To ask how many of you have a 'natural' lady garden?

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I used to sport the landing strip up until I was about 6 months pregnant with ds who is now 2. I stopped shaving as I couldn't see what I was doing, also might sound daft but kind of wanted it to be the way nature intended to give birth.
Since then I haven't shaved, waxed, trimmed etc. I'm not massively hairy so it's not a full on 80s style bush.
DP moaned the other day as he liked it the way I used to have it. . I sort of told him tough luck it's my bits and quite frankly I cba and like not having itchy stubble. He watched our Baby come out of there fgs surely he realises it's not a fashion accessory?
AIBU to not make the effort for dp?

But people, your preference to be smooth is coming from a media created impression that that is "normal" for women. Hence the rush of teenagers to shave wax etc as teenagers want above all else to conform to their perceived group norm.

It is such a pity because once you start to shave, the hair is always coarser afterwards. My mother has never shaved her legs (brunette but fine blonde down only) and I often wonder if I (an actual blonde ffs) would have been the same if I hadn't started as a stupid teenager. It made me feel adult and grown up and in control.

I never went at my bush thank god. A bit of trimming maybe before a beach holiday, that is it.

I would hate to see the trend spread to arms. We're not actually barbie dolls after all...

I have all of the above except the baby

Wiltingfast I totally agree about shaving from an early age makes it become courser and more hairy, I started shaving as a very very young girl due to dancing all on my own accord, infact I remember shaving my lady bits when I was about 9 (I had a about 5 pubes!) with a dry razor even now I grit my teeth when I think of it!!

And one thing I will advise my dd is to not shave as early as I did!

Fucking hell! How patronising!

I prefer to be smooth because I like to feel smooth skin when I touch myself, I don't much like sweat accumulating in my hair and oral sex is a million times better smooth.

I also always had legs like a builder once the hairs came. The hair is no coarser now than it was then.

I also dye my hair, wear make up, bleach my tache and pluck my eyebrows. Fuck all to do with the media really, people have been improving their physical appearance since day dot.

you perform oral sex on yourself?

I absolutely love Botox, why shouldn't i if it makes me happy? In case a 12 year old sees my haggard old face and thinks I want what she has? I very much doubt that is going to happen to be honest, as ace as I am

Working the unfettered 70's vibe here although am not hairy per se.

Always have done.

it is bad for the cause of feminism in general for people to go hairless

So in order to want equality in the workplace and the right to vote, women have to go all natural, no make-up, perfume or hair removal?
What about the men who groom and shave? Are they upsetting the balance too?

This is a hard argument to make when 95% of women think that pubes are disgusting

Really, what are you talking about? I don't think that pubes are disgusting. I don't think any part of my body is disgusting - even the tummy and hairs that sprout around my nipples. They are all part of me and I love and accept my body the way it is. However, I also choose to look after it so it feels better. I exercise (a little), eat well (ish), I wash, look after my hair and shave the body hair because I love the way my skin feels when it is smooth. I use skin creams because it makes my skin feel good.

I don't shave my pubes for how it looks, I shave them for how it feels. It feels physically amazing. The slightest brush of clothing or touch is a joy, oral sex is so much better. Is a feminist allowed to feel such lustful pleasures? It's all about the feel, not the look. Perhaps that is why some people really don't understand.

I'm totally natural down there. Can't be bothered with the up keep! Iv been married for 5 years, one DD and and baby on the way. But to be honest iv always been the same. Luckily I'm not really that hairy!

Having read this thread the other day, I did have to chuckle when reading my local paper I came across a property called "Lady Garden Cottage" - wonder how neat their grass is?!

For those that are completely bald, do you not get friction burns? I once did it in the early stages of a relationship and to be fair we were having sex a lot. I got proper friction burns but then I do have very sensitive skin.
Ps I didn't mean for thread to be so inflammatory. Who knew there is so much feeling over fanny fluff.
I just wanted to know I was not completely alone in my naturalness and whether I should style it the way dp prefers or tell him to like it or lump it.

I'm 32 and single now after coming out of a 7 year relationship and this is something that really worries me!

I generally either wax or veet my bikini line, then trim what's left - I go for a neat triangle... I worry about what everyone else does as I'm scared I'll get down to business with someone new and they'll be shocked I have pubes if no other women have them these days! (I also worry they'll be massively put off by my belly button as it's been an outty since I had DS and 3 operations but I guess that's for another thread)

By the way, I'm well aware that I shouldn't worry about this as it's my body etc, but I'm just being honest about my worries

If your worried about your partners shocked reaction to having pubes, or indeed lack of them, you're with a very shallow man indeed and are best off out if it! Better to know sooner rather than later.

But isn't the thing about shaving, the very worst thing, that no one has told the poor teenagers before they start down this road, that it doesn't stay smooth for more than a day or two. So mostly you're actually going around with stubble.

If I recall correctly in my dating days, I used to actually plan my dehairing around being the most smooth for Saturday night...

I trim with scissors, anything else would be a bloody mission in my eyes. I shaved it once when I was 15 and I had a horrid ingrown hair that I was too afraid to pull out for a while. The itching was unbearable too!

What for anyway? DH couldn't care less what it looks like and I feel the same way about his.

Bradley I'm patronising?? Why!

Sometimes

No itching at all here. I used to get that, but not since I learnt what I was doing.
Use a shaving oil and a good quality blade to avoid it (actually I use silicone lube)

I am rather plump now and with a belly that hangs due to c-section so I haven't seen mine in a while so couldn't tell you what it looked like

Au naturel, but more down to laziness than feminist principles. It gets the occasional trim and the even more occasional tidy round the borders but otherwise it's left to its own devices.

Does the amount of ...... grooming depend on whether you are single and dating or already have a partner?

I am pale with dark hair and PCOS and looks awful and am so aware that a man would see and just run away. Get awful ingrown hairs too. :(

I have pcos as well. Lasering got rid of the hair first time

47 and I might give it a trim with nail scissors before swimming but then again I tend not to these days. If anyone's offended by spiderlegs around my cossie bottom then they shouldn't be looking.

I don't normally remove hair from anywhere else but my face (dark hair, encroaching side tache as I age, it makes me look unwashed unless I tweeze it away) unless it's vital for a part (that makes it sound like I do porno, but sometimes I will get a part as a TOWIE type for example and there's no way I could cheat hairy armpits/legs into that kind of role!). I hate doing it though as I get ingrown hairs and big acne-type spots as a reaction - although recently, like a poster upthread I have started using shaving oil and the spots seem to have stopped. Still not enough to get me shaving regularly, cba.