To not want my daughter spoken to like an idiot?

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My dd has just turned 1. She has a few words but understands a lot of what we say to her.

MIL came over today "shall we go for a walk walky walkies?". I has to restrain myself from saying "no, but you could go for a walk". This isn't out of the norm for her, everything she says to my dd is in ridiculous baby talk. I always speak to her in a soft tone, but with normal words. AIBU to request that MIL stops the baby talk (y-walky-talky) now as she will be picking up on it?

I saw it more of an 2+2=5 observation, mot a direct attack on anyone here.

My son? Not having kids so i don't have to worry! (Im sure you didn't mean that thyough?)

I agree with you Pagwatch.

My friends little girl is called poppy. DS calls her dobby. DP and I say it correctly. Friend calls her dobby in front of DS. He's three so I think beyond baby talking. I wonder why she backs up the wrong pronunciation but it's really not worth getting upset over when it's only a few times a week.

Is your DH incapable of stringing a sentence together?

Is his vocabulary stunted in any way?

Given that your MiL raised him and he is a fully functioning adult I'd say you were being more than a little precious about this wouldn't you OP?

You're being ridiculous. Fairly certain that nature actually makes you baby talk to an extent in order to encourage sounds that will later become words.

'talks formally'? No, I don't talk formally to my child, I talk properly to her. Just as I do to anyone else. I must say I never realised I was talking formally to her - maybe I should start calling her Miss Oakenshield and making sure she keeps her hat on for tea?

Grit your teeth but think of it as an introduction to rhyming words and word play?

www.washingtonpost.com/national/health-science/why-baby-talk-is-good-for-your-baby/2014/01/13/60d8bf8e-7889-11e3-b1c5-739e63e9c9a7_story.html

Just as an example.

I hate made up exaggerated baby talk it makes my skin crawl a bit. In my neck of the woods, not sure if it's just round here, you can hear "time to have your bock bock and then go for a bowbies" translated it means have a bottle and then a nap.

Be thankful she uses the basis of the real word rather than some of the other utter drivel she could use. Doggy and Walky wouldn't bother me too much.

I can see where you are coming from Op....and I do find it a little irritating when out with a friend recently her dd 3 had chic chic nugs nugs n chippi chip chips.
I guess we are all different but I cringe a little if I'm honest.

YABU

Gosh, it's posts like this that make me want to encourage DS to never ever ever breed in case he ends up with someone this tightly wound.

Have a glass of and uncleanch.

She obviously loves you DD, why is that not enough for you?

Did part of my masters on this a while back. It's good for your DD's language development. Something to do with repetition and elongated vowel sounds. YABU.

I can vouch for not breeding.

I cant be a shit mother
Or MIL

Maybe you should have looked after your own child instead of leaving her with your cringe worthy mother in law. Seriously your being really rude. What are you going to do dictate on how she should communicate with her grandaughter. And stop drip feeding to try and change your argument. I feel sorry for your mother in law. And your DP should be ashamed slagging off his mother with you.

Really OP, save your energy for the big battles, this shouldn't be one of them. It doesn't matter if you don't like it- you're not twelve months old.

Agree with Pagwatch (sorry, Paggywatch)

Dd's and ds have always been talked with and to by people speaking baby talk, 'formal' talk, slang talk, different languages and accents, people with speech disorders, children who are just learning to talk etc. They live in a world full of language of all different sorts, there is language on the TV and radio and CDs and in the sing spongy nursery rhymes we sing - it is all good.

Dd1 started talking around a year.
Dd2 started talking around 9 months, very early speaking in sentences big vocabulary.
Ds still completely non verbal at 3.7 and likely to remain largely non verbal (but very good at finding alternative communication!)

Actually just read that your mil looked after your dd 60 percent of the time.
She must be a really kind person....if you hated the baby talk that much....did you not consider nursery or alternative?

Wow only just noticed how often your MIL looks after you LO. Mine has never met mine and is unlikely to ever. Thank your lucky stars!

Why be nasty to someone who loves your child?

your mil sounds a really nice lady op.

I know how you feel OP but don't worry about it. Your DD will still learn to talk properly despite the baby talk from your MIL.

There was an uproar when the Tellytubbies came out because parents everywhere were worried their babies were going to start talking like them or that it would hinder language acquisition. But it had no effect.

Babies are cleverer than we think.

"talks formally"
As in without any exaggeration, increased intonation or reduction in complicated vocabulary commonly used when speaking to small children.

I was just using it to describe her use of adult to adult style speech rather than more simplistic adult to child speech.

As I said, I have no problem with how people speak to their children but please feel free to misunderstand me and be sarcastic.

I have spent literally years with women who wrongly blame themselves and agonise about where their child's speech problems came from. Speech delay can be crippling because relaxed, fluid communication is at the heart of our relationships with our babies and toddlers. Once you are anxious and stressed about language all that tension seeps into our every interaction. It's heartbreaking. My son is 17 and still has little useful language and it will keep his options limited for the rest of his life.
But please, continue to mock me. The thing about the hat was hilarious.

"Wow only just noticed how often your MIL looks after you LO."

Really? The OP didn't say how often her MIL looks after her LO, so not sure how you noticed it.