To have had a go at a woman

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Who had for older children with her, one of whom bashed a loo door into ds 2s head..... She didn't do anything, but then very shallowly said sorry and looked the other way. Ds was in fits of tears. She seemed very unconcerned. I called her on it and said, you dont seem very concerned. she said I have said sorry and I am watching for kids (in the loo). Her attitude was bad! WIBU to have a go at her? I am normally a mind your own business kind of person!

Totally Agree with you InPursuitOfOblivion. Everyone who does not agree with your point of view is a bully - incredible!

Build a bridge and get over it!

YABU. She said sorry. Your time and attention would have been better spent attending to your crying child instead of having a go at people.

YANBU

A vile woman with a face like a cats bottom trod on my baby at soft play once...she gave the me the most insincere, sneering 'sorry' I have ever heard...I told her so.

InPursuit What I can't grasp though is you say your piece, why harp on with such nastiness towards the OP, or do you get off on harassing people on here? Keyboard warrior springs to mind!

Fair enough to disagree with her and say YABU but why be so nasty and throw in insults?

If you are of a sensitive disposition I really don't think an anonymous Internet forum is for you.

I can't see any MN rule saying only insensitive people are welcome here?

'Harrassing' - really??
The other thing is 'nastiness' seems to be in the eye of the beholder, so to speak. I don't think I've ever really seen anything on AIBU that is really that offensive. I'm sure there are thousands that disagree. It's cool beans, everyone's view is just as valid.

If you are exiting the toilets (not an individual cloakroom), E/W fire regs mean the door has to open outwards.

So if OP was leaving, events cannot have happened as OP described, as he door would open the other way.

It was an accident.She said sorry. She couldnt stay hanging around to check your child as she had 4 of her own to watch.

PistolAnnies - I think you have just lost your argument with that last statement.

As it always the case on AIBU - the original post gets lost in a fight to the death between others. So predictable.

OP if you want a real conversation go on chat.

Sometimes tone is everything, if she said "sorry" in a "bothered?" tone as it seems she may have, I can see why you're annoyed.

Pistol shot yourself in the foot with that last statement really, "ironic" or not.

Pistol your last post puts you in the same camp of poster you profess to despise.

You've let yourself down with that.

hth.

Youstay No, I just don't like bullies and if they're going to throw it out then they should expect to get it back!

Pistol if you're going to "give it back" to posters perhaps try and be a little more eloquent with it rather than just plain old insulting?

i want a burger

This does rather remind me of when I was leaving the swimming pool and on my way to the changing rooms which required opening a door to a small corridor with 2 way traffic - as I pushed the door open on the other side was a mother with 2 small children who strongly berated me for 'almost' knocking over one of her children (in fact her child was unscathed). My initial reaction was incredulity tbh, but when I recovered myself I think I said something like "I'm not telepathic you daft cow"

It may be a little unfair, and perhaps you really had to be there - but your experience does bring this to mind OP. The mother apologised - maybe it could have been more heartfelt, but then perhaps with four children to marshal she had quite a lot on her plate and didn't have the time or energy to gush.

So the boy who knocked her over was what? 5? 15?

Are you there op?

I can't believe the answers you're getting here, OP, YANBU. I know exactly the kind of person you're describing. Empathy and all that, all the people who are saying OP is BU?

As for a 2 year-old being a drama queen after having a door open on their face, I suggest you fucking try it and see who's the drama queen as well!

I think it would have been better if you would have smiled and accepted her apology then cared for your DS. YABU with your reaction to all us experienced mums and grannies who understand about how accidents happen and our part in trying to ensure they don't happen.

I am not a bully, never have been and also can see how hard it must be to take 4 children to the loo. not just 1.

Wedding, what are you on about!!????? The boy was about 9 or 10....

Thank you mythos and old bag.