To have had a go at a woman

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Who had for older children with her, one of whom bashed a loo door into ds 2s head..... She didn't do anything, but then very shallowly said sorry and looked the other way. Ds was in fits of tears. She seemed very unconcerned. I called her on it and said, you dont seem very concerned. she said I have said sorry and I am watching for kids (in the loo). Her attitude was bad! WIBU to have a go at her? I am normally a mind your own business kind of person!

4 not for!!!

How old were her kids?

What did you expect her to do? She apologised (should really have been kid) even if tone wasn't too her liking.

Hope your ds is ok.

honestly - yes

Was it done by accident or on purpose? Maybe she was embarrassed? I don't see what more she could have done than say sorry.

If she said sorry I think you should have left it there, it's not nice when someone hurts your dc but it doesn't sound like it was deliberate.

I would have at least liked her to ask if he was ok! It's what I would have done!

i would have been quite mortified if i managed to make a toddler cry by hitting him with a door and would have apologised profusely so yanbu.

She said sorry and went to keep an eye on her kids. What more do you want?

What was your ds doing by the door that close anyway?

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Exactly, I would have been mortified too! It wasn't just a little cry, it was a full on wail!!

What would you have her do?

She said sorry albeit it not in a tone you found satisfactory.

Hope your lad is okay.

Yes YWBU to have a go at someone because there is a difference between you and her about whether an apology met your standards for visible displays of contrition.

I hope it was the DC who apologised, btw. And these are not circumstances in which I would attempt to refine an unrelated child's manners.

It was just her obvious lack of concern that bothered me. She almost sneered!

Sorry not sure what happened there! I agree she wasn't nice but I don't think "having a go" at her will have improved the situation, she had already shown she wasn't going to show concern for your son so you really should just have concentrated on him not her.

I doubt she almost sneered. She's distracted because she has 4 kids with her. She apologised, you don't think it's enough.

What was your ds doing that close to the door without you by him?

Was it an accident?

Yabu.

She said sorry over a fairly minor incident and then turned away to watch her own kids.

How old were the children with her? I can't imagine she was watching them in the loo if they were teenagers?

If your ds was crying he obviously wasn't ok, so the other women asking if he was would have been a pretty stupid question. With four kids I would think she didn't have the time /ability to do anything other than say sorry. I'm not quite sure what you are expecting her to do whilst trying to control four children? Was your ds standing behind the loo door? If so I think you should also have said sorry, or 'it's ok, my fault' or something similar.

He was close to the door because we were just leaving the loos, hence were approaching the door!

Was your child being a bit of a drama queen though?
Were/are you being a drama queen also?
Was it an accident or deliberate?
How old are children involved?

Drama queen? I've heard it all now. He is 2.

It was an accident. You were going out of the loo, they were coming in, your ds got knocked by an opening door.

You are making a huge deal out of this. Next time don't have him in front of you when there are doors opening.

She probably felt unconcerned because she had 4 children and is used to them hurting themselves occasionally. Children sometimes get bumped into or hurt when out. It's sad your dc cried and I hope he's okay, but a bump on the head isn't a big deal IMO.