To ask how many of you have a 'natural' lady garden?

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I used to sport the landing strip up until I was about 6 months pregnant with ds who is now 2. I stopped shaving as I couldn't see what I was doing, also might sound daft but kind of wanted it to be the way nature intended to give birth.
Since then I haven't shaved, waxed, trimmed etc. I'm not massively hairy so it's not a full on 80s style bush.
DP moaned the other day as he liked it the way I used to have it. . I sort of told him tough luck it's my bits and quite frankly I cba and like not having itchy stubble. He watched our Baby come out of there fgs surely he realises it's not a fashion accessory?
AIBU to not make the effort for dp?

I shave it all off! Again it's the way I like it not anyone else's influence. I'm 26.

I am 46 and am very naturel.

I cannot help but think that a man who insists on shaven actually likes a shaven pussy because they like young girls!

I have to be brutally honest - if I shaved mine it wouldn't look like a young girls. Or Barbies. It would look like a 48yo alopecia riddled minge.

Ladies, don't kid yourself lack of bush strips 30 odd years from you - it doesnt

All natural, I'm 41 and DH seems totally unbothered.

I am that OP knows her work colleagues' preferences in this regard! I once exchanged curry recipes with a colleague, and even that felt uncomfortably intimate. I'm British, fgs!

I used to - mine's like a swarm of bees. I CBA now - but still hate it (but not the lack of razor rash) If I could afford it I would have laser treatments for it - and my legs. I'm quite a hairy woman - why on earth that doesn't' translate to the hair on my head I don't' know - it seems to be nature's little joke!

I'm not in the minority I thought I was then. I think it's down to personal choice really.
I just go the impression during the conversation at work the other day about it that I would have got a had I said I had a Hairy Mary.

I keep it neat and tidy for swimming and holiday purposes but I do trim it for hubby as he prefers it shorter and given that he is the only one to put his face down there and given that I like him doing that I am happy to oblige!

But no baldness ever even if he asked!

Laughing @ "Pubic Jazz hands" !!!

Mine gets a short back and sides to tidy up but I cant imagine no pubic hair .

TBH.the Cameron Diaz article in the standard was the subject of much hilarity over FB and the staff room this week.

Only on MN do people (namely women) have this obsession with other womens bits and bobs. A lot of you are not normal in your quest for information relating to strangers minges.

I shave mine completely, have done for just over ten years, I am in my 40's.

I like men without beards, this isn't because I want to have sex with children, though.

I wish my woowoo looked like it did when I was young, pre children, they change in lots of ways, we don't just grow more hair.

Gosh BohemianGirl, I can't help but link your comment to your user name! I think you are a little too defensive, because you maybe use your 'Girl'iness in your life!

Au naturel. I have tried waxing once years ago, but told the assistant to stop as soon as she got anywhere near the sensitive area. She got quite schoolmistressy about it which I wasn't having... Am 44.

brunette123, if I were to ask for something called a hollywood, it would be hard to see it as not influenced by the media. It's pretty clear that pubic hair removal varies a lot by climate and culture and it can be hard to separate out the influences on an individual that go up to make a choice. It's just that if a person is choosing to do things that are painful, expensive and without which they may not feel they are feminine enough (or at least, with which they feel more feminine and more of a successful woman), what exactly is influencing those choices? That's why there is a feminist analysis of beauty culture/hair removal - which I am much less signed up to after reading these threads on Mumsnet than I used to be.

I'm 44 and it has honestly never occurred to me to do anything to my lady garden. Wear a two piece swim suit with shorts and don't even think about it the rest of the time.

Honestly Storm the girls in our telesales department like to share everything!
I have to go up there to make my tea and some of the conversations. I tend to retire gracefully to my desk downstairs.

My lady garden is as nature intends. A long time ago dh used to tidy up down there, and it was quite sexy when he did it but then irritatingly itchy for days and so we stopped as I certainly wasn't up for sex when it was so uncomfortable.

Given that the pressure is on that women should remove their bodily hair then it can be seen as a feminist stance to push back. It's hard for any of us to tell as individuals whether we are conforming or making our own minds up totally free from influence. I think that the latter is probably relatively unusual as we are social animals and virtually everything we do is influenced by something.

Feminism is about equality between men and women, part of that equality is that we should be free to choose without being constrained by society's views that women should do or be a certain way. That's not to say that all of our choices are feminist just because we are women however.

I don't usually bother. Might trim the stragglers if I go swimming. I have a wee pube pruner thing, like a mini hair clippers so use that now & again to keep the length down.
DP couldn't care less and no none else will be seeing it.

"It would look like a 48yo alopecia riddled minge. "

Haha, X Post.

I do the normal bikini line as I go swimming with my son and frankly he does not need to see that.

I pluck the hairs one by one and paste them to my "hair wall". Makes a great talking point.

Never waxed never shaved or trimmed the lady garden. It seems wrong to me.

Ah but BohemianGirl only on MN can we ask these questions. To conduct an opinion poll among down the market on a Saturday may be a bit extreme.
I guess I just wanted to know I was not the only 32 year old who didn't go for a regular wax and also whether anyone kept it a certain way for their partner and whether to tell my partner to bog off if he wants me to tidy up.

The name hollywood may be a name introduced by the media but that doesn't mean those of us choosing that do it because of that influence - I have had it for years - even during a long 6 years of celibacy - for me and probably many, it is irrelevant what a bloke thinks, it is just a personal preference based on what feels nice to me. I think people read too much into these things. Highlighting your hair, whitening your teeth, anything really that deviates from how nature has made you does not in my view, mean I am any less of a feminist - to me a feminist is someone who is strong and makes her own choices.

I'm 28 and shave all but a strip sometimes a little more is left but I always remove the underneath part for me it feels better, more sensitive and I prefer it that way I also know I would prefer to approach a tidy one so I keep myself the same. I think its personal preference really like all hair removal

brunette - how old are you?
I am in my late 40s and for a substantial part of my life nobody gave a sod about pubic hair. In fact I don't think bikini waxing really started till the whole hideous high leg Baywatch swimming costume thing kicked in late 80s.
It is ALL about fashion. And marketing.

Huge foofy 1970s Paul Raymondy beavers are on the way back - mark my words .....
And I'll be ready and waiting with my slightly greying one.

I'm about to start a (no doubt riveting) thread about dying the hair on my head, so I'm no feminist leader on this one [shrug]

I do think that any woman who spends money on hair removal (or hair dye) but has no pension or savings to speak of should consider very carefully what society is telling her are essential expenditures. But that makes me irredeemably bourgeois, not a feminist.

Yep. Whack off the sides if I'm going to be seen in a swimming costume but that's about it. The all off thing is a porn meme, and therefore ick.