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Original poster

To have had a go at a woman

173 replies

bordellosboheme · 18/01/2014 15:03

Who had for older children with her, one of whom bashed a loo door into ds 2s head..... She didn't do anything, but then very shallowly said sorry and looked the other way. Ds was in fits of tears. She seemed very unconcerned. I called her on it and said, you dont seem very concerned. she said I have said sorry and I am watching for kids (in the loo). Her attitude was bad! WIBU to have a go at her? I am normally a mind your own business kind of person!

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Pagwatch · 18/01/2014 15:18

I'm sorry your DS was hurt.i hope he is feeling better.

I would forget about it. She may have been rude, or perhaps embaressed, or not realised what happened.

You can't really know but we are always upset when our dc get hurt.

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bordellosboheme · 18/01/2014 15:19

I think it's the situation where you had to be there tbh.

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VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:19

farrow have you really never turned your back for a second only for one of your kids to hurt themselves?

hippo123 · 18/01/2014 15:20

It was an accident, let it go. Don't most people open the door before they get too near it? My 2 year old is a def drama queen, a lot of 2 year olds are. That said I hope he is ok now. Sounds like you both had a bit of a shock, but there's no need to have a go at the other women.

WeddingComingUp · 18/01/2014 15:20

Could you answer some of the questions re childrens ages and if it was an accident or not.

Farrowandbawl · 18/01/2014 15:20

I don't think it is.

Kids get knocked be doors all the time. You are a bit PFB about it all.

PistolAnnies · 18/01/2014 15:21

I don't think you were being unreasonable at all, I would've felt the same but not sure how I would've gone about getting a more sincere apology from her.

This annoys me actually, she clearly should have been more apologetic and maybe asked you if there was anything she could do to help? X

InPursuitOfOblivion · 18/01/2014 15:21

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Farrowandbawl · 18/01/2014 15:21

All the time, but I don't expect anyone else to apologise for it. It would be my own fault for keeping an eye on them.

PistolAnnies · 18/01/2014 15:23

InPursuit way bit harsh wasn't it? Are you guys always so nasty on here? Hmm

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:24

i would at least have told the child i was supervising to be a bit more careful, tbh.

bordellosboheme · 18/01/2014 15:24

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newyearhere · 18/01/2014 15:24

It sounds like she was embarrassed and didn't know what else to say.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:25

OP you're not a 'nutjob', it's normal to be PFB because that is, after all, what they are. unfortunately, you will just have to let it go.

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meditrina · 18/01/2014 15:29

Being a "bully" is rather different to making one insult.

But making that accusation does shed more light than OP perhaps intended.

InPursuitOfOblivion · 18/01/2014 15:29

Just because I speak my mind does not make me a 'bully'!
My assessment of the situation is correct though isn't it?
You've posted on here trying to berate some poor mother for her child's innocent actions.

gertrudetrain · 18/01/2014 15:32

Oh your poor Ds. He's only little Sad

If someone knocked my 2 year old Dd over I'd want them to at least ask if she's ok. I accidentally knocked her off her chair in sainsbury's cafe yesterday & lots of people asked if she was ok and patted me.

The other parent sounded harassed & distracted but she should have made the child apologise. I wouldn't expect to bash someone with a door & not say sorry.

Pagwatch · 18/01/2014 15:32

'nutjob' is rude and unnecessary.

I think as you say op, you ad to be there.

People are assuming it was a bump but if the child ploughed through the door your child could have been hit really hard and you would understandably be upset.

But I think you will never know why she acted as she did o I would [shrug]

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:34

i think nutjob is a bit insensitive though. she should have made her child apologise...

Joules68 · 18/01/2014 15:35

op,i don't see she could do more really

where did the door hit him? did her child try and apologise?

just keep him away next time,toilet doors can be heavy and people don't know if someones on the other side. hope he's ok now

gertrudetrain · 18/01/2014 15:35

Sorry xposted with the nutjob post. That is not v.nice tbh (mh stigma anyone?)

wontletmesignin · 18/01/2014 15:37

I really dont know what you expected her to do.

I know i have sighed a sorry or two to people when my kids have got in the way of somebody usually on the school run, trying to pass the hordes of people.
I would hate to think people think i didnt genuinely mean that sorry.
I am just so fed up of repeating to the kids to watch where they are going, and apologising to people they walk infront of or block off when they randomly stop.

VampyreofTimeandMemory · 18/01/2014 15:37

gertrude people seems to think it's ok to use terms like that as long as they're not using them about someone who actually does suffer with mental ill health Hmm

Littlefish · 18/01/2014 15:37

Bordello - you are obviously upset by this, but your reaction does seem to be out of proportion to the incident, as do your reactions to people's comments on this thread.

I suggest you just leave the thread as you seem to be finding it difficult when people disagree with you.