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Next door neighbours and party in the garden.

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 22:37

Not sure about this. Neighbours (their garden backs onto our front drive) are having a party in the back garden. They have a big marquee and its obviously a significant birthday, 18th I think. Music is currently blaring out, it's pretty noisy. I have 2 kids trying to sleep who are unable to, they have tv on trying to drown out the noise but its not working at all. What do I do? I don't want to be a party pooper but I would have thought they must realise that this is a residential area, most of the houses around here have young children.
I suppose it's a Saturday so at least they don't have school tomorrow.
What do you think is a reasonable time to go round and ask them to turn it down? I'm thinking leave it till 11?

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 22:39

Thankfully the baby was asleep before it started amd her room is at the back of the house so it's not quite as bad there

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WorraLiberty · 01/02/2014 22:39

Kids are more resilient than you think and often fall asleep eventually.

Midnight seems an acceptable time to ask (but only if it really is blaring)

Otherwise I'd leave it. It's not everyday your child turns 18.

TeenageMutantNinjaTurtle · 01/02/2014 22:41

I'd wait till 11 and then call the council's environmental people for advice. But I had a bad experience asking the neighbours once (they were always bloody noisy) and it just led to months of trouble.

Either way, 11pm is usually the point at which excessive noise becomes unreasonable. Your council website should have guidelines.

goldenlula · 01/02/2014 22:42

If it is a one off I would not go round until at least midnight, and only then if it was extremely loud. It is a special occasion by the sounds of it.

Wantsunshine · 01/02/2014 22:43

It's a one off. Don't expect it to end at 11....and why should it.

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 22:44

I really don't want to get into an argument with them as I'm about to put the house on the market and don't want to have to declare a dispute. It's really really loud though, Think nightclub loud 15m from my front windows!

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SirChenjin · 01/02/2014 22:46

They should have done the decent thing and come round to warn you if it was going to be a noisy, late night party outside. Some people are really inconsiderate.

I'd leave it until midnight and then call the non-emergency police number or the council - providing it was noisy enough to keep you awake. Bear in mind that the police/council won't be able to respond immediately, so be prepared for a wait after you've called.

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 22:46

Wantsunshine - perhaps because its a residential area and the noise is at an intrusive level for 6 houses in this culdesac?

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vestandknickers · 01/02/2014 22:46

Leave it. It is one night. Let them have fun.

Annunziata · 01/02/2014 22:47

I don't think turning 18 allows you to keep the whole street up Shock

Is there no chance they'll all disappear off to a club soon?

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 01/02/2014 22:48

Can your DC sleep in the baby's room?

(One of our neighbours had a party until 4am a while back. They did pop a note through the door to let us know it would be late and noisy )

Excitedforxmas · 01/02/2014 22:48

I would leave it but would make noise in the garden about 8 am! Maybe drilling lol!

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 22:49

And it's not a one off either - I appreciate its a big birthday, but there was one earlier this year for a birthday, one when the eldest went off to uni in September and don't even get me started on Diwali when they had a party and let huge window shaking fireworks off at 2am. That did wake the baby up and I was not impressed. Thank god I'm moving is all I can say.

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 22:51

Sorry if I'm sounding slightly tetchy, I have an over tired 7yo crying because she can't get to sleep and the baby wakes at around 12 and refuses to go back to sleep until 3 most nights so sleep and patience are both in short supply here!

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vestandknickers · 01/02/2014 22:51

Oh ok, so you obviously don't like them. Still no reason to complain though. It isn't as if it is every weekend.

WorraLiberty · 01/02/2014 22:51

Earlier this year?

So a couple of weeks ago?

The thing is, living in a residential area works both ways.

You do have to expect a couple of parties/celebrations and yes they'll get on your nerves.

But as long as they're not repeatedly doing it (and it doesn't seem as though they are) I'd let it go.

Hopefully you're moving to a rural area?

SirChenjin · 01/02/2014 22:52

In that case - you have been more than neighbourly and accommodating of the selfish fuckers your neighbours. Give them 10 more minutes and phone the police/council. Think of it as your parting gift to them.

Doha · 01/02/2014 22:53

Wait till midnight and then phone the police.

MintChocAddict · 01/02/2014 22:54

I feel your pain. My ex-neighbours had a party in their garden one summer evening and set up a four piece band! This was a row of terraced housesShock and I had two small sleeping children. I swung between being mildly amused to fairly irritated. The band were pretty good though. Wink
Hope you get some peace soon.

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 22:54

I don't really know them to be honest, so couldn't say if I like them one way or the other. I know them by sight as I know all my neighbours and I smile and wave if we pass in the car etc. of course if they came and knocked on the door and asked for something i would help if I possibly could but both of the parents work and the kids are at school/uni so I rarely see them even in passing

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BackforGood · 01/02/2014 22:55

What Worra said.

SirChenjin · 01/02/2014 22:58

If you want to have a noisy party for an 18th (or anything else) then you do the decent thing and either keep the noise down after you've warned your neighbours, or you hire a venue. Loud parties outside in small, quiet residential streets until all hours is not on.

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 23:00

Right, I've packed kids off for a sleepover in the spare room at the back of the house, I'm going to have to grin and bear it, can't use ear plugs as I won't hear the baby when she wakes.
If its still deafening at 12 ill go round and ask nicely if they could turn it down a notch. Don't want the party to end just music a little quieter. And yes, a note through the door apologising in advance would have been nice, I would have asked the kids dad if he could have them for the night

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Twattyzombiebollocks · 01/02/2014 23:02

Believe it or not, this is a rural area, there's 30 houses on this estate surrounded by fields in all directions.

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OrangeMochaFrappucino · 02/02/2014 02:34

Hope it quietened down, OP. I don't think loud house parties are acceptable ever, even as a one-off. People should hire venues - it isn't fair to keep neighbours awake for any reason. Loads of people work weekends, are ill, have young children, have stressful jobs and need to relax and catch up on rest. I would have been on the phone to environmental health much earlier!

(I have never had to do this btw, despite always living in residential areas with plenty of neighbours - ime people are not generally so rude and inconsiderate as to have loud house parties into the night).