To be totally hacked off with the bride and groom?

[Sarah2506]

So we are meant to be off to a wedding in Scotland next month. Quite an undertaking as we live in London and have seven month DD, but they are good friends so we booked flights, a non refundable hotel and arranged to drop DD with MIL for the whole weekend as it's a child free wedding. Fine. Actually looking forward to it as first weekend away, yay!

Then today we get an email saying that, 'unfortunately we've had to make the difficult decision to put the wedding back to the autumn. We were struggling to pay for the wedding on time and think it would just be better to delay a few months so that we can save a bit more and do it properly. We hope you understand and can make the rearranged date'.

Is this reasonable? We've paid out 500 quid in flights and hotel which we won't get back. Travel insurance doesn't cover it as it counts as disinclination to travel. The flights can't be changed- or rather they can but it costs as much as buying new ones! I'm on maternity leave, I'm not being paid, I've no desire to travel to Scotland for the weekend anyway and we won't be able to pay out for the rearranged wedding as well. I feel really sad that we might now not be able to go.

AIBU?

DP was going to be best man at a wedding that was cancelled, I think, a fortnight before.

I think an email to them is definitely in order, explaining that you will not be able to attend the wedding as flights were non refundable.

Honestly how bloody rude and cowardly to not just admit that the whole charade is off.

Trainspotting was set in Edinburgh Cara !

Glasgow is great..

Can't advise on Thai massage, though.

Also, Kelvingrove Art Gallery and Museum is well worth a visit. It has quite a mixture of stuff, including modern art. Google it and see if you fancy a visit. It's free, so you can just pop in to see one or two of the 22 galleries.

I agree with the PPs who've suggested their relationship might be on the rocks, who knows. One of my cousins nearly didn't get married as they had doubts, they married & divorced within 3 years.

However much everyone else is inconvenienced you can be sure that this decision hasn't been taken lightly. Cut them some slack and send a nice email saying you understand and hope all is ok.

The truth will out and it could be anything - affair, serious illness of a close family member...

Fair play, February isn't the height of the tourist season in Glasgow

But it will mean prices are lower and it won't be so busy. Kelvingrove Art Gallery should be right up your DH's street.

And in the evenings I'd suggest you take Pumpkin's advice

I agree, make the most of it and go anyway! OK, it might not be your dream destination, but if you can't get your money back, just have a night or two away with your DH and being able to have a long lazy lie in morning sex go shopping and walk around the town and generally just have some couple time.

Oh, and send a nice, but clear e-mail back to the bride and groom, something like "I'm so sorry you've had to postpond, but do understand it must have been a very difficult decision for you. Unfortunately, we can't change or refund our flights and hotel costs, so aren't going to be able to pay out again to come to the delayed wedding, but hope you have a great day and look forward to seeing the wedding photos." they might find there's others in the same boat and haven't thought about other people having already booked flights/hotels.

Glasgow is lovely!

It's also easy to travel with babies and they don't take any extra space or booking. You can bring her on the plane with you on your lap and put a cot in your room so it's easy if you do want to bring her. But hey, a child free weekend is also something to grab with both hands if you get the chance!

I would try to get refund on the flights and hotel by explaining the circumstances, you might be lucky.

But glasgow is fab!

How annoying!

You can still have a lovely weekend though. You'll probably need the break after being back at work. Plus now you can sightsee and you don't have to make small talk to any strange relatives of the couple.

Edinburgh is lovely, but really, there is heaps to do in Glasgow for a weekend, no need to travel outwith Glasgow.

GO! See it as a bonding weekend with your dh before you return to work. Make the best of it. Lazy breakfast, evening meal out, galleries, massage, etc.

I agree this wedding won't happen. A pain for you, but sad all round really. Enjoy Glasgow :)

Oh my god! As someone else said, i am furious on your behalf!

Have a fantastic weekend away of that i am extremely jealous

Don't go to the wedding

Well GOMA in Glasgow is fab, also the Burrell Collection is great and Kelvingrove Gallery.

Some great veggie options - I'd highly recommend Mother India Cafefor Indian tapas, about half are veggie. Probably many others on Byers Road, and fab veggie options at Cail Bruaich on Great Western Road.

I have a great masseuse though not Thai, but can put you in contact. Glasgow city is fab - I don't get in there as much as I should, but my very fussy dd1 rates it as a shopping destination.

Glasgow is a fab place, you could have a fabulous weekend here.

I passed through Glasgow a few months ago and it had great architecture, fabulous bars & loads of restaurants that looked lush. I was off to Dunoon but was definitely gutted I didn't have a few days there. It's booked. It's paid for. GO! You'll have a great time.

Haven't read all the replies but to announce lack of funds and postponing 1 month before would have me thinking they were having problems between the two of them and the money thing was more of an excuse!
I'm sure when I got married the venue, caterers, registrar...in fact all the suppliers wanted final payments more than a month before the actual date.

I would call the hotel and airline and explain the situation and ask if there's any way you can postpone your bookings until the new date. Highly unlikely but if you don't ask you don't get!

Rather than waste the money you've already spent, I'd try and make a weekend away of it for you and DP/H and enjoy!

Also, look on the bright side. This also happened to my parents, but with a family wedding they were due to attend in New Zealand...cue totally unnecessary £8k holiday

I had a weekend in Glasgow a couple of years ago. I wasn't particularly looking forward to it but was going to visit a mate who had moved there.

It is a bloody Amazing city.

Loads to do.

I agree with the others. I think the 'financial difficulties' is face saving excuse for more serious difficulties.

Go visit Glasgow. Have the time with your DH, it could be fab.

I don't think they will lose much actually. It wasn't a big affair and they had some sort of all inclusive package. The payment date was six weeks before wedding which is now. In their defence they are quite sweet and a little naive. They laugh at me and my 'forward planning' and if the situation were reversed would have just rocked up to euston on the day and bought train tickets and stayed in the premier inn. It probably hasn't even occurred to them that anyone would do differently!

It can't be about money, they'd have lost an absolute fortune by cancelling.

I'd be annoyed but first thought would be they are in trouble or that there's some health scare or something.

Go anyway, have a nice time it would be daft not to. Don't write off a city you haven't seen yet. Scotland has some lovely places so I've heard.

Please do try and have some sympathy , it's honestly not as straight forward as the email made out. It can't be.

Modern art exhibitions in Jan/Feb in Glasgow.
http://www.whatsonglasgow.co.uk/listings/gallery-of-modern-art/

There will also be stuff happening at the School of Art:
www.gsa.ac.uk/

Lovely museums/art galleries - Peoples' Palace is full of fascinating details of everyday life; Religious Art museum opposite the cathedral is very multicultural; Kelvingrove is big and Victorian and has fantastic 19th/early 20th cent art; Riverside Museum is new and trendy in fabulous building (tho' I find the displays a bit irritating) and have you been to the Burrell Collection?
For details:
www.glasgowlife.org.uk/museums/pages/home.aspx

There are Rennie Mackintosh interiors and exteriors (though Hill House is closed in winter):
www.gla.ac.uk/hunterian/collections/permanentdisplays/themackintoshhouse/

And Jan/Feb is the time for the world-class Celtic Connections Music Festival in Glasgow: www.celticconnections.com/Pages/default.aspx

Usually, there are good classical concerts, too: www.glasgowconcerthalls.com/

HappyGirlNow - I know... and I have been to Edinburgh loads of times and love it... it is embarrassing but I just always thought Glasgow would be like Edinburgh but worse / rougher. So if Edinburgh had trainspotting, Glasgow would be trainspotting +. I have no reason / excuse / defence for why I thought that. And I was soooo wrong!

sorry, here are missing links:

Modern Art:
www.whatsonglasgow.co.uk/listings/gallery-of-modern-art/

Mackintosh house:
www.gla.ac.uk/hunterian/collections/permanentdisplays/themackintoshhouse/