am 25...I live in north london....everyone who thinks im strange is more then welcome to pay my rent for me so I can move out.

No one thinks you are strange but its not sustainable forever at some point you will have to pay your own rent!

She never said she didn't pay rent

She invited us to pay it!

20. If the grownchild is payitng proper rent why wouldn't they pay it to flat mates, and have some independence?

I suppose someone somewhere has mentioned the fact that wages are hardly enough to live on anymore...

Where did I say I didn't pay any rent? I pay rent...I cook, I clean, I basically rent a room in my parents house...I don't answer to anyone and I have complete independence ...the difference is I'm able to scrap money into a savings account to have something behind me when I do move out

I invited you to pay the price of a n. London flat....A one bedroom shithole is easily £300pw...at the very least..lI only earn enough to cover that before bills or food and I've been on the council register for 7y

Sometimes people don't have a choice

Don't any of you look forward to a bit of peace and quiet without adult children living at home? I personally love my own company and the thought of being surrounded by overgrown teenagers and possibly their mates, loud music, techo gadgets etc horrifies me.

I have a close relative who allows her unemployed son and his unemployed girl friend to live together in their home (which is small) neither of them do anything except sleep in late and then play X box or whatever; meanwhile the parents go out to work to support them. Quite honestly that would infuriate me, I know jobs are hard to find but making life so comfortable for these two means they have no incentive whatsoever to get off their backsides. .

My DS (6) announced in ASDA the other day ...I am going to live with you till I am 30 .... Oh lovely I replied

Agree with ragwort. Helping out fr a while during uni or up to early twenties or in emergency situations fine but surely adults would wish to eventually stand on their own feet .

I didn't go to uni at 18 - at 20 I'd planned to move out because I had a secure full time job, then I stupidly changed jobs to a new place that was so bad I had to resign.
I ended up temping for 3 years, hoping for a permanent position. That meant I didn't have the regular income to even flatshare and had to stay with my parents even though we rowed a lot.
I still had boyfriends back (none were serious enough to move in with), went out and got drunk a lot, paid rent, bought my own food and cooked my own meals so I was quite independent anyway.

My parents split up when I'd just turned 23 and mum moved out; I applied for a nursing course at uni and stayed with my dad, working full time and saving money for a flatshare, until the course started age 24 - that's when I moved out for good.

It was a shame I couldn't leave home sooner because my dad and I didn't get on at all well, I felt I was in his way all the time and dreaded going home from work. Once my mum had left the house it was very much his home and he didn't like me cooking or doing anything outside my bedroom. The situation was very tense and escalated to him slamming a door on my hand.

Once I'd left home I repaired my relationships with both my parents and we got on a lot better not living together, now years later we're all good friends and I see them regularly.

I got to help out my mum a few years ago when she was between flats by letting her stay in my spare room for a few months which was nice actually.

L my mates with graduate kids have them living at home. One moved out after Xmas and is moving back when tenancy is up as he literally cant afford anything after rent and bills

I find some of the attitudes on this thread utterly bizarre. I haven't lived at home since I left university, and neither has my sister, but what on earth is wrong with it if everyone is happy with the arrangement?! Why is it considered weird or unhealthy to live with your parents past a certain age? It's entirely normal in many cultures.

I love my dd, and she will be welcome to live at home for as long as she chooses. It's her home, and will remain her home until she decides otherwise.

I've lived in different areas in the UK and what is clear is that different areas and backgrounds seem to approach this differently. So many if the choices and opinions you have on this could be down to your own background and where you grew up and what was expected or common for that area. Maybe some of you who moved out at 12 and became instantly independent with all your mortgages or flat shares might just as easily have been living at home with parents when you were 30 if your life, background and location had been different.